Some believe that there is no other love like a Mother's love.....is that for real?

Question

Meaning that there is no love that is stronger or larger or more important....and what if you never got a very big dose of that....will you always be short changed?....And...if you got too much....do the rest of us have to steer clear of your gargantuan ego or suffer your sense of entitlement? All views are welcome....but please....let's not trash out the mothers.....

Thank you all so much for your answers...There is no way I can identify a Best...leave it for the voters....

And for you OoºJuefawnºoO, yours is so troubling...you have suffered so...we see the damage of a child not getting what he needs...please find a way to provide it for yourself...I am touched by your trouble...very sad...it is not a permanent state and you can recover...

Answer 1

I'd never "trash" mother's love, but it's important to understand that there are many, many kinds of love & all are of equal value. It's true, however, that some mothers excessively extoll the superiority of mother love to the extent of criticising women who have chosen not to have children, the implication (!) being that a woman who isn't maternal, is somehow abnormal.
This "attitude" also begs the question--have these mothers NEVER known love other than for their children?
I got a kick out of the way you phrased "...steer clear of your gargantuan ego or suffer your sense of entitlement?"
People whose mothers have loved them, often share the same view; there is NOTHING like the love of a mother!
Well...unconditional love is not the province of mothers. I'm happy to say, for which I risk being "trashed," (but I don't mind), that I would risk my life for my beautiful feline companion. Just one more thing: Humans are simply incapable of giving 100% unconditional love as animal companions do.
I've loved many--but I'd never dreaming of defining my love on a scale of one to ten.
No, it's not "for real," but I'm fine with people who claim it is, as long as they don't insist I'll never know what I missed! I would call that presumptuous, or delusional.

Answer 2

We live in a biased society. Men are often excluded as caregivers socially and legally. In terms of love, not all women love their children. And where women do love their children, that can and does change over time. Making generalizations or sweeping statements about roles in society is fraught with problems.

I find the contrary is true. Those who have excessively "loving" mothers are extremely dependent, needy and have trouble in relationship later in life as no one else in the world -- even a father or a husband will ever act the same way.

I have met several women who had additional burdens just trying to live up to this ideal of being a woman and being a mother.

Some women drown their own children. Some mothers make their children so neurotic that they cannot function day to day. And many mothers fall in between the two extremes.

It is also part of our social training. We all age. The children are expected to take care of the parents and the roles reverse over time. Women can sometimes feel an added burden to make sure that they "show love" because some day they will need the child to take care of them.

Answer 3

Personally I don't believe that you can have too much love.
I think those people with gargantuan egos or an overwhelming sense of entitlement were't overdosed with love but were over indulged. There is a huge difference between the two.

The "Mother's love" to which you are referring, I feel is definately real. It's strong but more important it is unconditional.

Many children return that same kind of love, which answers the second part of the question. Frequently (not always) when you love a person with that kind of "mother's love" it will be returned.

Answer 4

A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

Answer 5

Valac Gypsy gave an excellent answer.

Might I just add, those who "believe" there is no other love like a mother's love or being a mother, is a "belief" rooted in who they are and how they define themselves. This means, a conglomerate of biological and environmental factors that create a particular individual. ONE person's beliefs do not take into account others' perspectives, experiences, maternal drive to bear children, choice to have children, type of relationship and experiences others have had growing up, and many, many other individualistic matters.

I think we're lucky to find love, the real variety. But, what that is and means depends on who you are talking about. Someone's belief about maternal love can not be applied in a black and white fashion to another person's drives, desires, and experiences. Telling people how to think, in this sense, would be short-sighted, definitely narcissistic, and ignorant, really.

How can anyone objectively assess another's experience regarding maternal love when we have only our OWN experiences and biological predispositions as measuring sticks?

Maternal love is not stronger, larger, or more important than any other love. It simply is what it is...or, is not to particular individuals.

Answer 6

Yes, a mother's love is usually stronger than any other kind. If you didn't get enough, that sucks, but you might still be alright. Too much love doesn't give someone a giant ego or a sense of entitlement. Grannie's answer is right. There's a difference between over indulging someone and loving them.

Answer 7

Thanks for letting me get my anger out.
I despise my mother with a passion now.
I used to love her.
Does she love me?
Of course, I am here first son, I am still her baby. I've really never done anything wrong but hate her, and convert to a different relgion, despiter hers.

Why do I hate her?
She is mentally incompentent, and lacks the finanical survival skills nessary to live in this world, at least I think.
She gave birth to me, with no money in the bank, and then again, two years later, to my brother , Ben for God's sakes!
My father was an acoholic, and ended up in the hospital when I was three.
My mother not caring about her vows "To death do us part, in sickness and in health..." got up and left, with my baby brother and me..
We ended up in hotles, and finally an apartment, then to next, then to the next, once even on the street.
I have moved 22 times in my life time and I am sick and tired of this complex life that moving comes with.
I am moving again friday.
Never been able to make any real friends, and left some behind me.
Because I am always in a different place.
Dropped out of school so I could pay half the rent, and be able to eat actual food and fend.
You know what, I think if my mother really loved me, she would have gotten mental help a long time ago.
I can only wait till I am old and senial
like her.
Intelligence wasted, working at supermarket, on maintence crew just waiting for the pay check so I can go home to that bitchy satan.
So is it true that there is no other love like a "Mother's" nope its false in my case.
Sorry if I just bored you with my self peity. I kind of just shoved it all carelessly in your face.
:-)E)

Answer 8

Love is the act of considering the self interest of another as though it were your own.

It is what allows us to form couples, groups and nations.

Most love is conditional. It's one for all ONLY if it's all for one. I love you ONLY if you love me. Unconditional love is usually an incredibly bad idea, it's investing in something with no return.

The one exception is Mother Love. The unconditionality is biologically mandated, because during development children are generally incapable of pulling their weight.

Father Love however is conditional. Mom will forgive you for being a brat, Dad will smack you one. To get Father Love you much behave and/or achieve.

So Mother Love gives you confidence and security, Father Love teaches socialization, that you must give to receive.

Too little Mother Love makes kids insecure. They think the worlds out to get them. It tends to make women promiscuous because they are more inclined to trade sex for love and a sense of self worth.

Too much Mother Love isn't a problem so much as a lack of Father Love. If one experiences ONLY unconditional Love, you wind up with a sense of entitlement. Society owes you, you owe society nothing.

Not exactly Ego though. Mother Love gives you ego (aka a strong sense of self worth) Father Love puts a check on it.

So the person doesn't really have a colossal ego, per se, they just have and unregulated one.

Answer 9

Let's call it parental love. I'm a single parent and not trying to shoot the mother theory down, but there are bad exampels in every croud, as well as good ones. There is no stronger love than a man (person) lay down there life for another. And the connection between mother and child is no doubt one of the strongest ties, if it's tied. Some walk away without ever looking back. I'm glad mine was a good one. I hope yours is too...as I hope you will be.

Answer 10

that's what they say, but not all mothers are the same....

About a Mother's love......they "HAVE" to convince or let the world (including themselves) know about how much they love their children more than anything else in this world...otherwise they'll be labelled as "BAD Moms" . Moms are only humans plagued with the responsibilties and pressures of playing the role a "supposedly" good mom....and making sure she does not get a bad rep at that....