At the start of your marriage/relationship was your Mother-in-law a sinner or a saint? Did it all begin a little tense and then turn out well - or was it always a little bit of a battleground?
And are you now the perfect in-law to your off-springs partner?
I would venture that husbands mothers are by far worse than daughters mothers due to the former never wanting another woman to have her 'little boy'!
What do you think?
2007-09-12 12:17:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
First one I couldn't stand.
Second one was great but a
control freak. Didn't know
2nd or 3rd ones. The last one
made all her children dependent and my husband
kept running home to mama,
so I let him stay there.
2007-09-12 16:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In one past marriage I was the revered fave d-in-law and in one the despised theif of her sons heart. Now my husbands foster mother is german and a very by the book good citizen. She likes me but I am a tad too casual and laid back. She tells me often a german grandmother would never allow those children to do this or that. Plus I do not like to shop. So two strikes against me.
2007-09-12 12:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I loathed that woman!!! My ex mother-in-law was a royal pain in the butt from day one. She liked to butt in & run the show all the time. She upset me many times & when I tryed to defend myself, my ex husband would put his finger to his lip, as if to tell me to "keep quiet." I kept quiet for 38 yrs. & after I divorced my ex, I felt as though a big weight had been lifted from my chest. I didn't have to deal with either one of them anymore. His mom was always right & I was always wrong, in her eyes. I'm not a perfect anything, but I have never treated my two daughters -in-law as I was treated by my ex mother-in-law. I'd never ever put them through what I was put through all those years. I don't tell them how to cook, clean, or raise their children. I trust & respect their judgement. We have a great relationship!!!
2007-09-12 12:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mother in law put up with me and thats the best I can say about our relationship. I am of mixed race (white/asian) and my hubbys familly never really approved. My father in law was worse but toward the end of their lives they mellowed towards me. I sat at my mother in laws hospital bed and held her hand when she was in a coma towards the end and I felt a litte funny about it but I m so glad I did.
I dont have any relationship with my daughter's mother in law. We had a few problems early on especially when she took over the wedding and then sent me a bill for stuff I didnt agree on and she DIDNT order any wedding photos for me . Can you believe that, No photos of my own daughters wedding.
Ah Well such is life. LOL
2007-09-12 15:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh just when I tried to forget , She was evil to all her in laws none of us were good enough for her children , she was also a terrible mother to her children, my husband was the oldest . And he raised the other ones while she was at the taverns ,and then when I came a long I was there for the younger kids too. so that made her resent me even more.. she died a few years back I often wonder if she ever made it right with God hopefully she did
2007-09-12 12:57:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I knew my mother-in-law about 10 yrs before I married her son. We were friends and did things together, she was very happy when we married. Unfortunately, she had infuzema (sp) and passed away 3 mts after we were married, she was only 50. That was over 20 yrs ago, but I still miss her. She was a lovely lady.
2007-09-12 12:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mother in law was the demon from the pits.she always said i made her son do things and i was never a good wife to him nor did i raise our children correctly.she tried to run every thing we did.even though she hated me,she was a good gran mother to the kids,she made sure they had what they needed at all times.me and my first husband divorced 5 years before she died and we tried to be friends but to much water over the bridge,she even tried to break up my new boyfriend[husband now] and me.we never spoke again .
2007-09-12 13:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by alcaholicdemon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My first mother in law hated me. I was blonde, I wasn't the right religion and she refused to pronounce my name correctly. She was French, my family called me Shary, she would call me Shitty, and laugh like crazy, and say, o please scuse my broke English By this time she had lived in America for 20 years.
She also could not pronounce her grandsons name which was Matthew, she called him Machu, Keith was Keet or Keech
But, boy she could sure swear in English!
BTW, my name is pronounced the same a "cheri" in French which means "dear" so no 'scuse!
I had taken 7 years of French and didn't tell her for 3 years, so I could overhear her conversations, LOL She was rather horrified when I answered her in French...it was WONDERFUL!
2007-09-12 12:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by slk29406 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My first Mother-in-law was a BIG PAIN! I was married to her son for almost 5 years.
My Mother-in-law I have now, I love her. I have been with her son for 23 years.
Well, as for me being a good Mother-in-law: My son-in-law's mother told us "thank you" for accepting him into our family and hearts. So yes, I guess you could say that we are good "in-laws". We treat both of our son-in-laws with respect and love.
I think if you have "in-laws" that are a pain, maybe it is because they feel like they are being replaced, or maybe left out???? Who really knows?
2007-09-12 12:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by Renka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mother in law has her moments. She was an evil woman in the beginning but now her evil ways are kept undercover and she now welcomes me into her home for the holidays.
2007-09-12 12:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋