I belive my boyfriend might be gay. Everytime i meet his friends they seem to have gay ways. I ask him if he was but he denise it.
2007-09-12 06:04:54 · 32 answers · asked by Brandy J 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First of all Brandy J always go with that gut feeling...He might be gay but chances are something is going on..Why would he have so many gay friends? I think it's something he maybe having a hard time dealing with and having you as the token girlfriend means he can't be gay...It's something he needs to come to terms with and you need to protect your own feelings...but like I said it's best to go with your gut feeling...
2007-09-12 06:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by FunnyBoy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's interesting that I've never heard this type of question the other way around- as in, a guy worrying that his boyfriend might be secretly straight because he hangs around with straight-acting friends. Think of it this way... if he does have close friends that are gay, then he'd be a lot less likely to feel the need to hide his own sexuality. No way to know for sure from this information, but closeted gay guys tend to be paranoid, so I'd be A LOT more suspicious of a "straight" guy that says derogatory things about gays or avoids being around guys that have "gay ways".
2007-09-12 06:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by kena2mi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for us straight women out there, we are in some VERY troubled times, sweetheart! It seems men these days are converting in DROVES, and it's only getting WORSE. The gay-happy media is perpetuating the notion that they should all just 'come OUT' and be 'themselves' and not 'live a LIE'!!! The so-called 'lie', of course, meaning that they can actually love and desire a WOMAN. As a result, more and more of us perfectly wonderful women are being rejected in favor of the gay 'LIFESTYLE'!!!!!!
I'm sorry to say this, but you have only two choices, and neither is good. You can either stay with the man you have and continue to play second-fiddle to his ***** 'friends' until he actually admits what's REALLY going on or else just dumps you for one of them without ever explaining why - OR - you can dump HIM first, and find a new boyfriend who will most likely be more into men as well!
NOT a pretty picture for us STRAIGHT gals, IS it???!?!
2007-09-12 08:46:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have absolutely nothing to be worried about. Supporting equality or having friends does not make somebody gay, being sexually attracted to the same gender does. Secondly, for your boyfriend to be gay and dating a woman, he would need to be extremely closeted. People that far in the closet tend to avoid doing anything that would make them seem gay. Instead, it seems like he is a straight (or maybe bi, who knows?) man who is not particularly worried about how doing what he perceives to be the right thing affects his image. You should consider yourself incredibly lucky to have a guy like that. And if you don't appreciate him, be careful, those activist bi girls he probably hangs out with are hot and could snatch him up at any moment!
2016-03-18 04:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be comfortable enough with his sexuality to play around with his friends in so called gay ways.
He could also be bi.
You might suggest a threesome and after he agrees, bring another guy into the mix. If he stands up and says whoa, I thought you were bringing another girl into it, Than he probably isn't very gay. Of course threesomes have a nasty habbit of breaking up relationships, but it apears as if your relationship is already on the way out due to your issues of trust, or suspicion of Homosexuality.
2007-09-12 06:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by Squirrel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who cares? Are you married to him? I mean, come on, just let him be him. And ask him in a polite friendly way. Don't sit there and be a judgementle B***h, only because you don't know. If you are sitting there talking to all of us about this, then that is really a problem beyond whether or not your "Man" is gay.
2007-09-12 08:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have asked him and he says he isn't, then maybe he isn't or he isn't ready to tell you.
It is a very hard decision for some to make whether or not to "come out."
Maybe you should ask he how he feels about you, and where does he see your relationship going?
But you should let him know you will be there for him, if he really is gay.
2007-09-12 06:10:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll never be happy in a relationship with a gay man. Let him go.
2007-09-12 06:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might like it, just use condoms if you two need to. It wouldn't be like a conventional relationship but you might like it better. You just have to learn to share him with his men. If in fact he is Gay.
2007-09-12 12:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as a "gay way," so unless you've watched him have sex with these guys (lol) or possibly comment that some guy turns him on, you've seen no evidence of him being gay.
Since you asked him and he denies it, there's really nothing more you can do. Unless you catch him cheating on you or something, it's not worth making a fuss over.
2007-09-12 06:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋