i have not been driving for the past 4 weeks and im with a man that wants to marry me but he said he is not going to marry me intil i get over my fear of briges.i have not been on a brige over 5 years i can not live like this anymore tell me please how i can get over this i dont want to be a homebody for the rest of my life
2007-09-12 09:34:14 · 10 answers · asked by lil mama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is known as a "simple phobia" and it is highly treatable through cognitive-behavioral techniques. A competent counselor could help you get over this in 5-7 sessions. I know this because I have a Master's in Psychology and I treated clients with similar phobias before I changed careers. Count yourself lucky -- of all the myriad psychological problems with which one could be afflicted, yours is one of the most treatable.
2007-09-12 09:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.... Gephydrophobia is a lot more common than you think. I had a friend/associate/acquaintence that was terrified of Bridges.
I didn't think it was weird or strange as everybody has something that they're afraid of. Personally i only have two things in the whole world that terrify me! LOL. One of them is drowning.... which doesnt make sense as i can swim very well and i'm not afraid of being in the water.... i'm just absolutely terrified of drowning. It's insane! And i don't know where this fear comes from!
But.... i'd say, in your case.... why not read up on the subject of Gephydrophobia as well as do some reading up on Bridges.... how they're made, and how safe they actually are. This will help you rationalise your fear as you will be able to practically see the fear as illogical.
Buy a book on Bridges (that includes photographs) and read it over viewing the pictures a lot, that gets you used to seeing them a lot. Then ask your boyfriend (or maybe a close friend that you trust that you know wont make fun of you) to cross a bridge with you, even if its only a small foot bridge (thats maybe only a few feet in the air)... start small. Then when you're comfortable with that, go for bigger bridges, eventually driving over longer ones between states. This will be theraputic for you and having someone there who is not afraid of them to support you in that will be very helpful.
You could also talk to a therapist about it (i'm not being rude or insulting) as some of them are trained in being able to help people with certain phobias.
I don't think your fear is so strange (and i dont see why your BF would refuse to marry you just because youre afraid of bridges... that doesnt seem very loving or nice) BUT, maybe you should see this as it's time you got over the fear... as i'm sure it's in some respects very crippling to you. Fear will do that! Good luck with it! I'll be praying for you!
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2007-09-12 16:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Do you live on an island? There has to be something more to it than you're letting on. Anyone who loves a person will not give up the relationship because of 1 little fear like that. It must be one of a million and he's using this one to say "enough" to your fears. Go get some counseling.
P.S. If he will quit on you over that - better give up now - marriage brings much bigger things than fear of bridges!
2007-09-12 16:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by minddancer4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step is admitting you have a problem. After that, take small steps. Go on a peir, or a dock, walk on it little by little, getting used to it. When you're ready try a boat, or maybe a small bridge. And the chance of something going wrong on a bridge is less than the highway, and most drivers are more alert then too.
2007-09-12 16:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you live near on and its one you can walk across try just standing closer a bitt more as often as you can take a ipod player with your favorite song you dont have to stand directly on it but just get close untill you feel comfortable about it keep telling your self you can do it it nothing im brave and i can do this.
P.S if the man love you and want to marry you he shouldnt force you to this he should incourage you to get over it even stand the and hold your hand but not force you.
2007-09-12 18:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by 10tolife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a dumb reason for him not to marry you. Have your wedding reception on the other side of a bridge, then you'll have to go.
2007-09-12 16:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by Introverted extrovert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a psychiatrist.....what started this fear of bridges anyways?
2007-09-12 16:39:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your chances of falling off a bridge are pretty slim. Don't even think about it.
2007-09-12 16:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you learn how to spell bridge, that may help.
2007-09-12 16:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
whatever
2007-09-12 16:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋