I dropped by the college to see my husband between his classes. I parked right beside our car and waited. When class let out he didn't come out. I sent him a text to see what he was doing and he said getting his books. I never saw him until after his next class. I asked where he got his books from and he said the car. I was there, never saw him and knew he was lying. So then he told me class let out early and he went for a smoke. If that was the case why didn't he tell me that instead of lying to me about where he was and what he was doing?
2007-09-12 10:43:01 · 19 answers · asked by Froggy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We both smoke so I wouldn't have cared. I went to surprise him. In the first text he said he stepped out to use the bathroom, he couldn't wait til the end of class. 10 minutes later is when he said he was getting his books. We didn't get married too young, I am not paranoid, and I was not checking up on him. He has cheated before so yes, him lying did have me worried.
2007-09-12 11:07:28 · update #1
I had to get some papers from court that's why I was up there and I told him I was there to see him. He knew that I would be by.
2007-09-12 11:10:40 · update #2
Married to young ???
2007-09-12 10:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can let it go and trust him. If you know he has cheated before then you would have concern. I would sit him down at a calming moment and tell him your marriage is very important also telling the truth. Sometimes people over react to such incidences. Go with your gut feeling if you say you are not paranoid. And ask yourself this if he is cheating again what would you do about it???? If nothing then leave it alone. Why stir up things that you are not going to react to. Good Luck to you! Maybe all the answers he gave you were true in a different order. You need to ask him this question that you put out here.
2007-09-14 16:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by sassyfilly08 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might have got caught in a little white lie, maybe he was doing something and didn't want to meet you and came up with the books in the car excuse, which obviously didn't work since you were there. Since he has been unfaithful before he probably doesn't deserve too much slack but in this case he probably was doing something that he didn't want to tell you and came up with a quick answer.
2007-09-12 19:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
froggy - for all you know he was still being dishonest about smoking and instead was using the bathroom and didn't feel it was apporpriate, or necessary to elaborate. He's at school, he isn't expecting visitors nor does he need to be interrogated about what he is doing between classes.
Next time you want to meet up with him, text or call him and tell him what your plan is - don't play games or make problems where there aren't any.
2007-09-12 18:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was doing something that he didn't want you to know... what it could be? anything... Do you know any people from his class? Ask them. just do it if that happens again - ask where he is, any person from the group or teachers. If not... I don't think that you should really worry about it. But still it doesn't look good. On the other hand he can have something else to hide except cheating. you need more informaton to decide but don't become obsessed with it.
2007-09-12 18:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by ania361 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't say you are over reacting because it would probably raise some red flags to me too. I'd just keep a watchful eye out if anything else like that happens. It could be something really innocent like shopping for your birthday or anniversary and didn't want to tell you. It could be that he just wasn't thinking when he told you what he did or it could be something else. I wouldn't really worry about this unless more discrepancy's come up.
2007-09-12 17:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by Desiderata 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why were you so secretive about where you were? Why didn't you tell him you were there to see him so you could meet with him between classes instead of waiting for his next class to end? What were you doing the whole time he was in class? See all these questions are signs of insecurity just as yours are. Ease up on the guy
2007-09-12 17:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by rcButterfly 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You never said what you were doing there to begin with. Are you insecure?, or did you have a reason to be there other than check on him. He may be lying because he did not want you to nag him, but little did he knew didn't he. The worse thing a wife can do, is being sneaky. Always be candid and not make things complicated, the best thing is to have communication ad respect.
The rest is easy as pie.
Good luck
2007-09-12 18:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by Jaime L 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have to ask,
WHY THE TEXT?
You both had cell phones, why didn't you TALK TO HIM and tell him what was going on?
You are embroiled in intrigue and questions because you did not talk to him. Cut it out.
The communication required for marriage does not come from testing.
KitKat is right on.Cut this out.
And for goodness sake talk to your husband.
2007-09-12 18:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could many reason why he didn't tell you everything that he was doing. Don't jump to conclusions all it will do is cause more problems. Wait and see if you get the repeat behavior or something more concrete before you start making accusations.
2007-09-12 17:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're concerned about the syntax of his reply.....
I wonder if he would be concerned by your inability to trust him and need to "spy" on him while he's at school?
Unless you have a better reason than this to suspect something (cheating), then you best let it go or you are going to undermine your relationship !
2007-09-12 17:56:02 · answer #11 · answered by aa889d 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋