my boyfriend's cousin just lost her little baby boy. he was two months old and just didn't wake up... i didn't get to go to the funeral, and i'm not that close with her. but i really want to do something for her so she knows there are people out there thinking about her. my boyfriend said she lost it at the funeral, which is completely understandable. she's devastated. what can i do for her?
2007-09-12 13:32:21 · 8 answers · asked by Mel 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
all the answers so far are great! thanks!
i also wanted to add that she has two little girls
2007-09-12 14:31:52 · update #1
tell her that if there's anything she every needs...you'll always be there to help
most importantly, what she needs the most is time for healing of the spirit...
edit: ummm...the answer above is a better suggestion!
2007-09-12 13:40:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a coworker who had a still birth at 37 weeks of pregnancy and she was devastated. It was very hard for her and she said that she had wished that her grandma was still alive because she knew her grandma could've helped her through it. Close family or friends are the best people to turn to. I wouldn't think that you could help her, because you're not close to her and not a close friend to her.
I would offer to cook her meals or run errands for her. Don't even ask, just go cut her grass or suddenly bring her dinner.
I wouldn't do it too often in case she needs private time alone to mourn.
I hope your boyfriend's cousin gets past it and will try to get pregnant again and have a beautiful family someday.
My coworker got pregnant after her still birth and has 2 beautiful boys now.
2007-09-12 13:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel my aunt just got so excited about how she was going to try and have a baby boy ( for the third time) then she lost the baby. You don't really have to do a lot to show someone you care. you can get them some flowers I wouldn't give them chocolate because you never know how people are but there is a chocolate that makes you feel very good it is called Hershey's Nuggets other known as Hershey's Hugs and you can always give Hershey's Kisses. Just give her something little to show her you care!
Hope This Helps :)
2007-09-12 14:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by mer<3. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer to bring over a meal or to run some errands for her. She may not be up to dealing with real life right now, and having someone to help her will do her good. There is nothing you can say or do to take the pain away, only time will help her with that. As ling as she has a supporitve family and friends she will recover. Let ehr know that she is in your prayers, and she can call if she needs anything. Don't worry if she does not take you up on the offer, its is not becasue you have done something wrong, she may just not need your help as much as she may need someone closer to her. But it will be nice that she knows you care. God bless her, and speed her recovery from this loss.
2007-09-12 13:48:48 · answer #4 · answered by parental unit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter and offer her your sympathy. When she is up to visitors, you could go and visit. My daughter's friend had a baby that lived for a very short time. I was close to the family so purchased a silver bangle bracelet with a charm on it. I had the charm engraved to say "in my heart forever". I told her in a letter that the unbroken circle of the bracelet was to signify "unending love", the charm was for her baby. I wanted her to know that I would never forget her little baby,though she only lived for a small amount of time. I told her that she would always be her Mom and that she would see her again but that my gift was just a token for her to know that my heart was with her and that I understood her terrible, unbearable pain. It is hard to find the words when someone suffers such a terrible, sudden loss with no explanation good enough to comfort them. My heart still aches for her pain. She wears the bracelet all the time and has told me that she finds comfort in having it. It was a small token to show my love, support and sympathy for her at a most difficult time.
2007-09-12 13:41:34 · answer #5 · answered by turkeybrooknj 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tha'ts so so sad and very scary. If I were in the situation I would like to know that the person was there for me/ thought about me and my loss. A card maybe and a little letter would probably be fine.
2007-09-12 19:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by jose migel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww that's SO sad.... Well what I would do is just send her a sympathy card and maybe some flowers. But just don't say to her sorry about your baby. If you do then try to change the subject quickly. Try not to talk about it alot.
2007-09-12 13:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Meghan ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I wouldn't know what you could do but to just five her confort right now. But I'm pretty sure her son died from SID. Sudden infant Death Syndrome.
2007-09-12 13:37:35 · answer #8 · answered by lindakong1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋