Ever notice that when a girl is into a guy, her interest level stays high as long as he stays cool and doesn't get to attached. But the second he gets attached to her and starts treating her nice and showing care and affection, she starts losing passion. Why is this?
After some bad experiences I feel like I have to force myself to act aloof with women I like to avoid scaring them away. It sucks because when I like a woman I want to treat her like a queen. But everytime I've ever treated a woman like a queen she became detached and (excuse my French) treated my like sh!t.
2007-09-12 16:45:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Remaining within the context of this question alone, it is completely unsound to blame the men for the predicament woman place them in.
Read the terms of the question: "he gets attached to her and starts treating her nice and showing care and affection.
This isn't the failure of men to be respectful. It's about the failure of women to respect that! And then women have the nerve to wonder why men only want to get in their pants. In all reality, what else have women offered men?
Shingoshi Dao
2007-09-12 21:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I get the impression a lot of people here are in their 20s or perhaps even younger. Men at that age aren't often going to find women 35-year old women as attractive as a 25-year old woman. Personally I think the average woman looks best around 32-36 or so, but being a 27-year old I'd still go for someone within 3 years of my own age first. I have to say the age I find women to be attractive is increasing with my own age which is where my theory comes from.
2016-04-04 18:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I know I've done that myself. I don't know why that is. I truly don't. You're right that some women do this. I've never really analyzed why I do it (not the treating like **** part) or why I become distant. Probably, for me, a fear of intimacy or commitment. Only speculating....not really sure. Good question.
2007-09-12 17:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by teeleecee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Maybe you're confusing treating her well with smothering her. You don't need to be a butthole to keep her, but give her just enough room to want you more, and give her just enough attention to keep her. (I'm not saying this is the case, but worth considering your approach)...
2) Sometimes, by being considerate to her, you're indirectly forcing her to make a decision. The nice guy, is the guy she wants to settle down with. She may be undecided on settling down, or knows that she doesn't want to. By being very considerate, she now has to make an Abrupt Decision, on whether you're worth keeping or not, and she may not be ready to make that decision. It's not your fault, but the advice is the same here, as in #1.
3) Another thing to consider is that they may be dating around, and it may not have anything to do with you. You just have to keep moving, and never compromise your integrity, and lower yourself to being a butthole.
4) The issue may be some 'Outlier' about yourself that you're confusing with 'being nice'.
2007-09-12 17:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by Nep 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it while it lasts. This sounds like your time to have fun. Just dont get attached and when you have had enough just show affection and she will go away.
2007-09-12 17:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would think it is a fear of rejection: no one enjoys being rejected. What I would suggest: while starting a new relationship, don't open up your heart right away... Watch and listen to your partner, so you can decide if she is worth your trust and love.
2007-09-12 17:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same reason that cats always go to people who don't like them. If you're overbearing, you scare the he!! out of the object of your affection.
2007-09-12 17:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Steve-O 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have not noticed that. maybe you should start dating women, not girls. or at least girls of higher quality.
2007-09-12 17:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋