How is it a mystery?
2007-09-12 07:36:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Love is very mysterious in and of itself. Additionally, sex can also be very confusing, especially from a first-hand point-of-view. Unsurprisingly, the so-called connection between love and sex is also a confusing mystery.
The main problem exists in the fact that both sex and love are evolutionarily gained function that existed in a primitive form in our more primitive days. We desired and liked sex to reproduce and thus continue our species survival. Then, we desired to stay with each other (in a "loving" way) as to take care of each other and the offspring, which thus helped continue our species.
Civilized society has given has refined sex and love, but they are still made up of a lot of primitive feelings and instincts.
We have the power to overcome sex and love (just as we can overcome many primitive feelings and instincts), and in many cases we have our civilized psychology makes us want to overcome our desire for sex and love, or use them differently.
Many people want the pleasure of sex without the commitment of love. Some people fall in love but don't want to engage in sex. However, even when we don't want to, it's hard to fight the natural feelings of love (such as feelings of jealousy and possessiveness) that come with sex and the the sexual urges that come with falling in love.
Also, modern etiquette and behavior causes people to hide their feelings for sex and/or love. For example, we wouldn't tell a person that we think we love them on the first date--even if we had sex with the person. Even when two people are both interested in each other sexually, it is usually considered inappropriate to mention sex. For example, singles at bars might ask one another if they want to come over for "coffee" or such. All the duplicity and fakeness adds to the mystery.
There are many books written about these mysterious things known as sex and love. Love and sex are some of the most major issues addressed in sociology, psychology, and other similar sciences.
2007-09-12 09:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by knowalotlearnalot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words bias out thoughts. For some, the two words may mean the same thing, and the mystery is why is everything associated with it so prissy and hypocritical?
On the other hand, the "prissy" side wonders about the mystery of the crassy side being so banal about it when the presentation can be definitely be done better.
Slab of meat with hairs still attached, vs chateaubriand filet mignon.
2007-09-12 15:38:20 · answer #2 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a mystery because it's about how to negotiate the landscape of relationships... I had a friend of mine in high school sum it up like this:
"Women give sex to get love, Men give love to get sex..."
Not sure how much truth there is in this, but it's definetly quote worthy...
2007-09-12 14:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by reverendlovejoy75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some folks have a functional, ego-driven understanding of human sexuality in which it exists simply as a means of personal gratification. Love takes the sexual relationship deeper, and relates it to the profundity of giving oneself to another person as a gift, rather than imposing oneself on another as means towards the mere gratification of bestial desire.
2007-09-12 15:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by Timaeus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only mystery is why some people believe there is a connection------------ the two are quite separate.
2007-09-12 14:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by JOHN Turland--------Jonty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋