do long distence Relationships work?

Question

i have a bf that lives in egypt and im livin in austraila...i love him very much and i know he loves me 2..but every1 says that he could be cheating on me i know he wouldnt but i dont know if it will really work

Answer 1

long distance does work. My fiance is from detroit I'm from boston, we dated long distance for our entire relationship, and still we're long distance now, he's moving here in december, though we're engaged.

Everyone is different. We have open communication, and we have trust. THAT is the most important piece, communication and trust. We see each other often, and we travel often too. It works for some, it doesnt for others. Often though, people will say oh he could be cheating on you... well he could be cheating on you sleeping in the same bed, married for 20+ years. Men who are going to cheat will do so regardless of their geographic location.

I suggest that you do what you feel works for you, and keep the opinions of others OUT of your relationship. Many marriages, and relationships fail because there were too many people involved. Relationships are about partnerships, and it should ALWAYS be between ONLY two people.

Good luck.

Answer 2

How long has the both of you been together?

If you've been with each other for awhile before seperating then it should be better. I had experience with dating someone who lives in another country too. The main issue here is trust and how the both of you keep the fire going even though you are so far apart (some people think that the less you get to see each other, the more you miss each other resulting in happier times when the both of you get together, which is true in some cases).

But all relationships are different, what's to stop someone from cheating from you even if its not a long distance relationship? People cheat under their spouse's nose these days so i feel that you shouldn't be too concerned about that. I don't mean to cuss your friends but at the end of the day its your relationship and you should give it some thoughts as to how you want to approach this.

If what you say is true and you do really love each other, then i guess things should work out just fine.

P.S. A cousin of mine just got married to someone whom she had a long distance relationship, they are just all so loving.

Answer 3

Long distance can work, for a period. You have to have a lot of trust and tough skin. If you trust your boyfriend then does it really matter what everyone else says? Now if he starts rushing you off the phone or ignoring your calls then you have a reason to worry. Phone calls, emails, naughty texts are a wonderful way to communicate. If you have the means to visit eachother ofter I would do that, it will only strengthen the relationship.Had a long distance relationship for with my *now* husband a year before we got married, but we grew up together so it wasn't so bad being away from each other for a year.

Answer 4

Long distance relationships CAN work. But they are very difficult and require complete commitment from both parties. It's easier than ever to stay in touch with the internet, so that part is better. And yes, he could be cheating, but so could you. It all comes down to the commitment you have to each other and if you trust each other.

The one thing you can't do is worry about the "what ifs?" As soon as you start imagining problems, you will have them. Go on with your relationship as best you can and it can work.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Long distance relationships do work, but you have to be careful and not be nieve. It really depends on how much you both trust each other and love each other. It can work it you really want it to. Dont listen to others, be the judge for yourself. Others can try to put salt in your game just to see you unhappy. You have to live for you and make you happy. Forget the outside comments. If can cheat, but so can you. We are all capable of it, but how strong is your love to over come it?

Answer 6

You know the saying "distance makes the heart grow fonder" .. it all depends whether the two of you make it work. There will always be people out there who tell you horrible things and try to discourage you. But as long as you know in your heart that you love him and he loves you.. then of course it'll work out.

EDIT: Think of all the military men and women who are miles and miles away for years at a time, they have no other choice, but yet they return with such earnest and love for their significant others..

Honestly, if it's meant to be, distance will not hurt your relationship.

Answer 7

If you are both devoted to each other and really work in keeping it together it will. I have to admit that the only long term relationship I had did end. It ended because we both were not mature enough to handle the trust issues that have to be very strong to make it work...but that is in every relationship, right? Good luck!

Answer 8

I would try and see him and stay in pretty regular contact. The thing about long-distance is no ones there checking up on you and you aren't there to remind them how much they love you. Don't get paranoid. He probably isn't cheating on you. I would try and see him though. If you really want it to work just try your hardest. He is that important right? Don't listen to everyone else. If you really love him then it will work. Love is the most important thing to live for.

Answer 9

The only way for it to work I would have to say is if you were at least engaged and had a wedding plan in mind. Men have needs and are much weaker than us. If he really loved you, and he knew he was going to be that far from you, he would make a real commitment to you.

Answer 10

ok...i live in ny and my bf lived in illinois and he was cheating on me and i thought we were in a loving relationship. if both of you are mature, then it could work. before that i was in a relationship with a guy for almost 2 years and he lived in maryland which is 4 hours drive away. he died two years ago. but, we were very committed and it worked out great.

if you two are commited anything can happen. don't lose hope.

Good Luck