my husband & i are divorcing after 8 years. i worked until our 2nd child was born 6 years ago, staying home to care for what became 3 children. during this time, i began an associates degree when time would allow. my husband was the breadmaker, obviously, $3800 ave / mo. i bring in a $600 each month from an annuity, there's always something from me to contribute to household expenses. we own a house and a car, have a loan on a minivan. He wants: the house; 50/50 visitation (1 wk @ his place, 1 wk @ mine) which would in then turn eliminate his duty of child support if we are both covering expenses on our own while we each have the kids. i'm of course looking for a job. the most i can afford to work till May is 15 hrs, due to full time school (graduate then) & 3 kids. Before he asked for these things, I asked for min. child support, regular visitation incl'd any extra times (we don't have to only stick to the times the judge says) & the house for the kids and the business.
2007-09-12 09:10:25 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
When i graduate, I will start at out at around $10 / hr, due to the industry. We are getting a divorce due to continued infidelity on both sides, constant arguements, not being able to resolve anything at all. yes, have been to counseling.
2007-09-12 09:12:35 · update #1
I will be moving into an apartment.
2007-09-12 09:14:22 · update #2
he's never taken care of the kids full time before. in 8 years. and after he started looking at what taking care of 3 kids involved while working....he offered to pay me extra money to watch them instead of paying a sitter.......????? (i said no, of couse...i would never get "paid" for 'watching' my own kids)
2007-09-12 09:16:41 · update #3
if i add up my annuity, 15 hrs of work and the state's minimun requirements for child support...i can fully afford to get a place of my own, finish school and get a BETTER job AND....here's my thing...just a mom thing, i guess.....i can still spend most of my time with my kids while their dad works his usual 70 + hrs week,. what 's a good agreement?
2007-09-12 09:23:44 · update #4
You are wasting your time here. You are wasting it even more badly by listening to your husband's ideas.
NOBODY but an experienced divorce attorney in your locality can give you any worthwhile advice.
Begin asking your friends for referrals.
2007-09-12 10:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are trying to ask him to cover your expenses - which in my opinion is wrong.
Get a lawyer and try to come to an amicable agreement. In order to care for your children you are going to have to work more than 15 hours a week - that's just reality.
2007-09-12 09:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by Susie D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only a fool would go down this road without a lawyer. A good lawyer can get your husband to pay.
2007-09-12 09:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your lawyer you wish to be comfortable and let the lawyers hash it out.
2007-09-12 09:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by Dionannan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋