OLDER GUY CHECKS OUT 15 yr old AT THE GYM!?

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OLDER GUY CHECKS OUT 15 yr old AT THE GYM!?
i have been going to the gym for about 2 months now and ever since then, one of the trainers there check me out every day, all the time.

I know im only 15 but I can tell when someone is checking me out. I know I look alittle older since im 5.8" 136 pounds. I can tell he is atleast in his mid 20's. But when he looks at me he makes eye contact with me for like 2-4 secounds long....which freaks me out but i just try to act like im really into my work out (which i am).


I have to say, i kinda like the attention, he is really good looking. But i know if he gets into me to much or something that that would not be ok.


There was even this time were he was looking at me, walked straight to me but at the slightest sec. he turn somewhere else (i thought he was going to come up and talk to me). That freaked me out like he was playing hard to get or somethin!
What should i do?

Answer 1

If you were really into your workout, you wouldn't have to try to act like you are. Let him know you are only 15 and unless he wants to go to jail, he needs to back off. Don't try to lead this man on. Since you know this would be wrong also, you are just as irresponsible as him if you allow anything to happen.

Answer 2

One thing to consider is that some people (perhaps you) look older than they really are. He might not realize that you are only 15. If he says "hello" or talks to you, don't be afraid to say hello back - it is okay for two humans to talk to each other and you don't have to make a big deal out of it. However, if he starts to flirt with you, you should let him know that you're only 15. He can still talk to you (remember, humans do this) but if he continues flirting, you need to tell him to stop, or possibly tell management at the club if necessary.

Also, because you are young and not that experienced in the dating world yet, it is quite likely that you are giving off signals to him that you think he is attractive - even if you don't mean to... you may not even realize that you're doing it. Just the fact that you are returning his stare for 2-4 seconds would indicate to most men that you are interested in him. This is what you need to stop... NOW. You can't control his behavior but you need to learn how to control your own. Since you know that it is wrong to get involved with him romantically, do the right thing and stop giving him signals that you are interested. Good luck !

Answer 3

Best thing for you to do is focus on your workout and try not to acklowledge that hes even there. If he notices that youve noticed him looking at you it might give him the wrong signal and give him the impression that your into him too. If he comes and talks to you be polite, but continue with your work out, dont stop cause then it will show that you want to talk to him. Try to avoid eye contact as much as possible... how do you know hes checking you out when you look to see if he is all the time? Maybe he thinks your checking him out! Try to do your own thing like there is no one else around, sooner or later he'll get the hint that your just there to work out, not to be hit on by an older guy.

Answer 4

Sweetie, men are going to look. And they're going to no matter what, whether they're 12 or 80 years old. It's not against the law either. LOL Now, if that guy starts hitting on you, just tell him that you're underage. If he still wants to talk to you, then you can: 1-switch gyms 2-alert the management or 3- Get "help" from a male relative, tough boyfriend or scary guyfriend. LOL :P Try not to worry about it. Like I said; men are definitely going to look.

Answer 5

Promise yourself that you will hold off on the older guys until you are at least 18.Then it will matter a whole lot less.You will not get him in trouble nor will you be a target of a potential pedophile.Once you ARE of age,do not get too far ahead in age.From the sounds of it,he is 10 years older than you.
Look away and find someone else.Tell yourself that you are 15 and that you are susceptible to predictable things.One of those is that you want to be thought of as being mature.It is like a mental illness at that age.It really is a weak point though.
A lot of guys know that and will play on that and play you for a fool.

Answer 6

Had to sit between a pedophile and two young girls (about 10years of age) at the computers the other day. God got me to be direct some attention to the girls first. Had to watch the guy like ahawk. Unfortuanlty this guy u know likes youing girls. Please pull a face at him. He can't tell anyone about u because then his work mates will know he is a pedophile.
Actually I did this (come between a trainer and a young woman) when I first joined this gym. God puts me in all the right places at the right time.

Answer 7

If you look older than you are, it is understandable that he might be interested in, and/or attracted to you. I suspect that if he knew that you are only 15, he would leave you strictly alone, unless he's a creep. Of course you like the attention- who wouldn't! Don't let it go to your head. If he approaches you, let him know your age right off. If he continues to make you feel uncomfortable after that, report him to the authorities.

Answer 8

Hey Sis you are only 15 years old, this guy is in his middle 20s. Leave well enough alone. Some body will tell your dad then what.

Answer 9

Tell the manager of the club. Some guys think the gym is a place to make pick ups, plus you know nothing about this guy, some day he might follow you out of there. Protect your self.

Answer 10

He's probably not fully aware that you're only 15. It's getting harder and harder to tell a girl's age. So you can just ignore him if you like, and tell him "Sorry, my parents won't let me date until I'm sixteen" if he tries to flirt with you. Then if he backs right off, he just didn't know. If he says to invite him to your next birthday, then it's time to complain to management.

Or, you could just act really immature so he gets the message.