Are you interested in disciplining your children in a non-violent way?

Question

A book titled "Positive Discipline: What it is and How to do it" was recently launched in some countries in the Asia Pacific Region. To download it for free, go to: http://seap.savethechildren.se/upload/scs/SEAP/publication/publication%20pdf/violence/Positive%20Discipline%20Report%2023Aug07.pdf

Thanks aguadulce.

FYI, there are now 18 countries that have legal protection for children from all types of corporal punishment. The very first was Sweden (1979) and the most recent was New Zealand (May 2007). Other countries include (in chronological order): Austria, Latvia, Israel, Ukraine, Greece, Finland, Cyprus, Croatia, Germany, Romania, Netherlands, Norway, Denmark, Bulgaria, Iceland, Hungary.

If you're interested in reading up on the issue of corporal punishment, you can go to: www.encorporalpunishment.org. The site also has a list of other resources on positive discipline.

Annabelle P, you can share the publication with your children. Hopefully, they'll also practice positive discipline in raising your grandchildren.

Scribbler, hope the book helps you in dealing with the screaming :-).

Bitoy, thanks for being open-minded about it.

The thing is just because you turned out okay despite the spanking, this still doesn't make it alright and acceptable. Wouldn't it be better if children grow up to be good, upstanding citizens without having to go through the pain brought by corporal punishment? :-)

Answer 1

I think every parent is interested to discipline their children in a non-violent way. It is less traumatic for the children and I think, too, that children will more likely listen to you when you explain to them what is right and what is not in a soft, soothing voice rather than shout at them to get your message across. Anyway, this doesn't affect me now because all my children are grown, two are already married.

Answer 2

Thanks for the link. Indeed, it is a "must reading" for all young parents and all those dealing/interacting directly with children. Each culture has its own long-held traditions of how to discipline kids and while Dr. Joan Durrant (author) has her heart in the right place, it would take long strides before her proposal could make inroads in the Asia Pacific Region. It would help a lot if her work could be translated to the native language(s) of the target areas.

FYI: Corporal punishments (to discipline children) are illegal in Canada (home base of the author), Germany and Sweden (the very first country to do so).

Child psychology is not my major field of study but the manual does rely heavily on basic psychological tenets and will therefore work as well on most relatiionships - with a little tweaking.

Read it, guys - kinda long - but it's worth it. A nice read for a rainy day.

Thanks again.

Answer 3

Good process kicking that little f'er out. No child is valued at that a lot and if one in every of my 7, sure 7, youngsters have been to behave like that they would get a beating an a so long, have a laugh at the streets. When he comes crawling again and eventually begs for forgiveness permit him in, however inform him matters are gonna difference whether or not he likes it or now not or else he can depart once more. And do not blame him for smoking pot. He's sixteen dont inform me you did not whilst you have been that age. I used to be like a god darn chimney whilst i used to be sixteen. But that is my opinion. Tough love, the one truly style.

Answer 4

Thanks for the booklet, which is very informative and could be implemented in several schools - where teachers still rely on physically hurting a child, to 'correct' it !
...But, in my own home, my two young children (a boy of 10, and girl who is 5) already believe in disciplining their parents in a physically non-violent way - by screaming their heads off, whenever they are politely told that they cannot get what all they want !
:-))

Answer 5

Yes, I strongly believe in that. I started disciplining my kids in a non-violent way about 7 years now. The result was quite amazing.

Answer 6

Either way, it still gives them a certain psychological scar. Spanking in moderation is okay... cos' at the end of they day, it will only last until they reach their teenage years and they should be able to make their own judgments.

Thanks for the information though :-)

Answer 7

It is kinda impossible because if you dont spank them most likely they will come out brats. The best way is to spank thhem just make sure your not beating them up thats harsh.

Answer 8

yes of course there are ways to be non violent ways to teach your child a lesson

Answer 9

our parents spanked us not as punishment, but only during times when we refused to obey. we 8 kids grew up well no prob whatsoever.
but i will read this before judging. thanks

Answer 10

Thanks for the information.