I was married once before but I am now divorced and re-engaged. My ex-husband & I were married in my parents living room and I wore a sweater and pants. We were married by the justice of the peace. My husband cheated on me and I never got to have the reception that was supposed to follow that following summer. Now I'm engaged and it is my fiancees first wedding. I never had a wedding shower, bachlorette party, or anything like that for my first wedding. My mom is the only one who doesn't think that I should have a shower, everyone else says that I should cause I didn't get that the first time. Should I get the stuff that I didn't get my first wedding?
2007-09-12 09:28:39 · 21 answers · asked by lovemykids 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A shower should be given by close friends and you should feel free to enjoy it! Perhaps a couples shower!
2007-09-12 09:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by tellme.lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a shower. Your maid of honor can host it for you since your mom is being a party pooper.
Wedding showers have nothing to do with how many times you've been married, anyway. If you are in need of some things to help set up your household without financial strain, have a shower!
Sounds like your first wedding shouldn't even be counted anyway.
Have your party and shower and reception! It's your wedding and this one sounds like the real deal!
Congratulations and good luck!
2007-09-12 09:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should have a wedding shower. I have a friend that just got re-married and she had a wedding shower and a girls night in...instead of a girls night out. :) I don't see anything wrong with having a wedding shower for a 2nd marriage....if you have home decor and furnishings, why not have a personal shower, where you receive soaps, oils, lingerie etc. Those are very fun too!
2007-09-12 09:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by dk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the goal of a shower to GET stuff you missed, or to celebrate the life you are beginning together?
Plus, the bride-to-be doesn't host her own shower. If you are planning a wedding ceremony with guests, your friends and family (or his!) may throw you a shower. Don't ASK them to, but certainly appreciate any gesture. A couples' shower is appropriate, and allows your fiance's family to celebrate with you.
The conditions of your first marriage aren't important -- nor is it whether you got gifts the first time. If your family and friends consider this an event worth celebrating, Celebrate!
2007-09-12 09:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should....I have heard about tradition saying that you shouldn't have a shower for your second wedding, or second baby or whatever....but I Tradition is fading.
Sounds like the first time didn't go so well for you, so Start fresh with the whole shabang...Definately let someone throw you a shower, Good excuse for a party!!
2007-09-12 09:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by amanda m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the two of you don't already live together then you should get a shower. If you do live together then it's not like the two of you are trying to make a home or anything, you already have the stuff you need.
2007-09-12 09:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by I got answers! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason that you shouldn't have a wedding shower. Since you never had one the first time...and it is your fiance's first wedding. I say go for it!
2007-09-12 09:36:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it! Especially since you didn't get it before. Make this one count (hopefully it will be your first and last wedding shower)! Best wishes!
2007-09-12 09:35:25 · answer #8 · answered by Alli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't cheat yourself have a wedding shower, tea, bachlorette party, and anything else you feel like having. I know your mothers opinion matters but this is not your mothers life!
2007-09-12 09:36:26 · answer #9 · answered by ut303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-09-12 09:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by Becky S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋