I am 27, a fairly qualified professional but find that looking for a job now is very difficult. I tried applying for jobs, even lower in level than my previous employment, but I still end up waiting for call back that never came. I am enriching my competency by continuing my masters degree but I feel empty without a regular 9 to 5. (Reason I quit work before was for further studies and a long vacation but now I am ready to be back in the labor force)
I think that I have a great personality and have a lot of friends but am not going out with anyone right now. I haven't been for two years and I miss being in a relationship.
My family and friends are supportive and keeps me happy. Only, I feel that I am letting my family down because I haven't followed through with the fulfillment of the dream I started years back.
I wished at least either one of my career or love life improves, but no luck so far =((
I feel lonely, miserable and lost. Any advice?
2007-09-13 04:40:15 · 13 answers · asked by Wanna 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
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2007-09-13 04:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
All of these items that you discuss are temporary. You will find a job, but you have to realize that taking time off may have hurt you. While a lot of employers these days see it as a good thing, the vast majority are still old-fashioned and view a break in employment as a sign that you may be unreliable. Rewrite your resume / put something in your cover letter as to why you took the time off and how it enriched your life.
As for the relationship, don't rush it. These things need to be natural, and those who get too paranoid about not having someone usually end up settling for the wrong someone.
How can your not following through on YOUR dream be a let down to your family? Live for you; do what makes you happy.
Now, to answer the question, not the details, when I'm down and depressed I will sit in bed and stroke my cat. The sound of the purrs is pure relaxation. I will watch South Park to get something to make me laugh. I will go outside and watch the hummingbirds. I will have a drink. I'll do many things, but in the end it's my own realization that none of this really matters that brings me out of my funk. The only thing that matters is that you are happy. If you aren't identify why and change it. And none of the outside things should have control over your emotions. Until you can be happy with yourself, you can't be happy with anyone else.
2007-09-13 04:54:14 · answer #2 · answered by catsovermen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not getting call backs then you may be putting out the wrong signals. If you are in a place of DESPERATION then that may come through and it could effect your outcomes.
Being DETACHED from the outcome has an amazing effect in terms of your confidence and comfort zone during an interview.
Have you watched the movie "The Secret"? The law of attraction states that what you focus on you get MORE of. So here in your question I see that you are focusing on what you DONT have, rather than what you WANT.
Try and shift your mind to a more bouant place. Try and concect with what it FEELS like to be in a 9-5 job that you enjoy and EXUDE that FEELING where ever you are, what ever you are doing.
Right now, my bet would be that you FEEL like a FAILURE or LESS THAN in some way. This is TOTALLY not TRUE. You are an intelligent person who is dilligent at their studies and who WILL find their way in life after this short interlude.
RELAX into the feeling of getting back in the game. I am sure that it will all come together once you shift your focus.
2007-09-13 05:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You project more than you realize. Your friends and family will stick around and support you no matter how bleak your life seems to you. But people outside of your inner circle can most likely tell that there is something wrong in your life. You have to fix the inner problem before you can fix the outer problem.
Find your center. Imagine that everything in your life is going just how you wanted it too. Flush away all the negative emotions (this is going to be very difficult and you'll have to realize that you will try to sabotage yourself and even friends and family will because humans have an innate reaction of bringing down people who are happier than they are, even if they don't consciously realize it).
Then, when you are content, you will outwardly show more confidence.
Good luck~~
~jaz~
2007-09-13 06:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess your main problem is that you feel nothing goes as you planned. Just try to be reasonable by this "If you make the same things, the same way and in the same place,with the same people and it doesn't work, CHANGE !!"
Try in other place, go to other city, contact new people, find different goals,and try different masters degree . It is going to change you and looking for different goals, your life becomes more rich. Sorry my English is not good but you understand me.
Good Luck!
2007-09-21 03:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by CALAVERITA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realise that true success comes only from working for yourself. If you can't find a job train as a life coach or something.
If you are applying for jobs only apply for ones that are of a higher grade. Employers don't trust anyone going backwards.
2007-09-20 17:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, I know how you feel.
Just try to stay strong and stay on the saddle. I'm sure something will come along sooner or later and the Master's degree will keep you busy.
And just like go out to the pub or something and try to meet people or start a new hobby.
2007-09-13 04:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to remember, that it doesnt' matter what you do, your family will support you and you are not letting them down, you are just in the bridge that takes you to what you will be. Learn from it. Now some wisdom, the Bible, that is helping me through my bridge:
I pray that he would give you, according to his glorious riches, strength in your inner being and power through his Spirit, and that Christ would make his home in your hearts through faith. Then, having been rooted and grounded in love, you will be able to understand, along with all the saints, what is wide, long, high, and deep that is, you will know the love of Christ, which goes far beyond knowledge, and will be filled with all the fullness of God.
Now to the one who can do infinitely more than all we can ask or imagine according to the power that is working among us to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever! Amen. Eph 3.16-21
God will help you through, trust Him. And while you go through that bridge, eat some chocolate that is helpful too! Blessings!
2007-09-13 04:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. stop worrying , things happen in there own time.
2.be happy just because you can.
3.love life and live a life of love.
3.learn to wade. go so easy and steady and sooner or later your life will be back on track.
4.God loves you no matter what.
6.Your family understands that your life is your life and it runs it's own course.
7.read Dr. Wayne Dyers books, like "INSPIRATION " ,"BEING IN BALANCE",or any other book of his, they will renew your soul.
2007-09-13 04:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by nocateman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exact same situation. All I know is to hang in there. I'll be voting Democrat this time around.
2007-09-13 04:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by Handy man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop thinking negative and consider the positive i have a friend whose house is in forclosure her son is a bum her vehicle is repo'd and she just keeps plugging knows things will get better eventually shes awesome
2007-09-20 07:46:13 · answer #11 · answered by kellie r 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋