Okay....I'm 15 years old. And I am sexually active...Yes I realize that I am too young to be sexually active in many peoples opinions but thats not my problem right now cuz I use birth control and condoms.
My problem is I'm 15 and I Want a baby. I know it sounds really stupid and it is really stupid but I can't make these feelings go away.
I think it all started because I thought I was pregnant. And I guess I got a lil too excited because now I want a baby. And I dnt know how to make the feelings go away. I know I need to finish school and get a good, supporting job first. Can someone please help me?
2007-09-12 15:46:44 · 14 answers · asked by nvr_ur_bby 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I DO babysit. I've even babysat newborns for like 3 days and night that I had to wake up w/ in the middle of the night 4 or more times with. I've had the toy doll at school that's suppose to scare u outta it by waking u up so much and I still want one. It's not enough attention trust me I get plenty. I just want a baby.
2007-09-12 15:58:20 · update #1
I think most girls want babies!From the time we are 1-2 if not younger are moms are giving us babies to play with,but all at once we stop play dolls and start playing with boys.
I know I started wanting to have a baby around the same age and I had three miscarriages the doctor blamed it on a lot of things I was under weight
I smoked and I was 15 16 and 18
i had my frist baby when I was 20,22 24
When I had my last baby I wished she was my frist.
I wished I did a little living,went back to school and it was really hard.
I think you need to find someone to babysit for maybe you could help out in the church nursey.
You are wanting a baby not a 11or 2 yr old that hold you down.
I hope you wait Iam glad I did not by my choice but Gods choice.
2007-09-12 16:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Tina R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may get attention, but is it the right kind of attention? Usually, at a young age, the person isn't getting enough love from home and they want a baby so that they'll have someone to love them. That's just something to think about. A baby is not a doll that you can pick up and play with whenever. You say you babysit....that's great. But, you're only getting to experience a very small part of motherhood. At 15, you cannot support a baby on your own. Do you think it's fair to put your mother and/or father in that position of raising you and your baby? You're less likely to complete your education including college. You'd be missing out on so much of what your friends would be doing. I'm sure you think that your current bf and you will have a baby, get married and live happily ever after. Most likely, that will never happen. In most cases, the bf leaves the girl alone and her parents and she raises the baby...alone. Then, for the rest of your life, you come with "baggage" when you start dating another person. A woman who already has a child can be a big turn off to a lot of guys. That may not be fair or right, but it's true.
2007-09-12 16:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by First Lady 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way when I was your age and was in the same situation..I still felt that way up in till this last year when my cousin who is my age (18) had a baby. I watch him all the time because she has to work, I see on a daily basis how hard it is and how much "youth activities" are missed. when I go shopping with her there are a lot of stairs and rude comments, and she is now 20 and married., are you ready to hear what people think. You also have to think about who the potential father would be. You are only 15 and chances are you and your bf will not stay together forever. Are you mentally ready for a baby.And at 15 you can not support a baby.. or are your parents willing to financially support a baby for you? You should think about taking a child dev. class in high school because there is a lot to learn about babys. I know your thinking It will be different for me but its really not. At 15 you may think you understand the consequenses but your making decisions that are based on your things you want not things you can actually handle.
2007-09-12 16:07:12 · answer #3 · answered by ali__ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way when I was 15, and I was responsibly sexually active just like you. I have been on birth control for 8 years now. I have always wanted a baby (actually three) but I waited... I finished high school and just finished 4 years of college. Now I have a very well paying job that has the benefits that will allow me to have a baby comfortably and when I want to. I am really glad that I waited and think it was definitely worth it.
Good luck. Do what is best for you and your situation.
2007-09-12 16:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by Angela F 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I use to feel the same way and sometimes I still do. I just love kids and can't wait to experience the love between child and mother. Babysitting is a good idea. But you have to realize that having a baby is a big responsibility. Your just 15 and you can't take care of your baby right now. It's nothing wrong with wanting one because we all want things that we might not need. But think to yourself....
If you had a baby what does it need, what do you want to give it. Do you want your baby to be without? without father (could happen) without food (your not old enough) without anything and your to young to guarantee that it will get these things. Just work hard and then when your financially stable start planning. You have many years to have a baby
2007-09-12 16:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Truthfully♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm maybe start babysitting...Hey I have 3 kids wanna babysit cause I tell ya this is the best birth control...They will drive ya crazy!! And at 15 you will have a hard time with problem solving babies get sick...wont sleep...need you 24/7 and that's until they are 18!!
Does your mother and father know ? I think maybe you need someone to talk to..there is a deeper problem here ..maybe not enough attention? A close auntie or older friend could help you...cause having a baby at 16 is hard I know cause I had a son ..And man did I have to grow up fast and missed out on so much.
2007-09-12 15:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well having a baby young isn't nearly as taboo as it use to be....but still I would not recommend it, especially not at your age. At least wait until you are a legal adult so the responsibility wont fall on your parents shoulders....even though I'm sure you would do your part. Its alot of work...tons of work, your life wont be your own anymore; and thats not a bad thing "one day" but not now hun....you have so many other things to accomplish in your life first, and yes finishing school is a very very very very good idea!!! You have time to be tons of things...but the minute you have a baby you are a mother....for the rest of your life, time is on your side hun...wait till its right.
2007-09-12 19:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by Rose 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are natural because thats the desire is breed. Just most of us are smart enough to know that we will have that feeling fulfilled one day and be more financially sound, more mature, and to be honest more biologically sound to have children. At least you admit that having a child now would be a mistake. What you need to do is not be selfish, wait til you are completely ready to have that child so you can give him or her the best future that you can. Having a child at 15 would all but destroy those chances.
2007-09-12 15:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when I got preg. with my son and 18 when I had him. And I thought I wanted a baby to, we tried for a year and it finally happened when it did he ran off and never saw my son..He died in jan of this year from a shooting.
And I am married to a wonderful man now and my son has been adopted and my husband supports both of us. *hes in the military* With my son fixing to turn 5, all I want to do is live in a college dorm room for a week and experience the college life because I didnt get to have one..I hope you understand that its not like babysitting you know the parents are coming to get there kid...This is your baby!! YOU DONT GET BREAKS!!!
2007-09-12 16:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I started wanting a baby 15. I didn't start having sex til I was 18 and that was last year and I'm 19 now. I still haven't gotten pregnant and I don't want to anymore. I see how messed up my friends lives are now that they have kids so I'm sticking with going to college full time.
You have a bright future ahead of you. Don't mess it up with a baby.
2007-09-12 16:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋