in bed..It's the most hurtfull feeling I feel so rejected...and now I'm wondering what is wrong with me if he's not interested anymore.
2007-09-12 09:42:43 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Now you know what it feels like. Hurts like hell, right?
What does he do when you turn him down?
And don't hand me that, "Oh I am *always* in the mood. I could do it 9 times a day, every day; I *never* turn him down" bullsh*t.
Do what he does when you turn him down - drink a lot of beer and watch ESPN. It actually does help a bit.
2007-09-12 09:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by filthy_crumb 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
To answer better your question we need to know, how long have you been married? How often you guys have sex? Is he caring and romantic? Does he love you? But don't feel bad, because I'm almost sure that it isn't your fault. He is probably a jerk. If you care for him and would like to try, I am going to give you an idea. Just before he comes home from work, take a shower, put on a sexy piece of lingerie, put a few candles in the room and kill the rest of the lights. Have a chilled bottle of wine and two glasses. If he doesn't get exited with that? Then he must be gay.
2007-09-12 19:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did this happen just once or twice? Ongoing? What else is going on with your relationship or just with him? If it's just been a couple of times- don't stress about it- it's normal for people to not be in the mood sometimes. You might be making a big deal about nothing. So, I wouldn't say anything unless it's been ongoing for a while. Set some time aside- ask when is a good time for him- and try to get it all out in the open.
2007-09-12 17:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by RSJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends why he is turning you down, first of all have you asked him why he is turning you down.
There could be several reasons and some of them could not have anything to do with you. The first then is find out why he is doing what he is doing? Be sensitive first because you or him dont want to get your feelings hurt.
1) He could be experiencing male problems
2) He may not find you attractive anymore ( i dont mean like your ugly or anything) But my wife is a very attractive woman, I mean she is fine but if she comes to be in a scarf or any of that women stuff on her face. I am ok for the night too!
3) If you have gain weight, he needs to understand that he does not look like he did when he first met him.
4) if none of these reasons fit your situation, you need to find out what turns him on. I mean it may be as simple as changing the time you come on to him. If it is too late because he has too work the next try right before you give him dinner. He will build up an apetite.......But most of all talk to him and then if that fails pray to God or as i like to say P.U.S.H. pray until something happens.
2007-09-12 17:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by ronnell1972 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband has done this to me. I just had to face the fact that I have a stronger sex drive than him and masturbate. It's possible that maybe he's not feeling up to it. Is there something going on in his job or friendships or home life that is making him feel stressed out or that questions his masculinity or pride? I have a guy friend that told me once that he got a female boss that made him feel incompetent as a man. Until he dealt with that, he was feeling like he was not going to live up to his wife's expectations, so rather than disappoint her, he chose not to do it at all. I know it hurts to be rejected by your husband, the one person that is supposed to love you and want you no matter what, but he may be hurting too!
I hope you guys work it out.
2007-09-12 17:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by melissa 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Mine used to do that all the time too. We used to do it 3 times a week, and it slowed way down to onces every two weeks. I finally started joking that I need a "boyfriend" to take care of things like that. After a few times of me suggesting I get a little something on the side, he came around.
2007-09-12 18:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by cm_diane2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "OK Honey, if you don't want to have sex then let's talk about it." Men would rather do anything else besides talk about their feelings. ;)
Seriously though, you shouldn't take his rejection to heart. Just like women, men sometimes are just not in the mood, and it could have nothing to do with you. Unless he says you are the problem, or he is acting angry then just let it pass. If it happens a lot then have a serious talk about what the issues could be.
2007-09-12 16:50:57 · answer #7 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Like how many times has he turned you down? Have you ever turned him down? He might be tired, or he has a lot of things on his mind. Don't be so sensitive. Men go through this all the time with their spouse rejecting them. You need to know the reason why he turned you down, talk to him. Also, be creative, maybe you need to spice up your sex moves.
2007-09-12 16:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by MaTriX 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try giving him a sensual massage, in case he is stressed out or tired. If he's a "man" he'll get things going, but you may have to most of the "work" like getting on top, oral, etc.
2007-09-12 16:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by jokat71 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it but welcome to a mans world.
Nothing is wrong with you. It is about him, not you. He is the only one who can tell you why he is saying no. No matter what his reason though, it is his reason and internal to him. To explain. If he say well you gain a whole bunch of weight and I don't find you attractive anymore. That is still about him. He is the one who is having the problem.
2007-09-12 17:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋