im pregnant and i smoke..my doctor is well aware of my smoking and told me not to quit because it could cause stress to myself and the baby.so why do random people think they have the right to tell me i shouldn't smoke? I think i know that already.And i really feel like lashing out at them because its none of their concern.
how do i deal with these people? if my doctor doesnt see this as a concern then they shouldnt either!
2007-09-13 03:05:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
smoking cigarettes is hardly child abuse
enough with the dramatics!
If it was i wouldn't have custody of my four year old (smoked with her perfectly fine) and im sure social serivces would be involved which they never have been and never will..and guess what!.. im not 14 years old please don't talk to me like i am
2007-09-13 03:15:13 · update #1
also dont sit here and cut up my doctor he is a very respectable doctor and you should see all the women who want him as a doctor..line ups out the door at every appointment! Maybe he is just an honest doctor who knows first hand that smoking isnt as bad as everyone makes it out to be!
2007-09-13 03:16:59 · update #2
"Yea i mean whats the big deal..
YOur baby is just going to be underweight, unhealthy, weak and is going to have problems for a long time.
BUt if you feel that a cigarette is more important than your baby then you're more immature than i thought.
HOw can you be so selfish??
YOu don't deserve to have a baby"
My first child was born 7lbs 5 oz 2 weeks overdue and healthier then many newborns in that hospital.To post a repsonse like that i would question your maturity!
2007-09-13 03:19:15 · update #3
and for the people with their negative comments...i guess i should of added that unless you have some kind of experience get lost!!
2007-09-13 03:22:56 · update #4
When i myself was pregnant my doctor also told me not to quit smoking!!! Yeah yeah we all know what ppl say and believe about smoking while your pregnant, well not in my case!! my son was born a week late AND he was 8lbs 2oz now please tell me that he was under weight due to my smoking!!! Every mother that i know of that smoked while they were pregnant none of thier babies are under weight.... but the ones i do know that quit smoking ended up having under weight babies!!! Things keep changing... one day its ok to do something when you are pregnant... like 30 years ago it was ok to drink a beer a day while you were pregnant but today its not... right. Well a few years ago it was the worst to smoke while pregnant... guess what times change doctors have now realized that the babies go through the stress and withdraws just like the mothers which causes more harm then actually smoking... I think people need to mind thier own buisness when it comes to telling you that your hurting your baby when they are not as well informed as most doctors now a days... Anyways yes as smoking may be bad for your health and the baby, 95% of the time quitting ends up being worse for the baby. And for those who say she needs to get a new doctor... maybe YOU should be the one to get a new doctor... since yours isnt up to date like ours are!!! And it is NOT and i repeat NOT being selfish to keep smoking while pregnant its actually pretty smart! And for those who make comments to you on the street just tell them to get a life and worry about themselves and not you!
2007-09-13 07:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by felicia p 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In today's society everyone's always talking about living a healthy lifestyle and what not. Smoking is bad period, that's what we're told and it's just common knowledge that it can also effect an unborn infant just as much as the person smoking. There's no way of telling what exactly will happen but why risk it? I was a smoker too but quit as soon as I found out, it was like an instinct. I had no choice. I hope you've at least tried to cut down, that'd be wise for the both of you. God Bless.
2007-09-13 11:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by Darling 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you came in here for people's opinions and don't people have the right to speak their mind whether or not they agree or disagree with you smoking while pregnant.. I mean people like me see people like you who smoke while pregnant and wish that we could get pregnant and you are smoking while pregnant.. Why do you get to be pregnant and not us.. I think a lot of people just say to themselves why don't they care about their baby enough to quit smoking.. I have smoked before but not much and I know people get addicted to it and I do agree with your Dr. that it is probably not healthy to just go cold turkey and stop because it will put stress on you and the baby.. Maybe you could at least try to cut back a little just because the Dr. says you shouldn't quit.. I agree with you having a baby 7lbs is a pretty healthy baby but what about the future you don't know until the child gets a little older for sure if the smoking had any affects on them.. I'm against smoking while pregnant but I understand why it is so hard to quit you have to be ready to do it for yourself or for your baby... Don't want this to sound like I'm disrespecting you cause I'm not.. I just wouldn't do it if I could ever get pregnant again that's all.. Everyone is different in this world and that's their choice...
2007-09-13 14:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by friend 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We all know the risks of smoking. We have been taught this starting in kindergarten. Yet, people still smoke and die of smoking related disease.
The reason people are such hard a$$es about it is that people only want the best for your baby. They feel that there are so many uncontrollable variables to pregnancy that risk the health of your child that this is one variable that you can control. I understand that you're not smoking crack or getting drunk, but smoking is hard to quit and like you said, you had a health baby before. Every pregnancy is different and others want you to rethink your decision to smoke.
We all know someone that has had a problem pregnancy or complications after birth, and I guess that others want to express their concern.
Best of luck with your decision.
2007-09-13 10:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by dpjejj 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When a woman is pregnant, everyone else around her suddenly become prenatal experts. That's just the way life is sometimes. Although I highly disagree with your doctor, he's YOUR doctor and he knows your situation more than any of us. I'm sure you're incredibly educated on the risks of smoking during pregnancy, so there's no need for any kind of negative banter.
"Why do people feel like they have the right to tell me I shouldn't smoke?" - Well, because there's freedom of speech. Not alot too it more than that. lol Just like you have the freedom of speech to tell them to mind their own business. Try to understand though that they know NOTHING about your situation and only care about the baby in relation to their own beliefs about smoking.
"How do I deal with these people?" - Try you're best to smile and say something like "Thanks. I'll take that into consideration.", then just simply walk away. They got to stand on their soapbox for a few seconds and should probably leave you alone afterwards..... until the next person comes along anyway. lol You could always be complete a** and just take a nice long drag off your cigarette and blow the smoke in their face. That's not very nice nor mature though.....
2007-09-13 10:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I'm glad somebody said! Today is actually my due date, and I have smoked since the beginning of my pregnancy. So far, everything seems to be just fine. During pregnancy there are already so many things that aren't good for your baby, but I don't that that is anyone's business but my own. There have been so many things that I have told my mother that aren't good for pregnant women and he response is always the same: "I have no idea how we all survived!." Her point being that everyday something new is discovered that isn't good for pregnant women its a surprise that we all made it when car seats weren't invented, when women actually ate rare meat during pregnancy, when caffeine and tobacco weren't known to be harmful, so on and so forth. But you know what?? WE ALL MADE IT!! I already feel guilty enough about my smoking, but that is MY problem! What I have done is politely told people that I appreciate their concern, but I would rather not talk about it with them. Just remember, you are NOT the first woman to smoke while pregnant. As for your doctor, I have also heard that at a certain point in pregnancy, quitting is not a good idea because of the baby going through withdrawl. My doctor didn't tell me this but after a certain point he stopped asking if I have quit, and I appreciated that. You know its funny, a lot of these same people are probably the same people that are pro life, too. So they think they have the right to tell you that you shouldn't have an abortion, and now that you can't smoke. When did we start letting strangers run our lives!? For those that have quit smoking while pregnant... a BIG congrats to you!!! But as for the rest of us, get off of our backs and run your own life!
2007-09-13 10:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by chispa 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
first of all, if you ask a contraversial question, expect to get answers you don't like. if you don't like honesty, then don't ask.
secondly, we ALL know the dangers of smoking and in some states, they are now passing laws that second hand smoke IS child abuse. children who are exposed to second hand smoke are more likely to have breathing problems and increased ear infections. it's a PROVEN fact.
lastly, a 7 lb 5 oz baby isn't that big considering you were 2 weeks overdue.
as for experience, that i do have. i smoked prior to having my first child. quit cold turkey when i found out i was pregnant. picked it back up after his birth but did NOT smoke in the house or around him. same with my second but have been cigarette free since.
if you don't like what people have to say, just walk away. you have that freedom but if it bothers you so much, you must know there is some truth to it.
2007-09-13 10:55:51 · answer #7 · answered by Amy 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Why are you fighting for this so much if you feel nothing is wrong with it? I haven't even read others' responses yet and I can tell you yourself has an issue with this smoking while pregnant thing. Face it, deep down, you KNOW you wish you didn't smoke while you were pregnant and if it were easy to quit you probably would. You wouldn't be defending it so hard otherwise.
And my mom smoked with all seven of her pregnancies. None of us were under weight, slow or have asthma. But you know the risk you take.
Congratulations on the new edition, none the less
2007-09-13 10:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
"No Doctor in his right mind would tell you NOT to quit..."?
Um, I beg to differ. Yes a docotr will occasionally tell a pregnant mother not to quit if he feels the stress would cause more damage than the smoking.
The stress on your body of quitting can cause you to have a miscarriage. If your dr. says you can continue smoking, then he knows the risks to your baby and is willing to have you continue rather than miscarry your baby.
As for dealing with the strangers who get onto you to quit you're harning your baby...Understand that it has become widely known what the affects of smoking have on an unborn infant. Although you are taking it as rude (and I'm sure not all of them are nice about it) People are concerned about your baby.
In your case, You have your dr's permission to continue, so don't take the stranger's comments personally. When a comment is made simply say
"thank you for your concern, but that's between my dr. and me."
2007-09-13 10:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by EvArtD 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
im not sure why your doctor is not concerned with this....it actually blows me away that he told you not to quit because of the risk. i smoked since i was 16, im 22 now and i cold turkeyed but i am very paranoid about the health of my child. its not as hard as people make it out to be. i replaced ciggs with pretzels or some other low fat something i could put between my fingers....here are the risk you are taking by smoking.
http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/smokingpregnanc/a/aa111998.htm
but hey, its your baby, no one elses so do what floats your boat
2007-09-13 10:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by 2/08 is the due date! 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋