how do you stop loving? how long does it take to stop loving? when they started abusing me i knew it was wrong but they came into my life as good people then started it. By then i was already attached. If a family member friend or loved one starts abusing you and you can tell they are enjoying it when they do it what is the purpose in that?
2007-09-13 03:39:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
When someone you love abuses you in any way it is very bad! Whoever does it to you doesn't love you. If you love someone, you want to protect them and be nice to them.
As soon as you realize someone is being mean to you-just tell yourself they don't love you and get away from them.
You can report Mental and Physical abuse to the authorities and you will be removed from them (if they are your family) or they will be removed from you. This is a law violation to abuse your children in anyway.
It is also against the law for anyone to abuse anyone. They can receive jail time for this offense!
Love shouldn't hurt--it should be a wonderful feeling!
Anyone who makes fun of someone & belittles them for their own pleasure is not your friend & is sick.
Try to stay away from anyone who makes you feel like you are nothing and not important.
You are someone--you are important & deserve love & admiration from your friends and family.
It takes a while to realize that someone doesn't love you and for you not to still love them for abusing you--but you can do it and set yourself free!! Just keep up your self-esteem!
2007-09-13 03:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by countrywebbarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person is different but you are on the right track by realizing that your relationship is not healthy. Whether it's physical or mental abuse you don't deserve it. True love will feel great. You'll wake up in the morning smiling at the person next to you rather than feeling afraid that this could be 'another day of terror'. You need to get out of the relationship immediately. You will move on. You will meet another person. And... you will feel better. Stay around your freinds and family during the 'break-up' time to keep yourself motivated. Don't fall back into the relationship because you feel the pain of seperation. Remember that no matter what the other person says about changing, they probably won't and can't. Yes, you may love this person but there is a better love out there than what you feel now...
2007-09-13 03:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by confusedsoul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The funny thing about love is....................it's not exclusive.
It sounds like ur dealing with somebody who married into your family or something like that. So u might be stuck with them being around ???
U loved them and then they changed and started hurting you and enjoys it. If it's sexual abuse - you need to speak up to someone who can and will have your back. Like right now.
That abusive person is not worthy of your love and you should put space between you and them. Speak to them only if you have to - and don't even be in the same part of house if you can manage that - and don't be alone with this person.
Send a clear message at all times with your body language - stay away from me.
2007-09-13 04:06:49 · answer #3 · answered by dr311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an abuser is a sick and twisted individual and there is no understanding or rationalizing their behaviour, there is only getting away from it. You've been thru more than one abuser obviously, and it's time you got yourself some therapy because you keep choosing the same type all the time, probably because that is what you know and are comfortable with.....you need to understand why you choose to be abused, and then get past that so you can have healthy relationships.
2007-09-13 03:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REMEMBER YOU can NOT change someone...only GOD can change hearts!!! You must get away from the abuser! The purpose of leaving is for protectin of you and your family. YOu don't have to stop loving. You just need to stop being their punching bag, get out theri way and get out, far away!!!
2007-09-13 03:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think we ever stop loving someone that we have loved
thats what makes the abuse even worse
its a power trip for them
but you have to get away from whoever is doing it
i wish you the best of luck
Ian
2007-09-13 03:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋