My grlfrnd got an abrtion bcuz we had unprotected sex but I didnt ***.That I delt with fine and we got through it. Now-about a lil over a month later we had sex but I only put it in for litterally a second, and only the tip.She got scared and said she wanted me to get her a home pregncy test.So I did it came out posative.But it doesnt make anysense bcuz she took it the day or two after we had "sex" and the box says to wait until u miss ur period. idid some checking and found out that it could be the hormones from the last abortion meds they gave her.She is emotional and nervous/worry wart kind of person and is now always like-my stomache is getting bigger. we went and got a preg tes ata clinic, but she got scred nd wlked out be4 she got her rsults nd they wnt give them to her over the fone.i got a ticket frm a d-bag SPECIAL policeofficer that i have to go to court for so iv bn preparing for that 2.SATs r cumin up and skool isnt ne easyer.now i have a coldnd i lst my voice
HELP ME plz!
2007-09-12 14:39:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
everything that culd go wrong - seems to be going wrong.
2007-09-12 14:41:51 · update #1
Clearly life is trying to get you to SLOW down and face a few facts. You should be working at being a kid and not rushing into things. It is possible her Tests are positive due to the leftover hormones, but until it's all resolved and to regain control over your life - you'll need to hold off on the intimacy. While I'm sure your body feels ready, it is clear your life & mind aren't. If you have means of emotional support I would take the time to reach out before you get in deeper trouble or sicker. In life you'll find there is a beginning, middle and end to everthing....you're in the middle it seems......stay smart & alert and things will look up - but only if you start making better choices.
2007-09-12 14:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a really good time to examine your life. It sounds like the things you've tried so far haven't worked out in a way that makes you happy, but that's okay because this is a good time to start over. If you love the girl and think she's a wise choice for you, then don't ever make the mistake of unprotected sex again. And instead of stressing over things you can't control, tell the girl that you're taking her back to the clinic or that you don't want to hear her complain about it anymore. Her decision. Now go study and take some Dayquil. Good luck!
2007-09-12 21:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by juliewantstoknow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're life is not falling apart! You're going to be fine.
Just change your outlook. Make everything a positive. Smile often. Laugh often. Do your best at everything. Use common sense.
While this may seem like a big deal, it's not, really. Just take a chill pill. Try counseling if you must, to get to the root of your problems, but otherwise, just relax and go with the flow.
Let these dark clouds pass over and then the sun will shine through.
Good luck!
P.S. About unprotected sex...DON'T DO IT AGAIN.
2007-09-12 21:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok Supe, don't know how old you are but I suspect looking at your spelling very young. But I'm not going to criticize you instead I'll give you some good advice. STOP HAVING SEX! Not real religious so no help there, but having abortions is immoral (killing to put it plainly). So what we have learned so far is that you can't spell, your having unprotected sex and your a killer. Oh I said I wouldn't criticize didn't I, sorry. At any rate I have a relative who lost two limbs in Iraq fighting for people like yourself. So no you don't have any problems and your life is not falling apart. Your an idiot who can't spell and kills. Oh sh-- there I go again criticizing. PLEASE FOR THE SAKE OF SOCIETY STOP HAVING SEX WE DON'T NEED OR WANT YOUr OFFSPRING!! Hope I helped
2007-09-12 22:16:23 · answer #4 · answered by paul g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like this girl's being honest with you.If you didnt do what you said you didn't do in order to get her pregnant, then I seriously doubt that you were the father. I had a friend in high school who did the same thing with her bf because she had been screwing around. Good luck with everything, sounds like life's throwing you curve balls. I think if you got rid of the girl, things might start going better. Also, always, always always use protection or don't do it.
2007-09-12 21:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As harsh as it might sound - you should have AUTOMATICALLY "wrapped it up" after the first pregnancy scare...
I'm sure that things aren't REALLY as bad as they seem - perhaps talking to a councellor or a psychiatrist about things would be the best solution. I know that it is tempting (and easy), but Yahell Answers is NOT the best place to find solutions to issues as serious as these. There are a lot of good people with good advice, but odds are that they are NOT professionals!
2007-09-12 21:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DON'T YOU REALIZE THAT YOU BROUGHT MOST OF THIS ON YOURSELF. Use a condom for God's sake (shame on you for not learning your lesson the first time!) and don't use abortion as birth control. Obey the law and you won't get tickets.
Wouldn't worry too much about the SATs. You really can't prepare too much for them except review exam strategy.
THINK ABOUT THE CONSEQUENCES OF YOUR BEHAVIOR AND LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES. That's what smart, mature people do.
2007-09-12 21:58:22 · answer #7 · answered by G.V. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why some people don't learn from mistakes. Sex isn't for immature people. People like you and your girlfriend ruin what is meant to be a beautiful union of a man and his wife. Pathetic. You are playing with dynamite. You both need some serious therapy.
2007-09-12 21:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Without being mean don't you think you should learn a lesson and NOT have unprotected sex? Seriously! None of this would be happening if you had.
2007-09-12 21:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Desiderata 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In case anyone else hasn't already said this, you're both fxcking stupid. Why didn't you use protection? Seriously, it's not that difficult, or that expensive. You got yourself into this, I think you deserve everything you have coming to you, same with your girlfriend.
2007-09-12 21:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋