He confessed to me last night that he "messed around" with another woman and for the last year has been flirting with other women also. I don't know what to do...he has been non-stop lying to me.I don't even know what to believe any more...HELP! I am scared to leave him but I just don't know...
2007-09-12 10:21:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in your situation and even though mine begged/pleaded he'd change - you guessed it, he didn't. Do what your heart says though because some people really can change. If then, if it doesn't work, you can always tell yourself you tried.
2007-09-12 10:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by angelbearkiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can forgive but never forget and I also believe that if he can do it once he do it again. He crossed the line and there is consequence to suffer. Trust is important in every relationship, if trust is broken how will you survive?
But that is me and each person is different. You might want to ask yourself the following questions:
- do you still love him?
- do you think you can restore the trust?
- do you have kids? if yes, are you willing to have a broken family
But I strongly suggest that let him learn his lesson like moving away for a week so that you and him can think things over. Do not be scared to leave him, because you are not the one who wreck the relationship.
2007-09-12 17:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by brittanique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe once they have betrayed u that u can ever work things out. u might forgive it but as for forgetting it u never will, it will constantly come back to u and anger u, has he shown remorse and knows what he did hurt u? is he willing to put forth the effort it will take to restore the marriage? i would rather be alone and have my sanity than live with someone who hurt me and be sick. it will be really hard to believe in him again, but its up to u, if u do decide to go on with the marriage and if the cheating happens again will u be strong enough to end the marriage, or will it totally destroy u emotionally? fear of it happening again are what causes most divorces after a betrayal. see if he will go to counseling with u.
2007-09-12 17:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked how you should try to work things out with him. Well, I'm going to answer your question with a question of my own: Why haven't YOU left him? He's an adulterer. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Even if he promises to stop, he'll eventually do it again later. So just leave him. You deserve better.
2007-09-12 17:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that happened but you need to think about it has he always bin this way is he changing the way he is right now or are his actions speaking louder than his words right now?? good luck
2007-09-12 18:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you scared? I would be scared to spend the rest of my life with a lair and cheat. Is the idea of spending yours with him all that comforting?
2007-09-12 17:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE AND DONT BELIEVE HIS LIES..... if he loves you he will work hard to get you back but dont give in...tell him u mean business
2007-09-12 17:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rachael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF I WAS U I WOULD LEAVE HIM HES ONLY GONNA CHEAT..
2007-09-12 18:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by mtnhotte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋