She is going to be 15 soon. Is this ok?
2007-09-13 00:40:48 · 27 answers · asked by ego_of_darkness 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm the almost 15 year old girl. I'll be 15 next month. He just turned 17. We are both homeschooled and we met in camp. We live 10 minutes from eachother. We are really good friends, but I want it to be a little more than that. He is very matured, but animated. He's a really good guy.
2007-09-13 01:55:06 · update #1
I don't see anything wrong with it,but first off let him know that no sex will be involved under no circumstances, and that if he does start something you need to report it immediatley to your parents or other authroities,but I wish you good luck just be very careful okay.
2007-09-13 05:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since this isn't the mid-1800's, I would say no. It is wrong in this day and age for two simple reasons according to law. One, you are too young and two if anything untoward were to happen he would be spending his life in either juvenile hall or jail. You are both very young, but if you cannot wait three more years, you will be in that much trouble that much sooner. You don't graduate from high school until you are 18, so why cannot you wait for future pleasures until you are 18? Most every story you read; and I am sure you have read a few; talks about how the girl thinks that if she had waited things would have been better. No matter how much pressure the boy put on her, waiting should have meant more. However, in my opinion, most girls today look at those stories as bunk until it happens to them, then it is OMG, I should have waited!
2007-09-13 07:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are legal issues. There is at least one case of a 17 yo (just) having sex with a 14 yo (almost 15). There were about 28 months between them. He's now a registered sex-offender for life. Horribly unfair to him.
If she is really mature, and he's just over 17, it might be ok, but it is definitely pushing the limit. In 2-3 years, the answer changes, but right now, it's iffy.
2007-09-13 07:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by ianmacpherson55 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'd be really careful, I don't wanna sound like an old grandma but you don't really realise what you want in life, or in a relationship until you're like 20, and I'm damn serious. I'm 21 next week and I'm still figuring it all out.
Your situation is a bit messy, but...I wouldn't. I'm not saying all guys in their late teens want sex, but like he probably will at some stage, so if you get together don't be shy to say no, after all it's your body, and you do what the hell you like with it. lol Just telling you right now - Most older dudes LOVE young teenage girls for the wrong reasons. Yeah not cool, but it's reality. (Not saying all you guys are like that btw, so don't hate me, but like I have many male friends and I've heard my fair share, lol)
The age difference wouldn't be so big normally, once you're out of high school you'll see how everyone evens out, but when you're still a teenager even a years difference in age can make a really big difference and make things difficult.
Just be really careful if you decide to go on. Make sure you want to be with him for the right reasons, and make sure that he wants you for the same.
2007-09-13 19:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Katina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the gap is a bit big and could give rise to pressure and other issues. It depends how "soon" she will be 15 and when he turned 17. Also depending on where you live, if the law of consent is 16 then sex is illegal.
2007-09-13 07:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, beacuse no one can conquer your love to a person. If you really love her then you love her. Even though people around you is not ok for your relationship. I understand your situation i am 13 and i have an 17-year old boyfriend. They say that age doesn't matter when it comes to love someone. Like your family, your love of your parents. but i tell you what she is so young for you. Think about it! Be careful of what you wished for!
2007-09-13 07:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by wooyt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing on a 17 year old boys mind is getting sex from girls. If you don't mind her getting pregnant and you being stuck with raising a child fathered out of the bonds of marriage from a hormonal crazed boy. But if you do mind I would forbid it, and help her redirect her feelings or you could end up a Grammy sooner then you hoped.
2007-09-13 08:28:47 · answer #7 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I would say it's okay, but then I am not her mother. I would say it's okay because you are both teens and I assume, both still at school. There's nothing wrong with being friends, but I would ensure that it stayed that for the moment. Introducing a sexual relationship would be too soon for everyone's comfort.
2007-09-13 07:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No problems as long as there's no sex involved. Basically you're talking about a 2 year difference, with similar backgrounds. Go for it. The older you get, the less of a difference 2 years represents. Good luck.
2007-09-13 11:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure, just as long as you don't get to involved sexually. The maturaty levels are going to be different. 17 years vs. 14 . He might have other plans if you get together while you have different plans. So take it slow. And don't rush.
2007-09-13 09:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋