5 year old and lying?

Question

My husband and I are going thru a divorce and recently my 3 year and 5 year spent the weekend with him. My 5 year told me that she slept in a room with the daughter of the woman's house they stayed in and that daddy slept with the little girl's mommy. I asked my ex about it and he said that she is lying. I didn't prompt her to give me any of the details and my friends don't believe she would just flat out say something like that. I believe my daughter but want to make sure this is not normal behaviour for a 5 year to make up something like that without being asked.

Answer 1

Your husband probably did lie. Why ? Because hes sick of your drama. Apparently you really did believe your 5 yr. old and got all jealous and confronted him about it. Finalize it already..hes done with you.

Am I the only one that sees through this question ???

Answer 2

Here's the deal: Kids will be kids. They want attention. They want to have fun. Lying is fun to them. I'm 15 and work at a summer day camp with 5 to 7 year olds. I was sitting with a few kids (2 were 5, one was 7 and 3 were 6) and the 7 year old took the 5 year old's sandwich and ate it. When I asked him why he ate the sandwich, he told me that it was his, not the 5 year old's. The funny thing was, I saw him take the sandwich with my own eyes, so it was a pretty obvious lie. Another time, same 7 year old mentioned above (he was a hassle) insisted that he couldn't get changed for the pond because he was "allergic to the sun". Yet he's out in the pond every other day. But don't mistake a lie for a story.. kids, especially 5 year old's. love to tell stories, most of which aren't true. This one kid likes to make up stories a lot. He once told me one saying his father was in the army, and got his lag blown off. But I see his father everyday, and he has 2 legs. I told him not to joke about that, and he just shrugged. Amazing what little kids will say and do. :)

Answer 3

5 year olds dont have it in them to make up those sort of lies. The don't understand the concept of deliberate deciet and manipulation!
I suggest you confront your ex, and mention that by suggesting she is lying when infact she isn't, will mean she will grow up with no real concept of truth and lies.
Given the situation, look out for changes in your daughter, he may start asking her to keep it a secret from you in future, knowing she cant tell you things will make her feel bad about herself.

My Ex did exactly the same with my little boy, and when he let it slip that he and daddy had stayed somewhere else and I picked up on it, he burst into tears because he was told not to tell me. He felt so so bad and couldnt stop apologising - no child should have to go through it!

Answer 4

Your child is more than likely telling the truth and daddy is a lying skunk but as you are going through a divorce, I suppose he can do what he pleases in the gf department. Its a tad sleazy but thats probably why you are divorcing the moron in the first place! I would not ask him again as he is wriggling out of it by blaming a child - what a prize he is!

Answer 5

Children of this age don't lie about things like that. They might lie about who ate the biscuits tho'. Anyway, the balance of probability is that he slept with this woman, otherwise why sleep at her house? In any case he is very wrong to accuse his small daughter of lying for his own convenience.

Answer 6

trust ur instinct, ur daughter is not lying as she has no gain from it. Just be glad the "scumbag" is outta ur life and you can move on - I agree with xxjanexx, kids make up monsters and fairy's - jeez I have a 3 year old that has a spaceship in the garden and my 6 yr old is gonna fly it to Saturn! That is an imagination, not lies!

Answer 7

No, she is not lying. Why would a little 5 year old make up something like that? She's not even old enough to understand what that means, let alone make it up.

I would definitely give him a piece of my mind. Who takes their little girls to a woman's house to sleep with her, when they aren't even divorced yet? Just be glad you're getting rid of him.

Answer 8

dodgy one this ?? !! Well she coudl be attention seeking , to see how you will react , kids do this its not the end of the world ! However she cuodl be telling you the truth . what you have to ask yourself is why ? Shes probably upset , maybe thinking ohh mum and dad will get back together if mummy freaks out and all is well again in her world and the nasty woman will go away . If shes telling the truth , tell your x to keep it out fo her hair for a while x good luck

Answer 9

Wake up !

Your daughter is telling you the truth and shame on your husband for saying she's lying. This would ring alarm bells for me, seriously - if he's telling you that she's lying what does that say about him.

Trust your little girl. She has nothing to gain by lying about something like this.

Answer 10

She could be lying, but if she is it is because that is what she thinks you want her to tell you. My daughter told many lies to my father, after my parents divorced to make him "happy". Because she knew he was mad at my mother and her telling him things bad about her was what she thought was going to make him happy.
She was only 6 at the time. You would be surprised the things they can come up with. Just make sure you never say anything in front of them about him that isn't nice, because that is why they do things like that.

Answer 11

for your children to say something like that then i dont think your litte ones are lying..... at their age they lie about stuff... silly things like 'i didnt do it' or 'it was him' not detailed things like what they told you.
i presume your ex didnt think the kids would say anything because of them being so young so when you confronted him about it he panicked and just blamed the kids for lying, its an easy option isnt it... don't all kids lie????? not bout things like this they dont but obviously he didnt give that much thought.
i work with children and, u know... they tell little white lies but not really so imaginative to think of daddy sleeping with a woman in her room and them sleeping in someone elses room, if they were gonna lie like a big lie i'm sure it would be more interesting with fairies and monsters and things in.