My friend is 17 years old and has a 1 year old son. He goes to school and works after school he has a pretty good job he's a mechanic.He is always fighting with his sons mother over diapers and money. He feels she trapped him by having a baby. The other day were at wallmart he spends about $80.00 dollars on two big bag of diapers. we go over his girlfriends house who had his son goes to the door hold the 2 bags of diapers up tells her here are your diapers to bad your not going to get them. Gets in his car drive about 2 blocks away throws them in the lake. I told him he was being spitefull he told me **** that ***** that ho! she should had protection . Am i wasting my time with this guy trying to get him to see the bigger pictue?
2007-09-12 16:07:11 · 25 answers · asked by jeff j 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
How stupid! He is only hurting his child who didn't ask to be here. Why did he spend 80 bucks and throw it in the lake. He sounds really ignorant. He needs to grow up!!!
2007-09-12 16:12:19 · answer #1 · answered by wundawoman 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
He's still a baby himself at 17 I'm afraid. But if he felt he was mature enough to have sex, he should have ensured he was mature enough to handle the consequences of having sex without protection (as much his responsibility as hers!). Throwing away the expensive diapers is really silly because he's doing his child an injustice, not the girlfriend.
I think he needs some counselling from an uninvolved party to act as a moderator between him and the girl so they can move forward for the sake of the child.
2007-09-13 00:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really are wasting your time with this girl. It's like they say it takes two to tango, she didn't get pregnant alone. In the end he's not hurting anyone but the baby who didn't ask to be born in the first place. If you really sit back and think about it the only person who trapped him into having this child was himself. It's like they day the only sure protection is abstinence. He was caring to much about her getting pregnant when he was ******* her without a rubber. Tell him he needs to grow the **** up and get over it, and all she really has to do is take his retarded *** to court and shes gonna get paid. Tell him to think about that. 80 dollars a month on pampers is better then 200 a month.
2007-09-18 14:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by lovely_beautiful_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your buddy is an asshole, whether or not he wanted the baby or not he could have used protection also. It is not this babies fault, he did not ask to come into this world and have an asshole of a father. If he really wants nothing to do with this baby then maybe he should just sign all his rights over. The baby would probably have a better chance at life wiothout a prick like that in it. Your friend is a loss cause!
2007-09-18 05:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by ashie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he's being immature. It takes two to make a baby. If he doesn't want to be a part of his son's life tell him to leave his baby and baby's mama alone. If he was smart he wouldn't have spent $80 on diapers, especially if he was just going to throw them into the lake. If he feels like his money is being wasted, tell him not to spend his money and throw it away. He needs to grow up!
2007-09-12 16:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
The mother doesn't have to wait around for his generosity; she can go to Court, get paternity established and he can be forced to pay child support . Additionally, the mother can cite examples such as this as a good reason to request Court supervised visitation only. If he is that angry, immature and spiteful, I certainly would not trust him to not harm the baby if he got mad at the mother for some reason.
If this is someone you have been friends with for awhile you might want to try talking to his parents and see about getting him into counseling to deal with his anger issues and taking responsibility for his own behavior (if he didn't want to be a father yet, he should have kept it in his pants or worn a condom).
If this is just a casual friend, you might want to consider not associating with him anymore; if he would react in a manner to his own child, how loyal do you think he is going to be to you as a friend.
2007-09-12 20:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a waste of diapers.. and what an ***!
If he wasnt ready for a child, then he should have used protection too. Why does it always have to be the girl? Or better yet DONT HAVE SEX!!!
The mother should go after him for child support! He may find that its cheaper just to help her out now and then, rather than to let the state take most of his check!!!
2007-09-12 18:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by Nekkid Truth! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry...but condoms are HIS responsibility. It takes two to make a baby...so the fault is 50/50. Now he needs to grow the f uck up and realize that unless he wants this child to grow up knowing he was an accident then he needs to step up. Wasting 80 bucks proves nothing except why teenagers should not be having children. His parents should be steralized...'cause clearly they've illustrated their fine parenting skills by raising such a well rounded young man.../groan
*cheers*
2007-09-12 16:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by Osmei 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is a moron. Him throwing $80 diapers into a lake shows how rash and careless he is with money. He should grow up and learn the true value of a dollar. His girlfriend might even be better off without him...
2007-09-12 16:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
hey he was the other partner involved with a brain IF HE DIDN'T WANT ANY CHILDREN HE SHOULD OF GOT PROTECTION FOR HIM SELF he is just as much to blame as the girl but he needs to grow up and take responsibilities for his actions his child is missing out because he is being a 2 year old smack him across the head and tell him to step up and be a man and stop being a child himself he did the deed now its his time to take on the responsibility for being a dad
vicky_vicstar
2007-09-12 17:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by vicky_vicstar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No matter what the relationship is between the biological parents no child's well being should ever be messed with!! This kid needs to seriously take a look at his responsibilities and check himself!!! It takes two to tango, and that little boy did absolutely nothing to deserve this kind of treatment. Your friend needs to grow up and be mature. He obviously thought he was grown up and mature enough to have sex.....TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS!!!!
2007-09-20 15:06:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋