I love my boyfriend, but I dont know if I should move in with him. We found someplace and decided to move 2 days from now but I am so confused, I cant decide if I want to move or not.
2007-09-13 02:14:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I talked to him and he says that I made him go this far and now I want to back out on him. He donts wamt to talk to me now cause he was all excited and I hurt his joy. And now this doesnt feel right at all I feel sad and angry that I am feeling confused in the first place.
2007-09-13 02:38:33 · update #1
Don't do it. Don't give up your freedom. I have been in your situation a few times and made the wrong choice. I am giving you the advice of experience. Wait until you decide to marry, then if that becomes a decision, then wait until you marry to set up a home together. Believe me on this! Good Luck! :o)
I've even read statistics on this situation saying that there is a higher percentage of relationships that break-up later if and when couples ever do marry after living together. There are so many negatives involved with living together once you make that leap.
2007-09-13 02:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then marry him, not shack up. If not, then keep things as they are. You don't sound like you're ready for a big commitment of any kind. Men only want to live together to be able to get some whenever they feel like it, without the permanent commitment of marriage. They like to sell it to you as some "big step" towards marriage, but it's really not. Have enough love and respect for YOURSELF to expect only the very best treatment from your man. You deserve better than this.
2007-09-13 02:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by hottiecj *~♥~*~♥~* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how old are you? Secondly, how does your family feel about it? Thirdly (is that a word?), if you have doubts maybe you aren't ready. And fourth, just because you found a place and you love him doesn't mean you HVE to commit to this right now. Maybe you need more time and IF he truly loves you he will understand that. Good luck!
2007-09-13 02:23:03 · answer #3 · answered by AKA FrogButt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you're even asking this question means that you are not 100% ready.. and let me tell you, you don't want to do something this big only to regret it later on..
Once again, communication is the the best solution here.. Share your worries with your boyfriend, and if he's wise and loves you that much, he won't want to push you to do something you are not completely sure you want to do..
Best of luck to you
2007-09-13 02:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by hedZy ♀ The Dancing Banana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubts, perhaps it would be wise to postpone the move. Moving in together is just as much of a commitment as getting married, IMO.
2007-09-13 02:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by Veruca Salt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your not ready if your having second thoughts, but moving in with your significant other can be hard beacuase i guess your used to livng by your self or with your parents.
2007-09-13 02:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to do it, don't let him make you move in. Don't let him make you feel guilty. You have a right to choose where you live. And besides, you already promised to marry me, remember?
-Skrdude8389
2007-09-13 02:52:15 · answer #7 · answered by skrdude8389 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will regret it if you do it. Because otherwise, you wouldn't feel like this. Trust me. Do not move in with him YET.
Good luck.
2007-09-13 02:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't do it. it doesn't mean you have to break up with him but I wouldn't move in with him in the state you're in
2007-09-13 02:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by Danielle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If in doubt, don't do it.
2007-09-13 02:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by barbwire 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋