And how can you make low self-esteem turn its self around?
2007-09-12 13:32:12 · 15 answers · asked by Kimmy 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
1. Stop comparing yourself with other people.
2. Stop the critic inside of you.
3. Forgive and forget.
4. Associate with positive, supportive people.
5. Get involved in work and activities you love.
6. Be true to yourself.
7. Talk affirmatively to others and yourself.
8. Quit blaming yourself for mistakes in the past.
9. Make a long list of your personal breakthroughs.
10. Make a list of your positive qualities.
11. Figure out the hidden strengths in your so-called weaknesses. You can’t develop high self-esteem if you constantly repeat negative comments about your skills and abilities. Remember that there is always a positive in every negative if you look hard enough. For instance, you may think of yourself as stubborn, but the flipside is that you’re also persistent and dependable.
12. Rediscover and reaffirm your personal strengths.
13. Ignore yourself.
14. Examine your needs.
15. Accept all compliments with “Thank You.”
16. Start giving more.
17. Be your own cheerleader.
18. Start small and do a task you can accomplish easily.
19. Examine the pattern of highs and lows.
20. Get some exercise.
21. Take advantage of workshops, books and cassette tape programs on self-esteem.
22. Take action!
2007-09-12 14:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have this problem also, so I think I can talk about this with some experience.
The first thing to do, is to (1) Figure Out What Is Causing the Low Self Esteem.
(You might want to work with someone else on this if you can't figure these things out on your own. I can email you / IM you back and forth to help with figuring this out and finding some solutions once this question expires since I am also suffering from low self esteem issues.)
For example, is it because you lost your job, is it because you aren't living the life you want to live. Is it because you don't have a lot of money to do what you want to do. Is it because you don't have a significant other to share your time and life with. Is it because you can't seem to get along with people? Is it because you don't feel cool or good enough around the in crowd? Is it because you don't like the way you look? Is it because you don't know how to socialize with people? Is it because you feel like people are treating you badly or walking all over you? Is it because you aren't getting ahead in your job while others are? These seem to be the most common causes for low self-esteem. At least some of these are the cause of mine.
Then the second thing to do is to (2) Take action to do the things that will either get rid of the low self-esteem or do things that will boost up your self esteem. This will also give you more peace of mind as well as telling yourself things that you might not be able to change about yourself (in other words, looking at the bright side of things.)
I know that it's easier to tell you this then to actually do it yourself, but if you need a coach, which at least I need, to tell you how your progress is or what you need to work on more, then I can help since I am also struggling with self esteem issues.
Take care. I hope this helps. A good book I read, and I am not sure if this will cure your low self esteem issues, but it helps you to see how fears can stop you from progressing in life, which may be the cause of your low self esteem, is "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyways", by Susan Jeffers PhD. It is non-religious so it is like having a therapist instead of a preacher, but less expensive.
2007-09-12 13:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by eoc1000 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let go of attachment and just have intention to be the flow of life.
I chant the title of the Lotus Sutra every day while I'm guiding this feeling of letting go of all attachment and being the flow. My health is better and I succeed at my projects because the stress hormone level stays low.
Under these conditions, self esteem is not even an issue.
2007-09-12 13:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read The book by Kevin Trudeau called "MORE NATURAL "CURES" REVEALED" This is sequel to his first book "NATURAL "CURES" REVEALED" I haven't read the first book and if you watch his infomercial on T.V he says you don't need to to get benefits but you benefit more from the second version previously censored from the government still semi-censored. This book has changed my life completely. The way i eat and live. The saying you are what you eat truly applies. Also if you cannot eat it do not put it on your skin. Which is why you must you only use and eat organic things available at your local health food store all you have to do is type you city and health food store in google and you should get something plus also highly overpriced Kroger's and most supermarket have a health goods isle now. what does all this have to do with self esteem? The chemicals and preservatives in our foods and body care products that have been proven to cause cancer and depression and a long list of other diseases.
2007-09-12 13:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by jessica_and_jay8883 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
cross your t's high. In handwriting analysis, low crossing of the t's indicate low self esteem. Therapists who treat individuals with low self esteem use a therapy strategy of telling their patients to practice crossing their t's higher when they write
2007-09-12 13:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have to keep in mind that there are low and high times in mind. What works besst for, though, is to surround yourself with many good friends who are self dependent and independent. Good enough, yes?
2007-09-12 13:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by FILO 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
God has confidence in me, so I do too. I'm not perfect, but He is still working on me!
Proverbs 12:25 says, "An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up."
Philippians 4:6-7 says, "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
1 John 4:16: says, "God is love".
Live in His all-knowing Lordship.
2007-09-12 13:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
dont take your self too heavily, have the potential to snort at your self. save your self grounded (dont improve into conceited) and embody your self with people who love you and desire the acceptable for you. they are going to constantly be there to remind you of your properly worth. so cope with them properly and constantly be grateful on your opportunities. you could have detrimental feedback in life no count who you're or what you do... you cant be envisioned to delight absolutely everyone. purely settle for it is going to ensue and it doesnt recommend its genuine besides. afterall, its purely an opinion.. you dont could settle for it. purely be dignified and humble. good success including your profession. x
2016-10-04 11:34:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop self destructive thoughts the minute they pop into your head and replace with a good thought. Rewires how your brain thinks. Takes time and practice.
2007-09-12 13:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
think positive, surround yourself with good people...get out of an environment that is causing the self doubt and negativety. Exercise, eat right...meet new people...try new things...hobbies...work hard in school and you'll see good results. Thats all I can think of right now...
2007-09-12 13:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by Angel2boot 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋