And what are you doing about it? Or have done about it? To resolve your situations?
2007-09-12 06:09:59 · 7 answers · asked by StoneCold 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Tera, and Centreofinfinity, Good for you. Surviving and Getting out, and finding someone who truly treats you well. Kitty I assume you got out of yours, and the same good has came your way. So this comment is for you too.
holy d - Some people assume that one gender or the other is being asked. I wanted to make it clear that both were.
swamy - Seems to me people go on talk shows all the time, and discuss such issues. Hundreds of millions of people watch or listen to those. So why would this forum be any different? I wouldn't know who they all are here. But on television talk shows... I'm more apt to recognize them on the streets afterwards. Still they would get a congrats from me for surviving, and getting out. Or staying and resolving the issue through therapy for a happier outcome for them.
I have had friends, anf family members who have been in them, and Are in them. Even my advice, or concern holds no water when it comes to their safety.
2007-09-12 07:04:20 · update #1
So I wonder how your advice, and concern would fair?
2007-09-12 07:05:31 · update #2
To add... swamy, where I come from there in no shame in talking about anything one wants to discuss or share with others. It's called Social Connectedness. And I didn't learn that through my family. That was through the many friends, who were, and are my gifts, I've made throughout my life, and continue to. If you can only discuss things privately, and not out in the open with differing sets of people... then I feel sad for you, yet not condemning you either. I'm not in an abusive relationship. Just know people who are. And am glad that we all can discuss the issues in the open anywhere, day or night. At least with me, they know they have someone who truly cares about their well being, and will listen, and respond if they need me to or want me to. And I don't need paid for that. Cause their will to survive, and get out, or move on with their current relationships to a healthier resolve is payment enough for me.
2007-09-12 07:25:00 · update #3
holy d - to add there are boys, and girls on here too. Ages 13 and up. They too go through these things of abuse in relationships. Be those from family members, friends, other kids, and they deserve to be heard too don't you think? So your attempt at your joke, if it was one, sucked. OK.
2007-09-12 07:49:39 · update #4
I was in an abusive relationship for 15 years. I almost was killed trying to get out of it. To tell you all the details I would have to write a novel, and seriously, I think I may just do that someday. Right now my life is better. I am finally free. I'm back in school and getting a degree in psychology and counseling, so I can hopefully help others who are in similar situations. I feel lucky to be alive. I am grateful for the chance to start over again. It took a lot of therapy, and a lot of healing to get where I am today. I have a faith in God that I didn't have before. I have a deep understanding of human behavior. I hold no hate in my heart toward the one who caused me so much pain. I know now where my responsibility lies, and I'm doing what I can to make the lives of my children happier and more emotionally and psychologically healthier. I'm a different person than I was five years ago. I thought (back then) that I was weak. I know now that I am strong.
2007-09-12 06:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think men suffer greatly from the masculine myth that being a man means having control of a woman and that limits their view of abusive circumstances. If a woman physically abuses a man, I guess he'd recognize that. But what about other abuses, like women who use men for their money in exchange for the promise of sex? Or wives who will only work part time and only use their salary on themselves without contributing to the household? Or women who continually browbeat their men and degrade them verbally? Or decorate the house in purely feminine taste?
2016-04-04 17:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in my youth.
I am well out of it now, thank goodness.
What did I do to resolve it? Well, I have to confess that it was my current beloved that SAVED me from MYSELF.
I once wrote in a letter to him (he lived on the other side of the world to me when we met) give me a man who beats me any day, THAT I CAN HANDLE, this (LOVE) I cant.
It was actually a GOOD thing that he lived on the other side of the world to me at the time, if he had lived in my own city I would probably have RUN AWAY as fast as I could. *grin*
comfort zones are funny things. We get COMFORTABLE being treated badly, because it matches what we FEEL inside. He had to work hard on getting me to FEEL worth of his LOVE. (still a work in progress if I am honest about it, but i am getting there *grin*) Amazing what a little love can do. Well OK a LOT of love. *wink*
2007-09-12 06:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want people to open out such confidential matters in such forums?
2007-09-12 06:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Swamy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
msg me if you like.
I've not been in a real abusive relationship, just lived with a guy who had abusive tendancies.
2007-09-12 06:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jeska J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for men and women. who else do you think you'd be talking to on here?
2007-09-12 06:18:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not me thank god
2007-09-12 06:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by sweet84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋