my boyfriend and i have been goin out for about 9 month and i think we are ready to move on to a more sexual realtionship but i am a virgin and am 14.i dont no what to do becouse am scared in case it hurts or if i dont do it right and make a fool of my self.
i no that he is ready becouse he told me but i am i no i am but i am just worried.also if i get an orgasim what does it feel like becouse some poeple say its good.
2007-09-12 09:24:56 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
At 14 you aren't ready for anything BUT HIGH SCHOOL.
2007-09-12 09:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? The people below are right in saying that you should wait until you are ready to have sex, but maybe you're ready now! If you are old enough to be in a long term relationship and old enough to be responsible about birth control, you're old enough to make your own decision. And everyone that said you couldn't get any pleasure out of it? They clearly don't know what they're talking about. I'm 15, have been in a relationship for 2 years, and I lost my virginity at 14! It was a great experience, and I truly enjoy sex. By the way, I have orgasms all the time
2007-09-14 15:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest I think that you are still to young. then again I think that you should listen to yourself, if you think that you are ready for something that sacred then go for it. before it happens ask yourself am i ready. Do I want to end up pregenant or with an std? I am not trying to scare you but I think that you should consider the consequences. you still have your whole life ahead of you. It would be sad if at fourteen you ended up having aids or pregenant. He will tell you that he loves you but really when a guy loves you he'll wait til you are 100% sure you want to. I was 16 when I did it and now that am 19 we are not even together anymore. Yea it hurts too! and the orgasim just lasts a little. I hope I helped you.
2007-09-12 17:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by CaliGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering your grammar and spelling is atrocious, I'd forgo losing your virginity until you can understand the difference between Know and No.
By the way, 14 is WAY too young to have sex! You're just a kid and you don't want to face the consequences of being pregnant or having an std at 14. Also, boys will always say they are ready for sex, because that's all they want at that age. And about your orgasm question, wont happen with your 14 year old boyfriend. Try when your older, much much much older!!!
2007-09-12 16:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to move onto a more sexual relationship unless you are ready to do what a woman does in this situation, go to a doctor and tell him what you have planned and get the proper information and birth control.
If you can't bring yourself to act like an adult and take care of your sexual health, you are too young to have sex.
Its not a question of age, but of the ability to accept responsibility. Sex has been enjoyed for many years, but most women feel that it takes until a woman is older to enjoy it fully. Few women reach orgasm early in a relationship and you are with a boy who hasn't much experience either.
Your bf has no way of knowing if you are ready, all he knows is that HE is ready, and he wants to, learn early that men want sex and will say or do almost anything to get it.
2007-09-12 16:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you lose your virginity, you can never get it back.
You will not have an orgasm your first time anyway. I can guarantee it. The reason why is because good sex takes practice. Two people who have no experience are not going to enjoy it as much as two people whose bodies are fully developed, have done it enough times to be confident about their own bodies, and know what feels good and are able to explain it to their partner.
An orgasm in itself is great, but it is honestly equal to and no better than the feeling you get from laughing till your sides ache, eating an especially delightful food, or going on a fast, thrilling, ride. However, your first several times will be nothing like that and you will regret losing your virginity for what you had hoped was going to be really special.
Consider the years you have ahead of you. The truth is that once you start you will not stop because you will be seeking to fulfill what you thought sex was supposed to be like. In that amount of time you could wind up pregnant or with a sexually transmitted disease. Are you old enough to deal with either of those things? Please, wait. If your boyfriend really cares about you, he will be content to wait for you. The worst thing that could happen is that you give yourself to him, he loses interest and leaves you and you find out you are pregnant and have herpes. Don't do it. It is NOT worth the risk.
I am speaking from personal experience and I waited till I was 18. I was so dissapointed and felt so guilty that I broke up with my boyfriend. I remember specifically that I felt ripped off, old, and tainted. The beautiful, child-like innocence was gone. Just like that.
2007-09-12 17:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by Cologne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie you are far too young for sex its not legal and you need to wait until you at least 16. You have years ahead of you for all that and it is too risky at your age. You could get pregnant at your age without taking precausions. You can kiss and cuddle and all of that stuff but wait before you go the whole way.
Dont be forced into anything either by a boy you will know when it is the right time and you are ready if you are scared it is not the time to start having sex.
Take care of yourself you are so young and think you yourself.
2007-09-12 16:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know if it is correct what I want to tell you.
I am German and due to German law it is not a crime, but possibly it is different to US.
The problem is, due to better nutrion sex in humans is developping earlier and earlier but --- the intellectual facillties not.
My advice for you --- if you are in doubt --- WAIT.
At the other hand side. I had a friend and he had a sister. She fell in love with a thirteen year old guy when she was thirteen. They had two boys. Today they are 64 and they are still in love.
A true answer nobody is able to give you --- but if you are in doubt --- WAIT. Then you don't loose anything. Remind the first cut is the deepest.
Greetings from Hamburg, Germany
Heinz
2007-09-12 17:00:27 · answer #8 · answered by pinata 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow there, halt, you are a bit too young to even think about having sexual relations. Are you aware that your boyfriend could go to jail for having sex with an under-aged girl. You have to be sixteen . Save your virginity , your pride and having sex at the age of 14 is just not on. Please take care and should the temptation become too much at least use a condom. Remember your boyfriend can go to jail.
2007-09-12 16:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a big step. I would advise you at 14 to not do it. Dating someone for nine months does not ensure that you really know someone. There are a lot of risks you are taking. Ask yourself if this is really the person you want to be with for the rest of your life. Do you really know him? Do you know his family? Do you want to deal with his family for the rest of your life? Also, are you ready for kids? Do you want to have kids with this person? What about your life goals. If you were to become pregnant or contract a disease such as herpes (which is incurrable and most people do not know they carry it) can you deal with that for the rest of your life and put your life plans on hold? Do you know how to properly put a condom on him and yourself? Are you on birth control? Have you talked to your parents about sex? If you attend church, is it in God's will for you to have sex before marriage? If you tell him no you are not ready, will your relationship continue? Are you doing it because you feel like you love him? If you love him and he really loves you he will wait. If the answer is no to any of the questions above, you are not ready?
You are a virgin only once. Once it is gone. It is gone. It is special. That is why guys want to be yout first because you always remember the first. As long as you are a virgin, you are more of a hot commodity than when you are not. You don't want to feel used and old. One more point and I am through. Take two pieces of of notebook paper. Glue them together. For every month you all have dated let the paper dry for that many hours. For you nine. (You can probably glue it together before you go to school). After the time has passed, try to separate the two pieces of paper. When you try to, the paper rips. You can't make the paper whole again like it was and you have a mess. That is what it will be like if you all ever broke up or he cheats on you or hurt you in any kind of way. It will feel like the worst feeling in the world because when a man enters into a woman he deposits part of who he is in you each time you all join. When you all separate, it is like a part of you being ripped away because you all have been joined and parts of him have become a part of you. When you lose part of yourself, who will you be after him?
If you find that you cannot resist, you need to distract yourself with other activities that you love to do. If the only thing you love to do is be with your boyfriend, start doing community service or a career assessment and find out more about the careers that are suitable for you. When you start having those feelings and he is around, call a time out. You don't want to feel pressured into doing anything. You have a bright and successful future ahead of you, don't mess it up because of a fleeting moment of pleasure. And for your information, you will hurt very bad the first time. Stop talking to your friends about it and get the real info on it. Go to the health department for free information. Just make sure you are completely informed before you make the final decision so you will not regret the actions you took.
2007-09-12 16:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by attorney_wilson 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, please reconsider, you are quite young.
A sexual relationship is a very emotional step in a couple's life and should be undertaken by adults, preferrably a newly married couple.
The repercussions of sex will have lifelong emotional effects upon you, i.e., the regret you will feel when you marry and didn't save yourself for your husband. Too, what if your BF all of a sudden tires of you, doesn't call, gives you no answer as to why he won't talk to you? You must respect yourself. He could very well lose any respect he has for you because he knows you didn't respect yourself enough to wait.
STD's and teen pregnancy are to rampant nowadays. Teens think "oh, I won't get in trouble." The fact is, you can get in some type of trouble. What if you come down with an STD? You will have to reveal you had sex in order to get it....and your BF could be long gone, with another girl, and he could give the disease to her. You can prevent that.
Ultimately, the choice is yours and his.
2007-09-12 16:41:16 · answer #11 · answered by ripsgracie 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋