asberger syndrome?

Question

has anyone ever herd os someone having severe anger management problems such as always resorting to hitting or kicking when mad when they have Asperger Syndrome?

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28 minutes ago
my husband (29) was just diagnosed with AS. I cant live with him because of the anger management problem. Will it ever get better or should i file for divorce?


The REAL question, will it ever get better? Does our marriage stand a chance?

Answer 1

Yes people with Asperger's can act out like that. Like people with autism (which asperger's is a form of) they tend to act out like that when they get frustrated, which most of the time is caused by sensory issues but can be by other issues as well related to Asperger's. Like when someone with Autism acts out it's suggested to keep track of what happened just before they acted out, you may see a pattern forming and learn if it's a certain thing or two that is causing them to act out.
Good thing is you now you know why he does it. It can get better provided he gets the proper help he needs. One of the best ways you can help is to learn as much about Asperger's in adults as you can, the more you know about it - the more you can help him and how to deal with his behavior. Since he was recently diagnosed with it, I'm assuming you and him both probably don't know a whole lot about it. Perhaps you both could learn about it together. Perhaps look into a local Autism Society Chapter, they can be very helpful when it comes to support, helpful in recommending available resources in your local area, etc. You can also look into Center for Autism and Related Diseases (CARD). If you get your husband into their database and attend an orientation they will come out to your house and help you and your husband with techniques for handling his anger, free of charge. You may also want to look into a type of anger management class. Asperger's is a life long disease, the characteristics of it can improve overtime but will never cure him from it. I would hate to see you through out your marriage without giving him a chance to get help for his condition. Is he willing to get help? If he his, then he needs you more now then he ever did. It will by no means be easy, it will have its up and downs. I think if he's willing to get the help he needs you have got to ask yourself are you willing to at least give it try? Are you strong enough emotionally and mentally to be able to support/help your husband until he improves? Can you get help/support from family members and/or friends? I think only you 2 can really answer the question about your marriage standing a chance. Just keep in mind that if he's willing to get help, there's a light at the end of that tunnel. Good luck =)

Answer 2

There are a lot of different things that go along with Asperger's, including what you've mentioned, though I would expect that type of behavior in younger children. Not to say adults can't act the same way.
If he was diagnosed, he must have had an evaluation by some sort of professional (psychologist?). They should be able to point you in the right direction as far as resources/therapy/options for treatment, etc.
A large part of making your relationship work is both of you understanding what is involved with AS. Now that it's known that there may be a reason for some of his behavior, both of you can learn more about it and work toward treatment (there is no cure, but that isn't a death sentence for relationships with people with AS).

Answer 3

YES!!! lol.
It's mostly something we do when we cannot cope though, try to look at the situations for your husband and think of ways to make it more manageable.
Try to teach him other ways to resort his anger to instead.

Answer 4

One of the difficulties that AS people have is their inability to understand the feelings of other people. They are somewhat egocentric and may completely lack empathy. This isn't their fault. It is up to you to decide if thisis tractable in your husband's case and if it isn't, if you can live with it.