Does this means that I am a bad mom? How can I learn to be more patient?
2007-09-12 17:02:20 · 10 answers · asked by serene 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
No it doesnt as long as it means ur not doing anything to hurt ur baby out of frustration which totally isnt good and u would need to seek help ASAP so ur baby doesnt really get hurt
I felt that way not very patient when my little one wouldnt sleep when i would need to get stuff done or in the middle of the night but u gotta just breath and look at them and understand they dont understand how to tell u what they need or want and sometimes sleep isnt it sometimes its just attention and if thats what they need no matter what ur doing that should be ur first concern.. baby always comes first
if u ever feel like ur getting to frustated or mad just place the baby down go outside for a mintue take a breather to regroup
good luck with everything
we all go through this
2007-09-12 17:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No it doesn't mean you're a bad mom it just means you are still adjusting to a new life with your baby. They take up almost every hour of the day and yes it can be frustrating not being able to do what you want when you want. If you feel frustrated take your baby out for a walk in the pram as the fresh air and sunshine will do your mood the world of good and you will often find that after a while your baby will fall asleep and you can get back home and then do a few chores around the house while them remain peacefully sleeping in their pram. Also try using soft relaxation type music in your home to encourage your baby to be peaceful and quiet and to sleep more readily. If you tire your baby out by spending time with him/her then your baby is more likely to sleep for longer so you can get more done. Spend time holding your baby and rocking and singing to him/her, go for a walk outside and talk to him/her about what you see (trees,flowers, animals etc), walk around in your home and show them things around your house. With all that talking and cuddling most babies once again will just drop off to sleep . Just remember: babies can't sleep all day and they need you to have some interaction with them when they are awake
2007-09-13 00:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by mummy38 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't mean you are a bad mom. However, it does sound like you need more time to yourself. There's no question that your baby will not sleep according to "your" busy schedule. Why is it that you need your baby to sleep when you are busy? Are you working and don't have child care arrangements? Are you trying to get things done around the house? Do you need some time to yourself that you can't seem to find? It is very normal for your baby to want to spend as much time with you as possible and it's not at all surprising if he/she seems to be able to need you just when you are the busiest. Kids learn very easily how to do that! I don't know how old your baby is but, whatever his age, chances are your expectations for his sleep needs is different than what reality says. Babies needs for sleep change a lot as they get older and it can definitely be difficult to go from having the baby sleep a lot, to just having 2 naps a day, to having just one nap a day, and then not having any nap at all. Each transition can take at least a few weeks to accomplish and it can even take many months (a year sometimes!) to get your kid to give up naps entirely and be in a good mood and not "need a nap" a lot. If your issue is more that you want the baby to sleep so you can be busy, it sounds like you really do need to arrange for childcare so you can get done what you need to, and have your baby taken care of at the same time. You will feel like a much "better mom" if you know that you will have time to yourself and get to accomplish things without feeling always interrupted. Good luck. I know it's not easy.
2007-09-13 01:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
For the first couple of months just let the house work and cleaning and wahing go for a while I can remember doing all the above at 11pm at night, the main concern is the baby eventually the baby will adapt a routine and you should be able to work around that.
I feel for you its so hard in the begining cause you are trying to juggle housework with husband "couple"time and still wanting to be the best Mum ever. I think you are a great Mum as you are on here asking for advice therefore benefiting your baby.
I was blessed with a "quiet" baby who only cries when needing a sleep now and he is 6 months so its easy. Too easy Im wary of having another baby now in case of a crying baby lol.
Good Luck sweety.
I was like you once but on cleaness side of things I still felt I had to have a tidy house and a newborn and its so hard lol.
2007-09-13 00:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lucky Mummy to 2!!! 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You aren't a bad parent. YOu just need to understand that a baby has no idea of what or when you need to get things done. You being frustrated can make the baby more fussy.
Take the time to love and cuddle and relax you and the baby.
So what if your housecleaning doesn't get done? 20 years from now what difference will it make?
If you have something that you have to go at a certian time...hire a babysitter or arrange to do whatever when the daddy is around.
When you have a baby... life will never be the same. Nothing wrong with that. It is just an adjustment of your expectations of how life goes.
2007-09-13 00:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a bad mom,everyone gets frustrated with their baby sometimes. You just have to learn to work with them. You have to realize that you cant just magically make the baby sleep whenever you need them to. For a while you are going to have to work around the babies schedule, and make time to do what you need to do when the baby does sleep, is playing,content, or someone else is around to help. Its hard but you can do it!!!
2007-09-13 00:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Porsha♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no you are not a bad mom. what i do that is a lifesaver is if my baby gets fussy while im busy i put him in his baby swing with the music on and prop up a bottle for him to suck on. works everytime. and i dont think the comment about letting the housework fall behind is a good idea. you need a clean house for a baby to live in. the less germs the healthier the baby. good luck. oh yea they have something you can buy called colic relief so if your baby is colicy the medicine will get them to stop crying and you can get some stuff done and maybe even take a nap.
2007-09-13 03:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by yourmomgoes2college21 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I get frustrated too... you just have to remember that the baby is not doing anything "on purpose" and that your main goal right now is to take care of that baby... all other things that you've got keeping you "busy" will just have to wait until the baby takes a nap. What ever it may be, people are just going to have to understand where your responsibilities stand. The baby is your first priority!
2007-09-13 00:09:22 · answer #8 · answered by Jjggjgyhb 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
By all means, no! I'm the same way! Some people tell me that if I know she doesn't need anything, try putting her in another room while I do laundry and tidy up, etc. Because us mommy's are instinctively annoyed by their cries. But your baby only knows that way to communicate...so try not to get mad.
Usually, a pacifier or wrapping her up in a blanket helps. But she's 2 months old. I'm not sure how old your baby is though. I hope this helps!
Good luck!
2007-09-13 00:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Take a deep breath, and try to enjoy every minute with your little one, and remember that it will get easier. Being mom is job one.
2007-09-13 00:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by tts mom 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋