Do you think I'm egocentric?

Question

I really think highly of myself. I tink that I'm better than peple because my goals and aspirations are far more superior than many people's. I really like to have a known personality. I tend to be a loner at times, though. I like to "perform" in front of people (not in the theather kind of way) I mean to say I want to be known. I rarely get close enough to people which is why I probally don't have a girlfriend.

Answer 1

You sound like a classic case of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. According to the DSM-IV (Psychological Association's diagnostic manual) the clinical markers are:


1. An exaggerated sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements).

2. Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.

3. Believes he is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).

4. Requires excessive admiration.

5. Has a sense of entitlement.

6. Is exploitative, ie. selfishly takes advantage of others to achieve his own ends.

7. Lacks empathy, is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.

8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him.

9. Shows arrogant, haughty, patronizing, or contemptuous behaviors or attitudes.

You dont need to have every characteristic above but if you have 4 or 5 of them, you have this personality disorder. It's not a good thing, but those who have it usually think it is.
Good luck.

Answer 2

First, you must recognize that this is the way you think. That is the hardest part. An egocentric person usually believes s/he is fine, and has no problem. It is therefore necessary that the person learn about the style. S/he must be brutally honest with her/his self, examining thinking to see if s/he holds or practices any of the attitudes defined in the above papers and quiz.

Second, you must realize that it is fixable! It isn't really hard to fix, but it will take time.

Third, the person needs to decide s/he wants to change thinking styles. This is setting a new Life-Goal. - - - Do you really want to be the very BEST you can be?
Fourth, the person needs to have a willingness (and make the effort) to remember occasions when he was wrong in the past despite an intense belief that he was right, and the ability to imagine his being similarly deceived in a case-at-hand.

Fifth: In order to change from the habit of egocentric thinking, there needs to be something to change to. The person should read these essays:
Thoughts About Knowing
http://home.earthlink.net/~bmgei/educate/docs/aperson/thinking/knowing.htm
I Nevar make mistaks!
http://home.earthlink.net/~bmgei/educate/docs/aperson/thinking/mistakes.htm
How does One Handle Negative Criticism?
http://home.earthlink.net/~bmgei/educate/docs/aperson/thinking/negative.htm
Hypotheses & Theories
http://home.earthlink.net/~bmgei/educate/docs/aperson/thinking/hypothes.htm
The Self-Confident Thinker
http://home.earthlink.net/~bmgei/educate/docs/aperson/thinking/thinksty.htm#The Self-Confident Thinker
Life-Rules about Where Truth Is (the right hand side of the table)
http://home.earthlink.net/~bmgei/educate/docs/aperson/thinking/truth.htm
These essays provide some basic goals for creating a new and better thinking style. Pay particular attention, and spend considerable time on "Life-Rules about Where Truth Is." Study it. Look at the two columns, and note the contrast and difference between them. Work to understand the truth and wisdom expressed in the right-hand column. Work hard to understand and then use that column as a new set of life rules.

As a minimum, read these three very short essays. These three "Dimensions of Critical Thought" will provide a very good start, and may be sufficient.


Sixth, install a Self-Monitor in your mind. (http://home.earthlink.net/~bmgei/educate/docs/aperson/thinking/monitor.htm) (Also known in psychology and psychiatry as a "Dispassionate Observer.") Instruct it to monitor you to detect egocentric thinking, and to alert you if it sees you doing it.

Seventh, ask people you trust to also monitor you, and give you gentle feedback if they think you are using egocentric thinking. These could be parents, other family members, or teachers.

Eighth, don't make a halfhearted effort, and don't give up. Reread the essays over and over again. As you make improvements, you will gain more insight, and the rereading will result in making more sense of the essays, and accelerate your progress.

Answer 3

We must be related! We must be related. I'm the same way. I guess the female version. I think we need to give ourselves the approval that we seek from others. Being superior, is actually not good. It comes with alot of other consequences feeling depressed from having been topped, having to work really hard to keep that level of "superiority" having people tear you down.
We can never be number one at everything. Someone is always better than another. This shouldn't be the basis of your happiness. Our worth comes because we are the children of the Almighty Lord.
Seek the Lord. Accept yourself for who you are. Approve of yourself........understand people, genuinely care andthings will be wonderful. People just want to be validated, they want to know that they matter in this world. Give the to them and they will follow you anywhere :)
Incidently, you have to be happy with who you are and love yourself as you are. You cannot love someone else unless you love yourself.

Answer 4

the price for being "better" than everyone is that you will always stand ALONE