is mother in law too demanding?

Question

when you marry a guy who happens to be the youngest of 3,is it common for the mother to always want to run you and your husbands life?
she is constantly at the house wanting me to change my curtains..move my computer from one room to the other and telling me how the kids need to be taken care of
any advice?

Answer 1

This is a common issue. Ever watch "Everybody Loves Raymond"? Mother in laws tend to meddle even when they don't think they are meddling, its called helping. If you confront her, she will be hurt and it will cause friction in your marriage. This will never change. it will be like that forever. They don't forget and life is too short for the "she don't like me drama", it is "his" mother after all. There is no rule that you have to take the advice, you just have to be considerate to her suggestions. Accept you have a meddler and try to accept her for that and you will get past these feelings. Do not make your husband choose, it will be a disaster. Everyone needs help now and again, just let her do her thing and you do your thing, your husband will be happy that you get along and one day you may actually see she has some good suggestions.

Answer 2

I am a mother-in-law one time and if I ever ran my son's life or his wife's then they would tell me that it is not any of my business. Just because your MIL tells you what to do doesn't mean that you have to listen to her. I had the mother-in-law from hell when I was married the first time. I called her a b.... two times.

Answer 3

I married the oldest of 3 boys and my mother in law is the same way. It took me sitting her down and telling her that I appreciate her advice and I'm willing to think about it, but that its my decision. Then my hubby and I sat down with her and told her how we felt about her butting into our lives and trying to tell us how to raise OUR kids. Now I have a great realtionship with my mother in law, and she only butts in on occasion. Good luck!!!

Answer 4

Tell her very calmly that you are quite happy with the way things are in your house and family and thank her for her concern. Don't change a thing and being kind at all times will throw her off and eventually she will keep her opinions to herself. What you mentioned should in no way ruin your marriage.

Answer 5

Learn how to let her have her piece, and say thanks so much, I wouldn't have thought of that, and then go on with however it was you planned on doing it anyway. Stay gracious and polite. Eventually she will give up, or she will continue to dole out her advice. Just because she suggests it doesn't mean you have to do it. Redirection is always good too, learn how to say thanks, and then oh by the way did you hear"bla bla bla" and take her mind off whatever it was she was doing.

Answer 6

First of all you have to let her know that you are the woman in this house hold and you dont want her moving your household furniture around. He is his own man and should let his mom know in a respectful manner i am married now i would appreiate if you stop just meddling in me and my wifes business.

best wishes

Answer 7

She's too demanding, but it's usually the first son..heaven help the older children if they're male...advice? Try to humor her, but if it gets ridiculous, be careful gettting in between mama and her boy...

Answer 8

tell her to get her nose out of your business or tell your husband he has to

Answer 9

I didn't even bother to read your question........ BUT -

Aren't they ALWAYS !!!! That's why they're the M-I-L !