I'm gay and I like lean, muscular guys. However, I find some girls physically and aesthetically good looking (those that my straight friends also like) but I don't get turned on by them.
Unlike most gay guys I don't want to have sex with another guy because I find it disgusting, against nature and something I don't fancy.
Does that mean I'm mildly gay or bi? Is sexuality a broad spectrum?
2007-09-13 05:14:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
almost all of my guy friends are gay. and EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM are obsessed with my chest. At first I found it odd, but then I realized they still find girls attractive, It just doesn't turn them on. Just like girls can find other girls attractive but it doesnt' do anything for them. Alot of guys don't fancy having sex with other guys. Actually of all the ones i know, they mainly just like getting head from another guy. so I don't think that you are mildly gay or bi.
I do believe though that sexuality is a broad spectrum because I believe that love is love, and you can't put a gender, race, or religion on it. One moment you could love a girl, and the next a guy.
2007-09-13 05:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by katie p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sexual orientation, IMO, is very much a broad spectrum that is more of a continuum than a range that 'starts here' and 'ends there.' I feel that it is more like a loop and, what's more, where you land on that spectrum may be fairly static, but there is still enough room to be flexible.
I'm also inclined to analyze what you feel that 'gay sex' entails. Since you identify yourself as gay, I'm led to assume that there are some acts that you do enjoy, while other acts don't 'do it for you.' I've met quite a few individuals, male and female - gay and straight, that only find very specific acts enjoyable and there are others who can't truly enjoy themselves without trying out everything.
One thing that I can promise you is this: The more you try to label and define your sexuality, the more frustrated and confused you will become. I highly recommend doing some research on Alfred Kinsey; he had several trains of thought regarding to 'degrees' of sexuality that might help you understand your situation a little bit better.
2007-09-20 10:10:04 · answer #2 · answered by arows1faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sexuality is a broad spectrum & finding someone of your own gender attractive does not make you gay. I'm not sure how you can be turned on by guys & yet find it disgusting & against nature. If it is in your nature, it can't be against nature. It is simply against what society has taught you is normal. I think you are grappling with your sexuality & that is 100% normal. Do not be ashamed of whatever you feel. I have lots of friends that are gay men & many of them never have actual sex, just oral. Good luck!
2007-09-13 06:18:05 · answer #3 · answered by Angela J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, it's a broad spectrum, all right, points on a sliding scale.
You really should resolve your feelings about sex, though, or you're going to go through life without. You're open to sex with girls, but don't get turned on my them, while guys do turn you on but you can't stand the idea of having sex with any of them. At the moment that makes you asexual, not bi. Who do you think about when you masturbate? What do you think about doing? You do realise that cuddling with another guy doesn't necessarily mean anal sex, don't you? There are lots of other ways of expressing affection. Don't close ALL of your doors.
2007-09-19 09:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically no one can be 100% straight or 100% gay since to be either implies perfection and we all know that humans are far from perfect.
So that leaves us with being partly straight and partly gay. As to whether a person is 30% one way and 70% the other or vice versa or any other combination is a matter for the individual to decide. Of course those who are predominantly one way or the other may decides to label themselves as gay or straight but reality is we are all more or less 'bisexual' even if we aren't into the sex side of it all.
Unfortunately too many people choose to apply labels to themselves and then try to live the label. Far better to date people based on their persdonality and interests and find one with whom there is a mutual respect, love, understanding and attraction. Then marry them if they are willing. Once married feel free to check out their gender versus your own and thus determine if you are in a gay or straight relationship.
2007-09-14 01:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Kinsey Institute did a study quite a while ago. They rate sexuality on a 1-6 scale, 1 being totally heterosexual, 6 being hoplessly homosexual. According to the study, nost people fall somewhere in between. very few are either a 1 or a 6.
I personally give myself a 5 but thats just me.
Check out the link. It's quite interesting!
2007-09-13 08:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by ajwheat2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you dont like the idea of sleeping with a guy, but you find that girls dont turn you on?
either you're asexual, or you have yet to discover your sexuality at the moment
sexuality is on a scale.. but thats from gay (likes only same sex) through the differing varieties of bi (90/10 to same, 50/50, 90/10 to opposite etc) to hetero ( likes only opposite sec)
although this bit puzzles me "against nature" you are gay, yet you consider being gay against nature? something doesn't add up there.
2007-09-13 05:19:42 · answer #7 · answered by §ilver 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not bi, since you are not turned on by women. You are not mildly gay - there is no such thing - you are gay. Your personal objections to gay sex demonstrate a deep-seated emotional conflict that you should seriously try to resolve. With all respect, please see a therapist. You have constructed a tortured logic to convince yourself that you are "mildly" gay. You are gay. You may indeed choose to be celibate - that is your choice. But it isn't because you're bisexual, nor is it because you're mildly gay. A conversation about a sexual spectrum plays no part in this.
2007-09-13 07:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by Clint 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"However, I find some girls physically and aesthetically good looking (those that my straight friends also like) but I don't get turned on by them."
because you're a Kinsey 6 homosexual gay man
"against nature "
I can't tell you what to fancy, but this is just plain incorrect. Nature is full of male on male action, it goes against *culture* not *nature*, but we're working on that.
2007-09-13 05:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by vynn555 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sexuality is a broad spectrum with the least amount of people on the extreme ends (completely heterosexual or completely homosexual), and most people coming in somewhere in between. I personally think most people come in somewhere near the middle, more or less, and then the numbers kind of spread out less and less towards the ends.
2007-09-13 05:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋