Is the best part of your life over? Is it all now down hill?

Question

I feel the best part of my life is already over. I am sure it was a few years ago. I aint complaining thats just the way it is. I have memories but nothing better to look foward to.

How do you feel?

I honestly feel that that moment has past. As I said I am NOT complaining!!! Thats just the way life is and now I suppose I can just enjoy what I have left and make the best of it..

Answer 1

I feel the same way you do; like you I try to be positive and make the best of my diminished circumstances. I notice other posters seem to think you're not working hard enough at having fun or being positive enough. Well, even if you try to meet new people and do new things, count your blessings every day, and live in the wonderful now...some people, just by the law of averages, will have their best years in the past. One can be hopeful that this is not true, but peace of mind can also come from facing reality.

Answer 2

Verdi wrote one of the greatest operas ever while in his 80s.

I'm a Viet Nam vet. When in my twenties I had plays I had written produced. Had stories published. Had many adventures along the way. Been there, done that, so to speak by the time I was thirty. Then got married, raised a daughter myself. Put away the writing to focus on raising her. Kept normal jobs to receive steady income until she was grown.

Then I started my life over again after she finished school. I didn't even seriously start painting until a few years ago.

http://pics.livejournal.com/unmired/gallery/00002xgc

I put aside the serious writing for fifteen years, then started my life over again. Two days ago I wrote this poem:

http://unmired.livejournal.com/:

The point I'm making is that there is no such thing as the best part of our lives. You have the ability to make the rest of your life the best years of your life.

You only need two things to make this happen: The belief that it's possible and the desire to do so. You don't have to be some kind of writer or artist. You could teach and share your knowledge. You can become a missionary and help thousands of needy children or reach just one lonely person. You can raise money that will benefit mankind or help Jimmy Carter build houses for the poor.

Or you can just sit back. It's your call!

In either case whatever you choose is right in it's own way.

Answer 3

Life is as good or as bad as you feel and think at each moment you live it.

The best parts are yet to come as long as you do not give up. You are continually gaining life experiences, all of which if analyzed, can be used to make future events better than they could/would be without the benefit of life experience.

That's why you love more and better as you get older. The "love" you feel for a high school crush is nothing compared to that which you feel as you get older. You learn and experience so many things, that conitnually influence your outlook on life.

You may think there is nothing to look forward too...but it's probably because you stopped striving to make yourself better or do different and interesting things...meet new people...whatever.

Life never stops..only people do..and they do so because they choose to, not because they are forced to. Free will can be a .

Answer 4

I don't know how old you are but I'm in my 40's and my life has never been better. I have some minor health issues but they're in check. I'm in a water aerobics class and there are women who are in their 60's and 70's and they're going strong and having fun. I really enjoy their company!!!! When I was younger I had alot of trouble with depression and, like you, thought that my best years were past. I'm happily surprised to see that I was VERY wrong. Not only has life gotten better I think that the best is yet to come. I hope that you'll find the same thing too :)

Answer 5

I certainly hope not. The only way the best part of my life will be over is when I'm dead. Even though you may feel you have nothing better to look forward to doesn't mean there is nothing more or there never will be.

Answer 6

We never know what the future will bring to us and how well we can live the days to come is yet to be seen and depends much on how much we want to make out of each day.
The same way you can make a good day become your best or turn it into a bad one, you can make steps of your life be memorable or just let each day go by and waste your time.

Destiny is what we make it.

Answer 7

People who place their values in more temporal things will find happiness to be fleeting. For example, the procrastinator has fun today, but loses everything tomorrow.

Those who place their values more fundamentally and define themselves as more transcendental they will be able to achieve a longer-lived happiness.

For example, if you think of yourself as only the person you are today, then you will lose that all tomorrow. If you define yourself as the person who lives a single lifespan with a name, then you will lose it all after one lifespan and your happiness will be fleeting in that way.

However, if you place your values in more transcendental things and define yourself as such, then you can also transcend the day-to-day or life-to-life changes in the world. For example, many people love their children so much that they view their children as a part of themselves, and in that way such people live on through their children.

In summary, you may have passed the best part of your life, depending on how you define "you" and how "you" place your values.

Answer 8

Life is too short to think like that. I take each day with stride and thank God for Life and a new day with heart ache and problems so i can be proud of what i have achieved during that particular day.

Answer 9

I won't lie to you.. old age is pretty brutal. After age 30, the rate of decomposition really starts to pick up. Your mind can remain sharp for quite a while after that, but eventually it starts to shut down too.

The benefit of being an old geezer (over 30) is having some wealth of life experience under your belt. Make the most of your knowledge and try to keep the learning process going until senility starts to set it.

Answer 10

If this Q were asked in the beauty section, i would say yes. But you have asked it in the philosophy section. So i say no. Here we always move uphill. We experience, ask questions about them an grow and grow. Your question shows you are thinking, so you are moving uphill. That's why you feel heavy while moving. Change your perspective, you would move more smoothly.