in some ways relieved because the relationship took a turn for the worse right before we found out I was pregnant. But in other ways I am scared to death of not being with him and having someone else in her life (other parents) advice to get through this please.
2007-09-12 08:54:23 · 16 answers · asked by Heather 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I might not have made this clear but her father is still involved in her life. And to the person that said I chose a jerk to be her father? Did I say he was a jerk? No, just because things didn't work out between the two of does not make him a jerk.
2007-09-12 09:06:35 · update #1
She is three months old...born lol
2007-09-12 10:05:54 · update #2
Enjoy your time with your new baby girl. Be happy that you are not in a relationship with someone who takes your time and energy away for needless arguments. The time is going to fly by fast with your little one, seriously enjoy it!! The first few months of a babies life is soooo important for bonding and security, you have the rest of your life for a relationship but you only have one chance to be a good mommy! It wasn't meant to be with your ex, you'll find another suitable man in all due time! Good luck with that baby girl, your gonna love being a mommy!
2007-09-12 09:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by Aloha Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be a very trying situation. I too went through a similar ordeal only you are blessed in the spirit of finding out sooner that things between you were not going as planned. I suggest continue to allow him in your daughter's life, however if you are certain that the two of you will not be together come to an agreement as to what is expected and how things should be now that you are not with him. Not all men, but some of them cannot grasp this concept and they feel the need to pop up whenever or however with the anticipation that the child is awake 24 hours out of the day. I really hope things do not revolve into a power struggle between the two of you and I offer my blessings to you as I am a single mother who does it all by herself when it comes down to my soon to be three year old. I too was afraid however I placed my Faith in God and I tell you we take it one day at a time being Blessed in any way He see's fit. Good Luck!
2007-09-12 09:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by Deni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel this way and there are days when your uneasy feelings will only get worse. However, it is better for the baby the you split now while she is young and hasn't developed any attachment or even know what is going on. Things could have been worse and she may have had to grow up in an unloving home where the two of you were constantly at each other. Being a single mom is scary, but even if you were married there are no guarantees.
2007-09-12 09:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me answer this question as nice as possibile just recently broke up with your boyfriend who is the father of your three month old daughter right because things turn for the worse. i am not gonna lecture you about having a baby because she is Innocent in this. You made the choice to have a child and he is a good dad and is still involved in her life.
There are pliantly of woman out here raising children on their own you don't have anything to be scared about. your still in love thats all.
best of luck
2007-09-12 09:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt your true feelings when you said you felt relieved. There is no reason to be scared to death. There are plenty of programs out there to help new mothers without a spouse.
I feel your gut feeling is your true feeling and you should stick with that. Any father who bails, is NO FATHER! This way you can teach your daughter your morals and ethics and bring her up in a stable environment. Good luck to you and keep your head high!
2007-09-12 09:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by DebbK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to go to court and get a custody agreement and child support in place.
You need to be the best parent you can be. You choose a jerk to be her father. You need to concentrate on her not anything else.
Do not date for 1 year. Take this time to evaluate yourself so that you do not make the same mistake again.
Good luck and be the best MOM you can be!
2007-09-12 09:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not worry....it'll work out. lots of men do not have a problem with women having children from a previous relationship. most men have children too. if the relationship was bad, then it was bad.....you don't stay in bad relationships because you have kids together...the kids will only witness it and that'll mess them up even more. you did your kid a favor by letting the relationship go. for the childs sake, let the father be involved if he chose to and if it is in a positive way.
2007-09-12 09:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a single parent is hard, I feel your pain but it doesn't mean you have to replace dad with stepdad. I have a fourteen yr old and she never had a stepdad. She had a friend once and the rest of my boyfriends never met her or she never liked them. Focus on what is best for your head and your heart. Your baby needs a strong mother more then she needs a man living under the same roof.
2007-09-12 09:03:06 · answer #8 · answered by ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Wow your interior the comparable boat as i'm different than my fiancee's daughter is 8, we are additionally looking forward to somewhat one. and she or he's in simple terms as undesirable. My purely suggestion is to talk on your boyfriend and make a plan that shows how solid you're as a unit. that's what we've had to do, and now and back it nonetheless does not paintings, along with her mom interior the photograph cuz her mom in simple terms plenty her head crammed with crap and then comes back to us with all of it. My fiancee has tried to sit down down along with her and clarify that a sparkling little it is easy to no longer exchange their courting and that he will nonetheless love her as much as he does now. There fairly isn't tons you're able to do different than stay faraway from her. i've got been dealing with this for the previous year and a nil.5 and that i'm nonetheless at a lose on a thank you to get by way of it. i like her dad with all my heart and that i'm so excited approximately our infant yet she is ruining the entire adventure. So now she isn't allowed to come again to our homestead, he ideas her up some situations a week and spends time along with her, cuz i can't be round her via the docs orders cuz she gets me so under pressure. in simple terms attempt and paintings jointly and in case you hit upon something that works please permit me comprehend, i'm consistently open to techniques
2016-11-15 01:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by riveria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good to be scared, maybe it'll help to make better choices in partners. At least that is what I'm hoping...lol. I fear for my child when it comes to my or her father's future relationships. I don't think that fear ever goes away. If its not fear of choosing a partner that would hurt your child; then it'll be him choosing a partner that would harm her. Once you've both found suitable partners and that fear is gone, there will be other fears to replace that....part of being a parent.
2007-09-12 09:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋