i want to have a baby but my boyfriend doesnt what should i do?

Answer 1

There isn't much you can do. You can't force him to want kids. Decide how important having children is. If it's a priority, you're going to have to break up, move on, and find someone with the same wants and goals in life.

Answer 2

Things to think about:

1. A baby will not make your relationship better or stronger. Pregnancy and child-rearing will put pressure on both of you, and whatever problems existed before will only get worse.

2. A brand-new baby has no ability to love. Loving someone is a learned behavior, not an instinct. So, until your baby learns this from you and those who surround you, you'll be totally responsible for all his or her dependencies - despite the fact that he or she will not be able to convey gratitude for your efforts.

3. Several months ago, a study was conducted among couples raising young children and among those who did not have children. The study found that almost all couples, children or no children, derive more enjoyment and togetherness from sharing household chores than they do from raising babies together. Not that the parents of the group didn't genuinely love and adore their kids...it's just that child-rearing is really hard, complicated work.

If there's some type of void you're trying to fill with a baby before you are both ready, it could be detrimental to your relationship...and very unfair to the child.

Answer 3

I disagree with a previous answer that you received. If your in high school finish definitely! If you want to go to college, go first and have your baby after. It will be a lot easier for you because then you will be able to provide for your baby easier, especially if you end up becoming a single mother.

Besides, if he doesn't want to have a baby, then you can't force him into it. If it is that important to you, then move on and you will end up with someone who wants the same thing that you do.

Also, try to get married first and build a solid foundation for your baby. This will make for a better lifestyle for everyone and eliminate a lot of potential problems, i.e (child support, family court, abandonment by the father).

Remember, good things come to those who wait!

Answer 4

I really don't believe this frame of mind.

You are a young unmarried girl/lady/woman or whatever and want a baby. It is generally accepted in this society that the father shares or totally shoulders the financial burden of raising a child until it is an adult. This boyfriend doesn't want a child. What that really means is he is not ready to commit to supporting a child he does not want for 20 years or so.

If I were this "boyfriend", I would get s far away from you as soon as I could. He does not want (and is probably not ready) to shoulder that responsibility but you want to shove that on him.

Sorry selfish lady. You are not ready for a child either. At least your boyfriend recognizes he is not.

Answer 5

It is your body. If you are already pregnant, no one can force you to not have a baby. Do not play into guilt trips, sob stories, or a flat out denial to care. It will do you no good physically or mentally to be coerced into giving up the life inside you. You will forever regret the decision if it was not yours to make.

If you are not pregnant...Find a man that loves you, has your same ideals and marry him. Then, talk about starting a family. Chances are that if you see eye to eye with your partner from the beginning, a child will feel more like a blessing than a curse (as you current BF sees it).

Never, never, never try to "trap" your partner, or "save" your relationship by having a baby. It just isn't the right reason.

Answer 6

First off if you're in a real relationship, you both should want things. If you're ready for a family and your significant other isn't then the timing isn't right. You can wait until he's ready, or you can choose to find someone else that is ready. Raising a baby is no fun all alone, you need someone that's going to be there for you and your child.

Answer 7

If you are under the age of 20 - don't have a baby. If your boyfriend does not want to have a baby and he is the one who would be the father, then don't do it. You both need to be 100% sure unless you want to be a single mother and change every diaper, feed every meal, be the sole caregiver of this child and figure out how to balance single motherhood and work or go to school.

Answer 8

You have to understand your boyfriend isnt ready for a child... Plus how old are you? How long have you and your boyfriend been together? You should at least wait a while then decide... Have you and your boyfriend even talk about marriage? You need to think about your life other then splurging out that you want a baby...

Answer 9

You should honor his desire, Not to have a baby, or become pregnant by him. If you should decide to get pregnant or have his baby without his blessing, you will be end for a horrible outcome. Getting pregnant or having his baby will surely destroy whatever relationship you two have now.
Be wise, abandon this thought.

Answer 10

do not be stupid!!! do not get pregnant on purpose because it will be another unwanted kid without a father and a mother who cannot or will not provide and care for him properly!!!! finish school,grow up ,go to college and be able to care for and support a baby with a husband who wants to be a father too!!! to get pregnant cause you want a baby to play with is selfish and irresponsible!!! especially since your boyfriend does not want a child!!! do not do it !!!!he will drop you like a bad habit!!!