I am so sad, I just need to vent..
I've been on my 2nd date with a guy I've met in a club, 3 weeks ago. On anf off we've also been chatting online so I found out many things abt his life. He's from Germany..here for 1 year, with an intership.
He told me among other things that he didn't get along with his parents for a long time. That they lived in a smaller village, were very strict, would ask him to work when other kids were playing, wouldn't let him travel and anything he did wasn't good enough for them..so he was happy to move out to college and get away from them. He says he needed to get away from the village and see more. He says now that he's travelled all over the world etc..that he's getting the masters degree, he says he reconciled with them and they're proud of him. He just visited them a month ago for his sister's wedding.
I am just suprised..didn't picture him as a "wild" thing with such tensions with his parents. He seems on the calmer, patient side, what I see.
2007-09-13 03:31:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I've always was under the impression that a person's relationship with his parents is an indication of potential problems..emotional/detachment/not knwing what parental love is....
the thing is I don't know what a "normal" relationship would be..
2007-09-13 03:41:48 · update #1
It doesn't sound like anything that would really affect your relationship. He comes from a different culture, and it sounds like his lifestyle was a lot different from yours growing up. Fortunately, he sounds like a well-traveled, educated guy now, and it's a great sign of character that he's reconciled with his parents. He's a grown up now, and doesn't sound like he's that wild anymore.
2007-09-13 03:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by sanguis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Germans are satiric because there's lot of pride and his family has high hope for him that's not the same as his and that why he was bumpy heads. His parents can't be that bad if they let him got to another country for college. And why would he be spread smack about his family when he doesn't know you that well. No get to caught up with this guy, take it real ssslllooowww, cause sometime these people want to stay forever in the US
2007-09-13 03:47:17 · answer #2 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I'm missing something. How does his relationship with his parents in Germany have any bearing at all on your relationship with him? Seems to me as though you are trying to make an issue out of absolutely nothing.
2007-09-13 03:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a mature, good guy. For him to reconcile with his parents probably wasn't easy for him. Unless there's something else you've forgotten to mention, it sounds like he's a keeper. Good Luck
2007-09-13 03:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a bit rebellious to me. Parents have every right to expect children to do certain work. Children are to honor their parents. Doesn't he sound a bit rebellious to you?
2007-09-13 03:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by ruthie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds a nice guy, but, he is here on a one year internship? I wouldn't invest too much, he's gone in a year.
2007-09-13 03:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋