This has been bugging me recently. Most women who hang out with gay men tend to be ugly, trashy and enormous overcompensating and immature attention seekers who give heterosexual men migraines with their incessant squealing.
Now I can understand if a heterosexual guy is desperate to get laid and tolerates a chick like this for that purpose, but come on.. this is not relevant to gay guys so why do they seem perfectly happy to tolerate it?
2007-09-13 07:48:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Kiki: What tends to be in their 'heart' is stupidity and an overblown need for attention.. that's what I'm talking about, physical attractiveness aside (even though it is usually low), they are still extremely annoying. So why would gay men find that pleasing when heterosexual men would not?
2007-09-13 07:56:33 · update #1
My god...I've noticed this too but never really realized it...maybe they are just too nice and the girls cling to them since they are the only ones who will give them attention?
2007-09-13 07:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Steve 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
First let me say that this has been an observation from people that only see the public and vocal people which makes up less than 1% of the gay community. for instance in the Seattle area there are close to 500,000 LGBT people. Yet only abut 10,000 are visible. by visible I mean they are vocal and demonstrative There are a lot of other LGBT people that you would walk by every day and never know they were LGBT. Of this visible group, most are very young and in some cases very immature. That said: I think you will find the same characteristics in the heterosexual world if you really looked, and for the same reason. Immaturity. This is a human trait not one specific to LGBT. As far as hypocrite the fact you can not see this in the heterosexual world, put you in the same boat, and is like the kettle calling the pot black. I don't demand respect from heterosexual, specifically. I demand respect from everyone and show them the same, even if they don't Be glad to discuss this with you on IM, since I have been in the Gay community for over 2 decades.
2016-05-18 21:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you are talking about straight women who have a few gay guy friends in their repetoire or straight women for whom all their friends are gay guys.
The second group is what I think you are talking about. I have noticed that too. I think these women are avoiding sex. They need to look within themselves to figure out why that is. In the meantime they are the gay boys' servants. If you examine these relationships more closely, you will discover that the boys who hang out with girls like that usually have no other female friends. And she doesn't have any female friends either. This hag will literally serve her boys by being available, both physically and emotionally, 24/7. It's a support system for her boys. She goes where they want to go and is a shoulder for them to cry on when they need one. Sadly, too often, the support is a one way street. But the hag doesn't mind. At first.
Eventually, she wakes up, grows up, and moves on. That's when she stops squealing, starts getting more friends of her own kind, and her rose is in bloom. She becomes a secure, mature, woman.
2007-09-13 13:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by bikerchickjill 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What makes you believe that all heterosexual men can't tolerate these women? Not all men like the same things and that includes different types of women. Some men actually like the loud, ugly, trashy, immature attention seekers because they are more interesting to them than quiet, boring, and attractive women.
2007-09-13 08:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by RoVale 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Obviously you are speaking for yourself, because not ALL heterosexual Men think as you do. Some heterosexual Men have gay brother's too, and they accept their gay brother and their WOMEN friends.
Gay Men enjoy the company of Women, because the Women that they are friends with are not a threat to them. So really, it's not about tolerating, that's what heterosexual men like you seem to lack....tolerance.
"The capacity for getting along with our neighbor depends to a large extent on the capacity for getting along with ourselves. The self-respecting individual will try to be as tolerant of his neighbor's shortcomings as he is of his own." Eric Hoffer.
2007-09-13 08:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by Smahteepanties 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Although I don't agree with some of your assertions, it would seem that gay men would not be looking for the same things in a female that straight men are looking for, so they don't always have to deal with some of the behaviors you mentioned. It's also a great comfort knowing that straight men have to tolerate being with ugly, trashy, enormously overcompensating and immature attention seekers just to have sex. It's just one more reason why it is so much better to be gay. We are never that desperate to get laid and can always find a hot partner whenever we want or need it.
I really feel sorry for all the straight women out there as well that have to deal with you straight guys.
LOL good to be gay.
2007-09-13 07:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋
Simple, Gay men aren't attempting to conquest her.
All negative connotations in your rant aside, it seems to me that the best relationships are those that are of two independent people, with each desiring nothing but companionship from the other.
When one is attempting to "get something" from the other person, be it sex, money, green card, fame, (insert any other here), the other person, though not always right away, senses it, and it creates a hostile environment.
He: "I'm not spending a dime to get laid, all I want is to get some a$s"
She: "I'm not putting out till he spends a decent amount of cash on me, all I want is the cash"
I realize both are ridiculous stereotypes, but stereotypes that are unfortunately present in today's society, true or not.
Is either happy or thinking of the best interest of the other party? NO, Does either get what they essentially want? NO. It's selfish desires expected to be fulfilled by another person, not themself.
Only when we are able to meet our own selfish needs ourselves without trying to "get something" from someone else can we be truly happy, independent, and capable of healthy companionship.
2007-09-13 10:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by Devil's Advocette 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You wouldn't be overgeneralizing there, would you? If these women are so annoying, why does this purported phenomenon bug you at all? Perhaps your second statement best encapsulates why a woman might enjoy spending time with gay men instead of straight men such as yourself.
2007-09-13 07:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Psycho Sexy 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Because they don't find them to be trashy, immature attention seekers. They have no ulterior motives, they actually like being around them. Maybe to gay men the same kind of women you find annoying, they find fun, funny, and interesting.
Maybe you should post this in the gay and lesbian section.
2007-09-13 08:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by Colby 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
um, well i'd have to disagree simply because i have several gay men for friends and i'm not ugly, trashy, or annoying. i get what you mean though, you're thinking of the "fag hag". i guess the reason you can find them around gay men is because they're the only men that will tolerate them (like you said) because they know that there's no potential for a relationship there (normally anyways). the women probably feel like since a gay man can be himself then they get a sense of empowerment from them and act out. it's totally weird. either that or the women you're referring to are actually trannies.
2007-09-13 07:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Not true. I'm a hetrosexual male and I like a lot of girls who I consider average or below average looking. Now, I wouldn't have sexual relations with them, but they still have good personalities and I enjoy their company.
2007-09-13 07:51:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋