A married man befriends a woman and will not tell his wife about her.
She has no interest in a sexual relationship and makes it clear to him.
He makes her aware he is interested in a sexual relationship but will abide by her wishes.
He stops by her workplace often and they have hung out afterwards to talk about personal issues and discuss political points of view.
She likes his career connections and nothing more.
She does not encourage him, but does not demand he leave her alone either.
He called her one day to ask if she is in town (her job sends her away often).
Right after that she receives a wrong number call. A woman asks her “Is this the cell phone of Christopher James?”
You have the wrong number she says.
The woman firmly asks again the same question.
He stops by later that day.
She said nothing about the phone call to him.
What is your opinion about him and her?
If his wife follows him to see her, do you feel she is at fault in someway?
Is their friendship even an issue that one should be concerned about?
2007-09-12 14:09:26 · 8 answers · asked by Traveler 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Yes, because the man stated he has sexual interest on her.
She's not at fault, because she made the distinction clear. But she should have stayed away (or tell the wife) to keep her out of trouble - play safe is the best.
2007-09-19 20:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by meetha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The friendship is definetly an issue. The reasons are because he would cheat with this woman if given the opportunity, he is already cheating emotionally, he has opened a door that can end his marriage and hurt his wife, and he is putting this woman in harms way. She is being put in the middle of something she should not be in. If she is there and she knows that he is married then she is at fault just as much as he is. Men and when can be friends but not when they are on different wave lengths and no one in this world should ever come before your spouse. His wife could also flip and hurt people. Emotions are very strong and if put in a bad position with bad feelings, someone will get hurt. The wife, I would say, has a right to what she feels and her suspicons but she has no right calling other people like that. Some people may not agree with me but if you look at it from the outside then your perspective would absolutely differ. What I am saying is her problem is with him and not anyone else. whether he will lie to her or not about being with someone else is not the issue. If she feels strongly enough to call numbers then it is time for her to follow her instincts and take a break. If she is wrong then she will see that and if she is right then she still has her dignity and no jail time :-) That friendship is a no no. The man is attached to the other woman and nothing but hell breaks lose when you deal with a triangle.
2007-09-12 14:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Alexandria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he's the married man and has made it clear he wants something of a sexual nature from this other woman, even though she tells him she doesn't feel the same, it's only a matter of time that he finally gets her comfortable enough to go to the next level. she would be to blame also if he was honest with her about being married, but apparently she doesn't know , so therefore she can't be held accountable for his adultry. if she was to find out then she should demand he back off and not spend time with him anymore, because he is a liar, cheater, and can't be trusted.
2007-09-20 06:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they both seem to be using each other. she wants his business connections and he wants her body. they are both wrong in my opinion. she will be at fault because she should'nt be having a friendship with this man without his wife knowing,she should have said something when the wife called if ther was nothing to hide.
2007-09-20 12:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by BQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a wife and a significant other will definitely cause some problems. I believe I would just let this one go, very quickly.
2007-09-20 08:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by victor 7707 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have nothing to hide then why are you still sneeking around with this jerk?If his wife calls back ask her if she is Mrs X and tell her what is going on.The truth will set you free.
2007-09-19 06:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by fernwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married people should not keep secret opposite sex friendships from their spouse. That's just asking for problems.
2007-09-20 07:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Message to him; Leave her alone.
Message to her; Find a new friend.
Message to wife; Your husband is about to burn you.
Message to wife's attorney; Get it all. ...and he will!
My X-wife's attorney did!!
2007-09-20 01:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋