I am 33 weeks pregnant.My husband don't act the same with me anymore he use to always want to have sex no he don't even bother trying,I will ask if we could have sex tonight and he tells me yeah baby if you want to but when its time for bed i`ll ask if we are going to do anything and he tells be he is to tired .....he is making me think something is wrong with me ...is it me being pregnant?
2007-09-12 19:26:12 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Highly doubtful it has anything to with your appearance.
Personally, I think the explanation about hurting the baby or touching the baby is oversimplified. Guys should have a better understanding than that.
I think it's a good sign. He's maturing as a man / husband and becoming a father. Suddenly sex is much more serious, more meaningful than it used to be and he's working through all that.
For men, the motivation for sex is more about self-gratification than anything else. If he truly loves you then it becomes more while you're doing it but that's still the primary motivator. He's about to have a child, maybe a girl, and that's causing him to understand that sex is much more serious and valuable than he realized. You're no longer just his hot babe, you're the mother of his child and he's becoming a father. (But you're still his hot babe as well :o) )
I think it's a good thing and it's part of the growth experience that's going to make him love you and bond with you for life. It's what keeps couples together through aging, weight gain, sickness etc.
You are the one who needs the attention and understanding right now but it may benefit you to appreciate him for what he's going through. You, as a couple, don't need sex to express your love for each other. This is a great time to experience that.
"The two become one flesh. This is a profound mystery."
May God continue to bless you and your family.
2007-09-20 09:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by SolaFide 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys have that reaction, its perfectly normal. Its like they think the baby is going to move or feel it or reach down and grab them, LOL, seriously :| . Men are the strangest creatures. Just try lying on your side with your back to his front, and see if that will work. Also remind him that there is 6 weeks postpartum recovery and he better get it while he can! I'm sure his tune will change in a hurry, and also remind him that although it is not your intention, that he is going to feel a little neglected once the baby comes, because you won't even have time for yourself then and you are going to be grouchy and sleep deprived from getting up at all hours of the night to care for the baby. You both need to enjoy what little time you have left before the birth to spend as much quality mommy-and-daddy time as you can together. Congrats!
2007-09-20 06:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a pretty similar situation. I am 35 weeks pregnant, and had sex recently the other night. I ended up bleeding because my fiance' nicked my cervix, I went into labor and delivery and they said that everything was absolutely fine. When your cervix begins to soften and flat then you can bleed by doing tedious activities such as sex. Now my fiance will not have sex with me...its like hes scared. Your husband could be scared because you are pregnant, worried about hurting the baby and even hurting you. Nothing is wrong with you!! You are still his beautiful-loving-perfect wife. Since you are so close to delivery time he may feel anxious and nervous about having sex. Talk to him about it. Express your feelings, its the only way that he will know what is bugging you so he can really listen. Good Luck.
2007-09-12 23:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya you normally do have a better intercourse force than him. My intercourse force is far better than my fiances given that I had been pregnant so dont fear. Your now not on my own. I have learn plenty approximately a mans factor of view approximately being pregnant and their brain does a whole shift. He might be feeling extra like a daddy than a lover. He might also believe a bit of of strain with a child at the method. If you may have a open communique inform him the way in which you believe. If not anything alterations, matters will return to typical a couple of months once you supply. I wager it is only guidance for while you bodily CANT have intercourse for the ones 6 weeks. Good good fortune:):)
2016-09-05 12:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had a baby my son is 4 months old and from the time I got pregnant my husband did not want to touch me. I use to cry all the time because I felt he was not attracted to me and I would complain to him all the time and it would turn into fights. He would cuddle and talk to the baby but he swore he was going to hurt the baby. I even had my doctor write me a prescription for sex. He took it as a joke but I was dead serious. Then one night he was like fine if it would shut you up and he could not even get hard. It was such a mental thing for him. So I swore my sex life was over forever but it is back to normal and I now find myself turning him down because he wants it all the time. But he really thought he will hurt the baby and there was no changing his mind.
2007-09-20 09:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by My Three 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even though he has heard that there is no chance the baby will feel anything, the thought probably still freaks him out a little bit. Don't worry its not you, its just he doesn't want to feel like he is hurting the baby in any way and he is probably worried about your discomfort too.
Im sure once you are able to have sex again after the baby is here he will be the same.
2007-09-12 19:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by Corbin's Mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I dealt with the same thing. It may have a lot to do with his fears of hurting the baby. He sees you and the baby as these two delicate precious people to him and he doesnt want to hurt you two. Let along make you go into labor. Or he may really be wiped out with all the anxiety about the new baby coming. Try helping come to ease. Read up! Try someething different that may please both of you. Its okay for you guys to have sex unless yor doctor has told you differently!
2007-09-20 10:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by Beauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably just worried that he'll hurt you. You 33 weeks now and during this time your tummy tends to inflate rapidly. Now the reality of the baby is apon you as you can see the bump, the fact that your so close to your delivery may make him feel a little uneasy with having intercourse with you. My advice to you is to sit down and ask him why, But I wouldn't worry too much about it, congrats on your pregnancy!
2007-09-20 05:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by sarahdd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband wouldn't have sex with me either. He was terrified of hurting the baby and that just killed the mood for him. It was not about the way that I looked (oh yes I asked .....I was a paranoid little.....maybe not so little....butterfly).
You may have to go it alone. Hehehe
Seriously, talk to him about it. Tell him your fears and I am sure there will be a good reason.
2007-09-19 00:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by heatherfeather 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably just worried he will hurt you. It is hard for guys to get that a woman is not as fragile as she looks and when you are pregnant, you look darn near breakable... You need to talk to him about it. Not just ask for sex, but get him to explain what he is feeling. It may take time, but if he knows it is making you feel unattractive, he might be more swayed to do it with you... keep the lines of communication open on this one.
2007-09-12 19:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by lilly j 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋