ok. so, it was my mates birthday and 2 celabrate a lot of us went to a night club. i don't want 2 go into details because it's 2 embarrasing but basically a fight broke out and i got kicked in the balls. and it HURT sooo bad. i can't explain how bad it hurt! but it was the worst pain i've ever felt! anyway the point is because it hurt so much i was on the floor crying. and it wasnt just a few tears either (enough said)
well it was infront of a night club full of people. fit girls and all. and now i'm really embarassed about it. i don't ever want 2 leave the house again. i kind of had a reputation as being "hard" now what is everyone going 2 think of me. i can't fave anyone. i don't even want 2 answer my phone. it was bad enough my family finding out. it's like everyone knows. im so embarrassed. how do i get over it? please don't reply with stupid answers because i don't want 2 be made 2 feel any worse then what i am at the moment
2007-09-12 05:19:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Have you considered moving?
2007-09-12 05:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You go about your normal life, and show CONFIDENCE. Smile an 'aw shucks' smile, and let them make their comments. Don't ramble or defend or explain anything.
The way to regain your respect is to be out there like normal. The longer you 'hide' the worse it is. The key is act like nothing happened too much, and it will blow over.
It's when you address things and talk about them endlessly, that they continue to have importance. Play it down, let them comment, and if you don't answer, they can't carry on a conversation about it. Joke or smile back, and let it go.
They may be expecting a big conversation. Don't show embarassment, just stand straight, look them in the eye, be honest that heck yeah it hurt, but joke a little - like real men can take the licking and keep on ticking or something. Or no permanent damage done, etc.
Then change the subject. You control the conversation.
Hold your head high. It made seem odd, but think of celebrities or politicians that have done really embarassing things, and the ones that handled it by hiding or defending got further brutalized in the media, but the ones who came right out, joked about it lightly but stayed humble, and it blew over quickly.
Hugh Grant for example, went on Jay Leno, joked about it, and actually defused the turmoil right away; he showed confidence, and it made him look human.
Just a thought. Also, having a rep of being 'hard' is not a healthy thing. That sets you up to a standard, and people do see you as 'falling' farther than others when something like this happens. I woudn't encourage that reputation if I were you.
Be strong but sensitive, which is perceived as smart. Especially to girls. Shows you have a good balance and are stable. Too 'hard' shows insecurity.
For what it's worth. Good luck to you!
2007-09-12 05:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Marie123 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you know that ANY MAN who is 'kicked in the balls' would react in EXACTLY THE SAME WAY? Yes, you may be embarrassed ... but those calls you don't want to answer, or the knock on the door could be someone who 'really feels sorry for your pain' and could HELP YOU feel better. So ... answer your phone, and your door. Go outside and take a deep breath ... and 'stop to smell the roses' ... maybe your getting 'kicked' was a 'wake up call' for you ... so don't be 'so hard' that you feel you must 'hide your pain' ... reach out your hand, and someone will be there to reach out too ... and THAT is what this 'reverse psychology' moment was really about!
2007-09-12 05:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know how to fight and think you have the better of it in a fight, then just keep being confident like you were before. Maybe the guy that kicked you there just got lucky, it happens. Also remember that probably not as many people know who you are as you think do. And those who do know who you are care a lot less about this incident than you do. Embarrassing things happen but they are not as big of a deal as we think they are.
2007-09-12 05:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by Nikolas M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every man will cry if hurt in this area. Most men will become tearful at the mere thought of being hit in this area so rest assured, you will have every male's sympathy.
As for the girls, most like to see that a man is able to show his emotions. Men often struggle in this regard and that is why they will frequently have trouble in relationships.
You can score a real hit with the girls by just stating how debilitating it truly was and that they shouldn't hesitate to adopt this method of self defence against a male attacker.
In other words, don't try to be brave about it, there is no need. We all know it hurts and thats why it is actually taught at self defence classes.
2007-09-12 05:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you'll get more sympathy than ridicule. There's not a male alive that doesn't value his family jewels above all other possessions!
Laugh at yourself and the world laughs with you, they say.
Typically, you throw up, too. And swell up like a grapefruit. Hope you're starting to feel better, at least physically.
Ignore any taunts and promise to wear a cup the next time you get into a pub brawl!
2007-09-12 05:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Any way forget all about. Use your conscience, don' t lead life the way other wants. Their aim was to embarrassed you and they did, after the incident you are just boosting their confident to repeat the same. Come and enjoy life. This world is very big . Life doesn't ends with one such incident. My dear friend mind it nobody is going to cry with you. Have a faith in yourself , laugh and you will find more and more lovely friends waiting for you.
2007-09-12 05:45:54 · answer #7 · answered by bihariraja 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Getting hurt in that area is not going to kill you. In fact, the pain will pass and so will the embarrassment. Be bold. You havent lost your manhood..
2007-09-16 02:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by avsubbarao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being kicked in the nuts is a very legit reason to cry and people will understand. ive been punched and hit with a 60 mph baseball (no cup) and it felt like a hammer. anyways the guy who kicked you sdhould be embaressed for being a p-
ussy.
2007-09-12 05:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by call the owls 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ow dude the same thing happened to me, nobody will think less of you because that is the most sensetive area on the human male
2007-09-12 06:56:03 · answer #10 · answered by Scott 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure most people will my sympathetic to your problem, especially the guys. I'm sure a few jokes will be made about it. Laugh them off and then change the subject.
2007-09-12 05:24:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋