How did they?
What age were you?
Did it affect your life or view of it?
Did you learn anything from it?
2007-09-12 21:21:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
First person to disappoint me was my friend, well I thought he was my friend...I was 11 or 12, in middleschool, he spread so many lie's and stories about me, everyone seemed to believe those stories and middleschool was the worste time in my life so far, it was 3 years of absolute hell. My life was affected as my self confidence was utterly shattered, I could not make friends, I could not talk to women, but luckly I moved from that horrible place to a new state, I got to start all over with real friends, and it took all of highschool to get my past out of my head. I learned patience, and that people love to kick you when you are down as it makes them feel better. I have a very high tolerance level now, I dont get angry very easily and other things as well, but it is something I wish I could have done without.
2007-09-12 21:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by applebeer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first person who disappointed me in my life was my mother. I was 16, very naive (this is in 1970's) she didn't tell me about contraception and we were'nt taught in school, she knew I was having sex but said nothing. When I got pregnant I was given no support but told to marry him. He was abusive and made my life hell for a long time. My mother was, and still is a weak person but this has ulimately made me stronger, she stayed with my abusive father because she didn't have the strength to leave. It took me a long time but one day I looked at myself and realised thay I was heading the same way. So I got some education, trained for a career and left him. Looking back now I realise that my mother did the very best she could with her failings;that none of us is perfect and generally we all do what we believe is best for our children. Having grown up children myself I realise how difficult it can be. Mum and I get on O.K. now and I stopped blaming her a long time ago. At the end, we are all responsible for our own lives, no matter who let us down or helped us along the way.
2007-09-12 21:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by the truth has set me free 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The first person in my life that disappointed me was my mother.
She cheated on my dad, then kicked me out and tried to send my dad to jail
I was 13 years old
It did affect my life, I was in a state of ignorance almost and then I was forced into reality so I decided that life was always going to be rough so I may aswell be happy all the time when it's not. And now people say I'm too happy
2007-09-12 21:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first person to really disappoint me was...me!
When I was 8 my old man expected me to be the fastest, strongest and cleverest at school and told me there were "no prizes for coming second." I tried really hard but couldn't measure up to his expectations. He was my hero (at the time) and so I hated myself for "being so hopeless." It took years to forgive myself. Now I've learned that he was just a cretin, and have found that I am up to any task as long as I'm not pestered continually like he used to do. I left home when I was 14! I have since discovered that he wasn't exactly an "over achiever" when he was my age either. Sheesh! Parents need to learn never to push their kids harder than they would (or should) push themselves.
2007-09-12 21:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Amon Ra 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
True maturity comes with realising that there will ALWAYS be disappointments in life, and that to stay emotionally healthy, we ALL have to learn to just get over them!
What is the use of dwelling on things we can not change? Instead we learn from them and move on--that includes tucking those earlier disappointments away in storage. Yes, we can never actually FORGET them, but we CAN stop letting the disappointment from them rule our lives NOW!!
2007-09-13 01:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Susie Q 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
My mother. When I was 8 I was sexually molested by an old man who taught me the piano. I tried to tell my mother what he'd done, and she refused to believe me. She said I must have made up the story, because he was "such a nice man". Even when I was in my 20's, and the subject of this came up again, I told her straight out that he had done this to me, and she still refused to believe it. From that time onwards, I never trusted my mother's opinion on any subject. I always saw her as a total hypocrite.
What I learnt from it, was that when I had children of my own, I cherished and loved them totally, and if anyone hurt them, I protected them like a mother lioness. How any mother could have been like mine was, and is still, a mystery to me.
2007-09-13 01:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Stella 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow such a deep question this early
i guess i would have to say my father or better said the man who planted my seed. my first memories are of being used as a punching bag . they pretty much stayed the same until i left home at 16. later in life we came to terms with things but i never forgot my disappointment i felt in him
2007-09-13 03:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first guy I 'fell in love' with. Told me much later in the relationship that he was married with 2 kids!!. He said he was going to leave them and marry me. I told him to 'go get you know whated' What a b*****d fancy doing that to a wife and 2 little kids. I figured if he did it once he can do again. Not to me mate!!!!.
I thought all men were b****ds after that and I should just take them for everything I could. I was quite a nasty b**tch for a few years after that.
I eventually learnt that was not true and have been married for 22 1/2 years to a man who really loves me.
2007-09-12 23:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gosh i do no longer comprehend. i will continuously harbor resentment and anger for my father at lots of the flaws he's performed, yet i like him. So, in a manner, I fairly have moved on. this is humorous you asked this question, right this moment, somebody who has harm me countless circumstances, intentionally, I could physique of recommendations. and that i'm terrified as to what's going to happen. yet i comprehend that once I do this, i would be waiting to go on, even however I choose i could hate them, because of the fact i comprehend I could forgive this woman for what she's achieved to me.
2016-10-04 12:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father.
From as early as I can remember.
He would compulsively lie to me over everything imaginable!
I learned at an early age not to trust men. When I married my husband I ended up punishing him for my fathers crimes. It's been 16 years and I still have difficulty with trust! I just can't seem to get over it....
2007-09-12 21:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋