Many studies have shown and proven that a missing father or mother in a family has detrimental effects on a child, whether it is male or female. Keep this in mind.
Do you think that a law should be passed creating stipulations by which a child can be adopted? Such as....
1) must have both parents.
2) parents must have healthy relationship
Broken homes are a leading factor in teen crime and gang related activity, not to mention drug use and abuse, suicide, and eventually even homicide.
If these stipulations were in place, do you think it would be better?
This would make it nearly impossible for homosexual couples to adopt kids as well, seeing as how they lack having a healthy family environment. Two women cannot raise a child the way a man and a woman together can, nor can two men. The child will be heavily affected by the lifestyle he is forced to live, which would be just as bad as the above mentioned situations.
What do you think?
2007-09-13 06:07:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
The laws that are in place are awful. Look up what all must be done to adopt a child. It costs an extravagant amount of money to be put on a waiting list! The prices are too much for many people.
On the gay thing. I do not believe that a child should be put into that situation just because its gay parents wanted a kid. If it is not biologically possible to have a kid with the two parents, then they should not have a kid (excluding the whole barren wife and narrow urethra problems). As soon as two women have sex and create a child by themselves, I will be okay with that. Same for the guys.
Im sure you guys will say something like, "the child doesnt say that they want a straight family either!" or something like that...But, it is natural for a man and woman to have a child, so there would be no confusion at all, but when a kid has to grow up and ask...wheres my daddy? ..and two women have to explain that to him....its awful.
2007-09-13 06:52:41 · update #1
not only should we have tougher standards for adoption, we should have tougher standards for anyone who wants children.
Every time I walk around the mall, go to the movies, or drive down the street I see a bunch of kids dressed like thugs and sluts and their parents seem to have no control or concern about how they act.
We wonder why 14 year old girls are getting pregnant, or why boys who haven't even graduated high school can have 2 or 3 kids...well, ask their parents what they did to control it. I'm sick of the fact that my tax dollars are going to the 3rd generation trash of terrible parents who don't know how to take care of their own kids....it all makes me sick.
2007-09-13 06:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
On the other hand it is also shown that having no parents is a lot more detrimental than having one. It is definitely better to be out of the group home with one parent than it is to stay in with none, and since there are so many unadopted children, it would be cruel to limit their chances by stipulating two parents.
I agree that a healthy relationship is needed. One in which the parent(s) are not homophobic would be an important factor, as it is a bad idea to teach children ungrounded and useless fears. Also, someone who throws around the word 'impossible' unjustly would be a big no-no, since that shows great mental instability.
I know of two people who had lesbian parents all their lives. I know that one of these children definitely grew up straight, and I have no knowledge of the other. I will not make assumptions - unlike SOME people.
2007-09-13 06:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by Dharma Nature 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
What difference does it make? The fact of the matter is that those people want to adopt a child who would likely be unwanted by anyone else, included married couples who would likely want to have their own kids biologically. As long as the household is healthy and don't have any issues, what does it matter if they're homosexual or single?
What you stated would be like stating that kids should only be born to married couples. while it would be nice, it's not going to happen in every case.
2007-09-13 06:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by mz_neemarie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What do I think? I think adoption laws are state matters, that each of the 50 states has laws already in place. I think that a child wants a home, he or she wants to feel safe and loved and protected. I think that a single parent can provide a workable atmosphere, or two women in a permanent bond, or two men in a permanent bond. I think that perhaps you haven't given the matter of adoption more tnan a surface glance and that your views reflect a Christian Fundamentalist or rightwing approach to a very real problem in society. I come to this matter as a child of a rape (the rapist was a heterosexual male) whose heterosexual mother abandoned me at age 2. I ached for a home, for someone to love me, for stability and decent food and a warm bed.
2007-09-13 06:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by Yank 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Many gays have a very healthy family environment. Better that a child be adopted by them than for them to remain in a state institution, or to be in an abusive hetero family.
2007-09-13 06:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by sudonym x 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, if they are willing to give an otherwise unwanted child a home, we should let them. Otherwise, most of these kids end up in jails because of neglect.
If any fool can make a child, why can't others adopt them?
2007-09-13 06:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by germaine_87313 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋