We all do stupid things when we are young and sometimes remember these things later in life. I'm a straight guy and engaged to be married in a year or two. Recently I remembered back to a time when I was around 12. I was playing with my 4-5 year old boy cousin. I can't remember all the details but I remember he was on top of me and was humping me or something, I proceeded to put my hands on his but cheeks. All clothes were on, I never kissed him, I didnt even touch his penis. I look at it in disgust now but at the same time I was only a kid then. I can't remember what I was thinking back then, if it was curiousity, sexual, or just innocent playful fun. I just feel so guilty because now I know that it was stupid and gay, and I know I wouldn't do anything like that again. I've talked to some of my family about this and they all say that it was just a stupid thing that happened when I was a kid. After thinking about it alot, should I just finally let this go, or should I seek therapy?
2007-09-12 11:47:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When I was young my cousin, a boy, and I, a girl, got naked and checked each other out. No sex, just curiosity. LET IT GO. You might have been playing out something one of you had caught your parents doing. It was innocent and the cousin probably doesn't even remember it. Wouldn't matter if he did. The past is gone and should be forgotten in this case.
If this is a big thing for you, maybe you better be sure you are not having bi-sexual thoughts.
2007-09-12 11:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by TillieDillie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it sounds as if it's just childish curiosity. Many children act out something they've seen in a magazine or on the tv. This doesn't mean you would do it again or you even think it is ok. You were just a kid so try to stop blaming yourself and forgive yourself. If you carry this into your marriage, it will be doomed. This doesn't make you a different person than who you thought you are; our life experiences lead us to who we are and we choose if we become better or worse for them. Let this go and find true happiness.
2007-09-12 18:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by littleone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just kids, but the memory keeps coming back? Let it go. kids act out in some really crazy ways. You didnt grow into wanting this affection so youre good! Give it sixty more seconds of thought, then let it go, dont ever think about it again. Best Wishes!
2007-09-12 18:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Shananigan Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would think it depends on how deeply it affects you. At a young age boys and girls experiment sometimes innocently, some times not. Think about whether any of these feels have resurfaced in all these years. If not, it may be fine, just experimenting. If they have whether or not you have acted on them, then you really do some kind of therapy.
2007-09-12 18:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek therapy.
2007-09-12 18:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop it lolll and answer my questions
2007-09-12 19:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no just let it go
2007-09-12 18:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋