My boyfriend broke up with me half a year ago. I am trying to move on but I don't want to. I have tried to move on but he always stopped me but now I told him I must move on but at the same time I worry to make the right decision? Should I tell him to have no contact for 6 months and then meet to see how we feel or should I break no contact for good? I am worried though that if I do that, we will never be able to be together again? I am so scared to know what is the right decision?
2007-09-13 01:43:20 · 19 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What the heck are you scared of?
The right decision here is the one that makes you feel better in the long run. It's been six months and I don't get the sense you're feeling better.
Time to do something different.
2007-09-13 01:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He broke up with you.....you do need to move on....why allow him to make the decision if you will be together or not? It sounds like he was the one that wanted out of the relationship...but doesn't want you to move on and meet someone else. Don't plan to meet up with him in 6 months...that is ridiculous. Dump him for good so you can move on with your life and meet someone who will love and respect you.
2007-09-13 08:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what any of us type - it won't make it easier for you. When someone breaks your heart it is a long time to heal and in some ways you will always feel a bit of pain over this guy. The problem is not if you should move on or not, deep inside you know that you probably should - the problem is how do you move on. Your heart wants to hold out hope and your mind thinks of ways to bring him back. My advice (and I am probably much older than you) is to let yourself open up to new people. Force yourself to be in situations where you allow yourself to flirt, find interest in and be interesting to others. It won't be long before someone else is making you feel appreciated and loved and letting go of your ex will be much, much easier. Your inner voice has to allow yourself to expose your heart to others - it's that simple.
2007-09-13 09:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by zoomer602 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really the best thing is to try to put this behind you and forget him. Not easy of course. But don't waste your life. With an open mind you could meet someone great tomorrow. You may like most people have several more relationships before you settle. There is no one perfect person for anyone.
2007-09-13 08:50:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut all ties with him. He has made it clear that he isn't ready for a commitment with you, so let it go. It sounds as if he wants to go out with other people and keep you hanging on to him, just in case something doesn't work out.
Change your phone number(s), stay away from him, and start meeting new men.
One of two things will happen...either he will realize how much he cared for you or he'll let you go and you will move on and find someone else.
Good luck to you!
2007-09-13 08:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by vixen312 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just have no contact with him for a while, a month or 2 worked for me. you will feel totally different about eachother then and who knows you could be seeing someone else!
remember that there was a reason the 2 of you split up and stick to your guns. you weren't meant to be together or you would still be together now.
2007-09-13 09:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wanted to be with you, he would be. Why are you still holding out hope for him? He doesn't want you, and that's ok. It happens to everyone. You're making yourself miserable by continuing this illusion that someday you'll get back together. I'm not saying it may not happen, but let it happen on it's own, instead of forcing it. Concentrate on you and your life. Concentrate on doing things to better your well being. There's a million people out there who don't have to be convinced to spend time with you.
2007-09-13 08:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take some time of and take a look long hard look and this relationship
answer these questions
is it worth it?
why DONT you want to move on from him?
is it you or him with the problem?
i cannot really answer you question in detail unless you post extra edit details of why you are trying to have a break from him etc
2007-09-13 09:15:40 · answer #8 · answered by Perfectionist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop fooling around. This isn't going to work because there is no committment to trying from either of you. Clean break it and find a new answer to your dreams. The right man will be out there you just need to be ready for him when he shows up. Having a relationship just to have one is only going to impede the good one that is waiting for you.
2007-09-13 08:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by msqtech 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would get on with things. if in 6 months he gets in touch then you no it is meant to be 4 you 2 to be together, he cant stop you from moving on its up to you. your just letting him stop you. there is only one way of finding out.
2007-09-13 09:22:29 · answer #10 · answered by sharon jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋