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Question

How many of you, early in your first pregnancy were so concerned with the health of your child that you took a pregnancy test 2-3 months into pregnancy? Anyone? I haven't but I just want to know if anyone else worried like I am worrying...I have no reason to be overly concerned I am having a very normal pregnancy...no bleeding only the usual mild cramping...but for some reason I am having irrational fears about losing my baby...I am 3 monthd along...is this normal?

Answer 1

every woman reacts differently, so what may seem irrational to one is normal to another. i think your reaction stems from the motherly instinct to protect and nurture. however, you should try not to worry though as you could increase your blood pressure, etc., which is definitely not good for the baby.

good luck & congrats!

Answer 2

No, I have never had a test to check to see if my babies were okay, without there being a real reason behind it. When I was carrying my second child, I had some spotting, in my fifth month. I went to the doctor and was told to lay down for a couple of days. I had no other problems after that. Had I ever been concerned about my babies? Yes, but not to the extent that I worried about it or bugged the doctor to run special tests. I went to all my doctor appointments, and had all the check-ups that were normal for pregnant women. Now, if I were you, I would talk to my doctor about my concerns and see what they said. I never tell a mom that her feelings about her children are wrong. I think it's a good thing to get things checked out, so as to ease your mind. Who's to say that you're wrong? It just might be that you've heard all the scary stories about women misscarrying during their first trimester, which is true. All I can say in the matter is that sometimes it happens, for no apparent reason, and there's nothing you can do about it. If you've followed what your doctor has told you, and it still happens, you have to trust that it was just meant to be. I had a tubal pregnancy, and couldn't understand why I had to lose my baby. But, as it turned out, if the pregnancy HAD been successful, the baby wouldn't have lived, or had been born with severe problems. There's a reason behind everything, even tragedy. There's no reason to believe that your pregnancy will be anything less than wonderful. But, to put your mind to rest, talk to your doctor. Pregnancy is tough enough, without adding unnecessary stress to it. Hope all works out for you and baby. <*)))><

Answer 3

I've never had the urge to take another pregnancy test. Although, I do and have worried about the baby a lot. It has nothing to do with my being healthy, in fact, I am the healthiest I have ever been. I know about irrational fears, but this is just because I have had a miscarriage in the past. Now, being 33 weeks along, I worry more about pre-term labor than I do about miscarriage. It's normal to worry a bit, just not good to stress about it too much. Stay positive, or try to.

Answer 4

Oh yeah that is very normal at least for me... I bled at 10 weeks with my first so that thought was always in my head, but I never did take pregnancy test to see.. You know you are still pregnant because your belly continues to grow and that's why you go to a Dr. to make sure everything is growing like it should be.. Don't worry about losing the baby your just going to stress you and the baby out so just try to stay calm and relax everything will be okay...The cramping is normal and when you get bigger you will have some sharp pains down there that is the ligaments down there stretching to accommodate your little ones growth..

Answer 5

Yeah, it's normal (sadly). With my first pregnancy, I remember being quite worried about the health of my son. It seemed like the more I read about pregnancy, the more I found out about things that could possibly go wrong. I think I may have "overeducated" myself on the whole pregnancy process. I would like to be able to tell you it goes away with subsequent pregnancies - but I can't.....My second pregnancy was twins, so of course, I found a whole new set of problems to worry about. The best advice I can give you is to listen to your doctors when they tell you everything is fine. They are the experts. After all, as long as you're living a healthy lifestyle, there's not much more you can do in the way of ensuring your baby's safety, right?

Answer 6

It is normal to be concerned with your new baby's health. I mean hey, you can't see them and you can't really feel them yet. Try not to worry, just keep doing all things you are supposed to be doing, and not doing the ones you shouldn't be. If you were to take a pregnancy test it would be positive regardless at this point. You could take a pregnancy test 2 days after birth and it would show a positive. Even after you are not actually pregnant, you still have the hormone in your body the pregnancy test is looking for. Relax, and congrats! ***

Answer 7

I think every mom to be has fears at one point or another about the well being of her baby. I never took tests to see if I was still prego, but there were days that I just didn't feel prego and I wasn't really showing that I wondered if he was still ok. I'm 25 weeks now and he is kicking up a storm. So, All is well. Be blessed and try to relax and know that everything will be fine.
Congrats Mama!

Answer 8

well i think it's definately normal. All those hormones rushing around your body. It's pretty overwhelming. I felt very much the same. It just shows how much you care about your little one. Not a bad thing! Try to relax. It's amazing how resilient such a little being is. I have three and they never stop making you worry. Just enjoy it and congratulations. Once you have the baby also beaware that you may have similiar strange thoughts about things happening to your baby. I thought i was going nuts til i spoke to my husband and he felt the same way. Always good to talk if you have concerns. Good work!

Answer 9

I am in my third pregnancy and I can tell you that its not necessary to worry so much. It is however, a very normal thing to do. Do you have prenatal care? A sonogram might ease your mind. Sometimes you can get one around
4 months. Also have you felt the baby move yet? Thats a nice thing to feel because you know he/she is healthy. Skip the test and talk to your doctor about a sonogram.

Answer 10

You will always be concerned, but you are also going to have to let go of your fears. Worrying can also cause nervousness and that is not good for you or the baby. Your baby is in the safest and warmest place right now. Growing and changing into the best part of you and your husband. Just know that everything is going to be alright! God Bless!!

Answer 11

I used to think a lot that I was going to lose my baby. I had a friend who was also pregnant with me. Her due date was 4 days after mine was and she ended up having a miscarriage at 13 weeks. That made me have a lot of issues with worrying about how my baby is doing. But when I got to week 24 I just felt a lot more at peace. It helps too if you read up about what changes and developments are happening from week to week. I think it just makes you feel better knowing exactly what is forming and how much baby is growing every seven days.