Ok I just got a very great job and i love the idea of my job but i dont get along with anyone that works with me. I have tried to make small talk and just dont have anything in common with these people, They talk amoung themselves and exclude me from everything, conversations, outings, everything. I have been working there for 2 months and its getting to the point where I am becoming depressed and insecure about myself as a person. i have never gone throught this before i am always a very outgoing person and make friends very easily. I dont want to quit because of the bills i have to pay and also because of the eduation that my job provides me with but its getting so hard, and i know its me because even a girlt hat started after me fit in very well and is included in everything. I really need some advice about this,
thank you so much
2007-09-12 05:33:37 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Start one-on-one. Instead of trying to befriend everyone through small talk, e-mail one person who strikes you as friendly and invite her to lunch or coffee one day. Be specific - say "Hi Jessica, let's do lunch this week. I know a great deli down the street. Does Tuesday or Thursday work for you?" Then do it again with others until you've gotten to know them on a more personal basis.
Next time someone new starts, take him/her out to lunch on his/her first day. It's a great way to welcome someone and get to know people in your office.
2007-09-12 05:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
have you tried to start a conversation w/any of them or ask them if they want to go out for dinner or drinks after work? Does your company have teams or work sponsored activities where you can mingle in a more relaxed social setting? All it takes is finding common ground w/1 person to be welcomed. Maybe it's not you but the reason or job you were hired for. If any of them resent you're having been hired due to some internal thing w/the company then no matter who took your position it would be the same. If you like the job then make it a point to learn as much as possible & do a good job so that you can get out of there sooner if you're that miserable about your co workers. you can't do anything about their attitudes so worry about yourself
2007-09-12 05:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by all4equines 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Prayer changes things!
People like donuts from the local donut shop.
If it's a no-win situation, and you need to find another job, make sure you accept a job offer from some other company, with a firm start date, before you give your notice there.
2007-09-12 05:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by zeal4him 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
BEEN THERE!
It is Exactly the same for me!
BUT LISTEN!!!,..........
I FINALLY came to the conclusion that I LOVE ME--I LIKE me, too, and I just entertain the daylights out of myself.
I prayed to just be relaxed , and funny, because my feelings were getting hurt SO badly and SO much---
I decided to give them attention--LOVING attention that is----
and offer myself to them --or I do things for them.
ANDI SMILE AT THEM--
They are still hard to communicate with, but they at least pay a little more attention to me.
Too bad for them if they don't like me--'cos I like me--and God LOVES ME!
2007-09-12 05:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen to their jargon and then find someone that speaks your jargon and make a friend as every thing starts with just one person and good Luck and You will make it .
2007-09-12 05:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the commencing up, I stated to myself I dont be attentive to a thank you to respond to this, then examining the different solutions....& gall thats twisted up. everyone needs to like to flow to paintings and love being there, and perfect now thats not the way you experience. I sympathize with you and have wish that it's going to get extra perfect you are able to in straightforward terms administration the way you attitude is in direction of your atmosphere, so attempt to flow into your total day with a grin on your face and your heart interior of you. dont enable your atmosphere to electrify you save smiling regardless of if in straightforward terms on the interior and then people who're receptive to it God bless em, people who do not acquire you properly...then shake them off and save working and save smiling interior. reliable luck & God Bless
2016-10-10 10:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋