My name is chasity derives from the name chastity- which means unpromiscouis, virginity and chaste- which means pure. I'm a 22 yo virgin saving myself for marriage, I did NOT grow up in a religious family at all. I even scringe at the thought of having sex before marriage. In high school I hated hearing my friends talk about sex because I felt as though they were all spreading themselves thin having sex with different partners before marriage. Anyone else find that ironic? I just realized it like 20 minutes ago.
2007-09-12 09:03:34 · 20 answers · asked by Cherry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ummm i just realized how silly my question sounds, so for the record this is a serious question, lol.
2007-09-12 09:08:59 · update #1
Nikki:
I have Like 10 question marks in my question, if you can't figure out what that means then I don't know what to tell you. Sorry.
2007-09-12 09:19:55 · update #2
I said I cringe at the though of sex BEFORE MARRIAGE, there's a difference between not liking sex at all and not wanting to have sex before I get married. Go back and read my question.
2007-09-12 09:21:37 · update #3
Rodnidl76:
I wouldn't mind if my husband wasn't a virgin when we married, becuase I don't judge anyone, just as long as he respects my wishes. As for as it being "so righteous". That's were you are confused, it's not about religion, I am saving myself because its my decision, not becuase I want to be more righteous or anything.
2007-09-12 09:40:32 · update #4
Nikki, you asked me what was my question and I gave you answer. I don't care what anyone else thinks, I don't build my self esteem off of pixels on a screen. You asked: "What difference does it make?" None, but however, I do ask others opinions out of curiosity and so what it's my life right? And as far as you answering my question, you didn't, but don't even bother.
2007-09-12 09:58:22 · update #5
Gypsy G:
I not very clumpsy, just normally clumpsy.
2007-09-12 10:00:47 · update #6
A lot of fck'n dvmbass people here. Couple of cool ones tho too.
No...it's not weird in the fact that you have chosen to make a personal choice about how you want to conduct your sexual activity in regard to your (future) husband.
It's weird i the sense that it's not what most people do. To be honest most people have a lack of morals and ethics too. But I betting that none of these idiots that have posted thus far run around and scathe people for that. They are right on the bandwagon of proper etiquette when offering their sage and wise advice if one stup!dass cheats on their spouse, but when it comes to someone making a command decision ab out their life and then sincerely asking questions about it they jump all over them like they have the plague.
It's YOUR life miss....you can do with it as you wish. People WILL tell you what's on their mind if you ask, whether you like it or not and they will have no regard for your feelings, or reasons. Most of them cannot or do not have the capacity of looking at such things any deeper than the pixels on the screen.
Thumbs down for me? Who gives a sh!t.....I'm not here for points. I'm speaking my mind and addressing your question.
Carry on with your life as YOU see fit. No one else has to live in your skin except you. You may change your mind back in 20 minutes from now....if you do, then you'll be a flake. Hopefully you are serious about making such a statement in a public forum like this....but again.....truly....it's your life.
I wish you all the best in life and love and hope that whatever path you choose is the one that brings you the most happiness and satisfaction.
If others don't like it....screw'em.
2007-09-12 09:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I don't think it's weird because we're all slightly different but I do wonder why you cringe. If you have a problem with the whole idea of sex, you may need to speak with a therapist because sex is a wonderful gift we've been give in which to enjoy our bodies and become closer with another human being. To miss out on that intimacy would be a shame. There are assexual people in this world who absolutely never desire it. For an assexual to marry a sexual partner would be a horror. Each being prevented from their own fulfillment.
In the old days women abstained from sex because of the possiblity of pregnacy......we no longer have that worry. They were taught men wouldn't respect or want to marry them if they had premarital sex. That was a lie to keep young women from indulging.
Today we are educated and able to protect ourselves. Having sex is part of our culture. It's not bad or immoral unless one partner is married or commited to someone else. It is a natural expression with someone you are very attracted to.
If it's sex that turns you off, that's one thing....if it's trying to be part of a society that no longer exists, you're not gaining anything at all.
Perhaps you can think less about it and just follow your natural instincts to find out your own truth.
2007-09-12 23:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by purplewings123 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 22, something tells me this isn't the first time you realize that your name and being virginal are almost one in the same, but ok. And no, it's not ironic; it's coincidental. It would be ironic if you were a nymphomaniac and your name was chastity. That's irony.
And just wondering...would you want your future husband to be a virgin, too? What is it about "saving yourself for marriage" that you find so righteous? If your future husband saved himself for you, then that would be special.
2007-09-12 09:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by ron-D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I totally respect your choices. As someone who has had sex thousands of times in his life, however, I must take exception to the phrase, "spreading themselves thin". Your terminology implies that sex is a limited resource which can be used up, expended. Nothing could be further from the truth. The more you have sex, the more you immerse yourself in sex, the more you want it.
My wife and I still have a healthy sexual relationship after 21 years of marriage. Before her, I'd had sex with other women. Before me, she'd had sex with other men. Before marriage, we had sex with each other. Your decisions about your chastity are your own, and I respect them completely. However, what seems to work for you is not for everyone -- there are a lot of successful people, like my wife and me, who did not employ your model.
Weird? No. But your ways are not for everyone.
2007-09-12 09:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your decision is weird at all. I think it's a healthy choice, and one that you will be grateful for in the future. There is nothing wrong with wanting to save yourself for marriage. Don't worry about sexual compatibility either-- you don't need to have sex in order to find out if you're compatible with each other. Even if you may not find someone right away, I gaurantee that there is someone out there who feels the same way you do. Don't lower your standards for anyone. It's just not worth it.
2007-09-12 09:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by Laughing_Chick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quite the coincidence... Good for you. Do you want to know how much more special that will make your marraige?! I think it takes a lot of courage to be in your position... saving yourself, like a gift for your future husband. Not only will it make your marraige all the more special, it will make you all the more special to your husband.
And, hey you don't need to be religious, or come from a religious family to have principle, and higher standards for yourself.
“Boys and girls in America have such a sad time together; sophistication demands that they submit to sex immediately without proper preliminary talk. Not courting talk- real straight talk about souls, for life is holy and every moment is precious.”
-kerouac
2007-09-12 09:33:35 · answer #6 · answered by blujello 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not wierd, but like the first poster said, if you cringe about sex now, then you will cringe when you have it.
Soooo when the time comes for you to have sex, you better get over this issue that you have about sex.
It is totally not what you think.
With the right person, it is the most wonderful thing that can happen between two people.
Do not knock it until you try it.
I should know, that is how I have kept my man of fifteen years of marriage, and we have a beautiful daughter!!!!
2007-09-12 09:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-12-26 07:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is weird at all....I think it is admirable. there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to remain a virgin until after your are married. The man that you end up marrying will be one lucky guy!
2007-09-12 09:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
so really, not being mean but what are you asking us? that is your decision. not ours or anyone Else's
yes, and i answered your question to the best of my ability, Weird? Ironic? how are we supposed to know, it is your life and you make those decisions based on your own beliefs. AGAIN that is your decision not ours or anyone Else's!!!! So what difference does it make if we think you are weird or not?
2007-09-12 09:12:48 · answer #10 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋