Can a man justify the physical abuse of his family, his wife, and children?

Question

Why do some men abuse their wives? What can possibly be a legitimate reason? What more can be done to put these freaks away?

Alcohol, and drugs are no excuse. Those two things are not the reason men/women abuse each other, or their children. The violence is already inside the abuser, alcohol, and drugs are just the means to make folks more comfortable in doing the abuse.

Answer 1

It's all about power and control. Honey if everything that could be done would be done, there would be less of this problem. It is really a sad situation.

I worked in the Public Defender's office, and I saw a woman go to jail because she cut her husband with a box cutter because he was beating the sh** out of her. She had just got home from work (she worked in a warehouse), and still had her work clothes on and work equipment with her in, thank God, because he probably would have broken her nose, or worse killed her, he was punching her repeatedly in the face..... I cried with her when I saw her.

There is no justification for any sort of abuse on a family, regardless of the gender. Both men and women are guilty of it, and stricter laws should be governed to punish the offender.

Answer 2

Domestic violence is [many times] considered a crime against the state. Even if the victim refuses to press charges - the State attorney's office can decide whether or not to go ahead with a case.

There is no justification for physical abuse. Men or women. There is no legitimate reason.

What more can be done? Not turning a blind eye when someone you know is being abused. Don't laugh at jokes that make domestic violence "funny" and acceptable. Voice your opinion on the subject to people you know - the more it becomes unacceptable in society - the easier it is to deal with.

Reporting and public awareness has come a long way in my lifetime.

Answer 3

A lot of times, it's due to alcohol and drug abuse. Both seem to incur a strong rage to others' words and actions.

A stronger rage to if the abuser had been sober, anyway. I'm sure being under the influence diminishes one's sense of how hard they can hit another human being.

I am certainly not saying this is a legitimate reason though. It is wrong to abuse any member of your family.

Answer 4

I think drugs and/or alcohol are involved in a majority of the abuse. Since one is illegal and the other is not, and their use is so common, there is not much you can do about it, except maybe make alcohol illegal again....and that's never going to happen! In any case, abuse seems to be getting more and more common....according to my two daughters who are long time teachers.
Edit: Of course they are not an excuse...but they are often involved. Aggressive behavior is accelerated, but some people are inherently angry and looking for an outlet and need nothing to prod them into abusing another.

Answer 5

There is absolutely no justifying or legitimate reason for any type of abuse. PERIOD. We need to educated families better on a NO Tolerance basis where they would not put themselves in an abusive situation.

Answer 6

Hell yes he does in his own sick mind.
It is his story and He will stick too it until his death.

There is no legitimate reason for anyone to abuse anyone.
The laws will not put the Bastards away.

When their wives jump up in their faces and beat the hell out of the abusive other, the laws will put the wives away.

Mine---He is in a rehabilitation hospital. Has been for 22 years and will live there for the rest of his Sick life !!!! OOH RA

Answer 7

I don't think there is any legal justification for such abuse. The biggest legal problem is the tendency of abused women to not file charges against the abuser because they "love him". Usually if no charges are filed by the abused, no court or legal action can be taken by law enforcement.

Answer 8

No.
Same goes with women physically abuseing the family, which I know a example of, although ALOT more rare.

In a healthy relationship clash of opinion should be respected and talked upon not brought to physical violance.

Answer 9

Abusers justify it in their mind, that is all that matters to them. Usually by blaming the victim ("you made me do this"). Education is probably the best resource. If they don't accept responsibility for thier actions, punishment is useless.

Answer 10

not to play devil's advocate or anything, but what you dont hear about in all these domestic abuse cases is the prolonged humiliation and aggrivation the woman does to the man. Sometimes its very hard to hold back and keep taking this agony in, especialy when the woman has more grivencies to complain about than sand in Nevada.

Suddenly, the man snaps. slaps his wife and breaks down crying about hitting his wife. His wife, on the other hand, now knows how to exploit this man for money and other posesions...vicious cycle.