how can a negative minded person see more positively in things n people that is around him?

Question

its like everything that he seen is negative and sad.like even a happy event is being seen as sad one.

Answer 1

You've asked a good question, A K. There is so much that can be written in answer to your question (pages worth!). To begin, it's important to decipher why the negative thinking is taking place. Long-term depression? A particular situation that precipitated it? Home or work environment? Relationship (s)? All sorts of factors can be at play here.

Why don't you try this and see if it works for you. If this is meant for someone else, then pass it on. Instead of identifying yourself as a negative minded person, try to understand that your thoughts are NOT you. They are mental states that occur within you and are always changing. Believe it or not, if you were to really take the time to observe your thoughts, you would soon find out that not all of them are negative ones. Too often we identify who we are based on our feelings or thoughts (e.g "I am sad" rather than "I feel sad").

When a person is depressed, especially if it ongoing, it is very difficult for them to see the positive in things. In this case, they might want to seek professional help (medications being the last resort).

Whether the negative-mindedness is due to clinical depression, the blues or something else, there are a number of things you can do to change this negativity. You can make a list of healthy things you like to do, and start doing them. Getting out for a nice refreshing walk can do wonders for your state of mind. So can eating healthy foods (each meal should consist of a good source of protein, complex carbs, fruits, veggies). Get adequate sleep. Avoid alcohol and drugs (many act as depressants). Mind and body are so interconnected.

If you're out walking notice any negative thoughts that might come up (e.g. mentally criticizing the person walking toward you). Acknowledge the thought by labelling "judging" or whatever other label applies. Do the same with other thoughts and feelings. By doing so, you begin to change the way your mind sees these things, because you are not coming from a place of either strongly identifying with or reacting to them. Studies have shown that new neural pathways in the brain are formed when we consciously and repeatedly incorporate what has just been suggested. The same thing happens when we learn to play a new muscial instrument. The new way you think and and respond to things literally creates lasting changes in your brain!

By beginning to accept the moment for what it is, you understand that the negative mind states are not permanent; they are always changing; they are not solid. If you don't feed into them by either pushing them away or identifying with them, then they can't take over. You've given these mind states no ground to stand on.

Also, reframe negative thoughts, once you've ackowledged and accepted these thoughts. For example, if you're thinking "It's raining outside. It's going to be a lousy day.", try replacing this thought with "It's raining outside. Rain is cleansing and nourishing. I am a survivor. Think I'll go get my umbrella and go for a walk."

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. Your concern for either your own situation or someone else, shows that you care. Good for you.

Answer 2

This accidental simplification of reality occurs because conventional personality gathers more esteem at the expense of nature. A mind overcomes this simplification when it has not only the self to contend with, but the grand scope of nature, which easily swallows up synthetics that appear out of context.

Unfortunately the conventional personality will often win the prize so eagerly sought after, the esteem of others. Since I am not one requiring or desiring this prize, I can only stand by, bemused, when some such person acts contrary to the rule and attempts to affix the "negative person" label on my forehead.

Other human beings will continue to be depthless apparitions for you if you make no effort to overcome the superficial practice.

Answer 3

Counseling could help a lot, a psychologyst would be able to find the way to give her self confidence, because i think this is the major problem to her. On the other hand, you have to encourage her, give her compliments whenever she deserves them and encourage everyone else to do it, notice all the good things about her and say it out loud. She will slowly come to realise she can be proud of herself, she will start gaining self estime and some courage in her relation to others. Things can only change if she wants things to change, otherwise any effort you would do is in vain

Answer 4

Here is a good quote. "Do not go where the path may lead, Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"

Answer 5

Why do you care? You cannot change others. You are wasting your time. It is what it is.

Answer 6

Don't bother, he is probably very comfortable with his misery. It makes him happy.