should you distance yourself from people like this? or how is there another way to deal with it?
2007-09-12 07:01:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Explain what's going on in your perception.
Lay it all out so they understand you don't agree with them. Do NOT say something like "no I don't feel the same as you" and ignore them, just that simply. It won't work and you'll end up leading them on.
Explain "Well, I find you to be extremely overwhelming. I don't agree with the things that you say, and I do think we are 2 very different people leading very different lives."
If they do not back off, then go on to say things like "Want me to call your mother/father/police and tell them to tell you to leave me alone? What will it take?"
Be honest and be firm. Some people simply will not let up until a consequence is clearly drawn.
2007-09-12 07:14:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a dangerous situation 4 u and 4 the person in ? you need 2 try 2 slowly distance yourself w/o 2 many emotional episodes... that is when suicides, second-degree murders and murder-suicides take place: during emotional crises
so try to avoid this person when they are experiencing highs or lows in their mood. i have had the same problem all my life, and i have recently faced the fact that because my abusive step-father obsessed on me for 13 yrs., i was actually seeking that kind of attention subconsciously and choosing distinctly obsessive/compulsive personality types as partners
u know that u r "loved" when someone is obsessed with you...i guess that's why we let it go on so long- but it is not real or healthy love at all!!!
and i think you need to be free to find your soulmate i know she's out there somewhere that has a star-filled desert sky
slowly revolving through the spring nights...
hey, don't ask me where that last part came from... that happens some times, and that's exactly what i saw in my mind 4 u
luck love and peace
2007-09-12 10:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Anyone who wants to be your friend should be given a chance. "Obsession" is a word that's used so loosely. If you're uncomfortable, be firm but friendly. Someone who has high hopes for who they think you are would feel terrible if you simply distance yourself. Set clear boundaries.
2007-09-12 07:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lovey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend is like that too! She is trying to become a vampire. She even said that she glows in the sun and that she doesn't like being in it. It gets kind of annoying. I just set it to her straight. TWILIGHT IS JUST A FICTIONAL BOOK! I told her that its okay to be a fan of twilight. What I would do is I would talk to your friend about how its all fiction or I would just get her into other kinds of things. I was once a huge Twilight fan but then I explored other things and read other kinds of books. Hoped I helped. :)
2016-05-17 22:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by marilyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the easiest way to deal, is to first put yourself in their shoes...and ask yourself, have you ever felt that way...be careful not to hurt them,..they might just be very very lonely also,..and just looking desparately to relate to someone they percieve might understand...remember your own feelings and tread gently my friend...you can let someone down gently, if you want to let them go..you just might find you have a good friend there, that you let go.
2007-09-12 10:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Avoid them and ignore them. If they persist be mean to them, if they still don't get the picture, get a restraining order against them.
2007-09-12 07:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to leave you alone and then stay away from them.
2007-09-12 07:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay away!
2007-09-12 07:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u ****** cuse them out
2007-09-12 07:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋